My grandparetns split up about 4 years ago. (grandpa having an affair at 72) My grandmother now lives with us but still despises him. My 21st is coming up and am having a big party at my house and want them there. I know if i invite grandpa he will com but my granny will crack it and not come. What should i do?
2006-12-14 15:28:39 · 10 answers · asked by ce_ben1 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Explain to your grandmother that you wish for both of them to be there and that it would be the best birthday gift she could give you if she could be there and be civil to him, for your sake. Tell her you understand it will be hard considering the circumstances but you really want BOTH of them there.
2006-12-14 15:31:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know there will be problems, not should not go. But if their willing to attend your 21st they should behave. But wow grandpa having an affair at 72!
2006-12-14 23:31:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't really have an answer to that other than they should set aside their differences to be with you on your 21st. They should feel honored that you want them both there. It's not fair to you to only have one of them on your birthday because of their problems. So, I guess what I'm saying is they need to do something rather than you. Maybe you can talk to them about it seperately one at a time & explain how you feel & that you want them BOTH there. Good luck~
2006-12-14 23:32:08 · answer #3 · answered by Jaysangl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's tough. but who's birthday is it? Isn't the point of the party to celebrate you? Sometimes pride gets in the way of family and friends who really love and care about each other. Be up front with - tell them both that the other one is coming, but leave it up to them to come. Happy Birthday
2006-12-15 00:02:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well base on your story, there's no way right now for you to get them along. you have to choose between the two of them or if you want to just invite your grandma and pay a visit to your grandpa and take him out...that's probably the best way you can enjoy both their companies.
2006-12-14 23:34:54 · answer #5 · answered by diana 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell them that for the sake of you, you would really want them to both be there. that you love them both and you do not want to have to choose between them. that could they put their differance's behind them for one day, and do this for you, and ask your grandpa if he would please not bring the women he is having a affair with to the party. tell them life is to short to argue all the time. good luck
2006-12-14 23:40:49 · answer #6 · answered by bob 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're turning 21 and inviting your grandparents to your party?!
2006-12-14 23:33:39 · answer #7 · answered by Suzee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to grandma what a big deal this is to you and ask her if she could find it in her heart to put her feelings aside for one day for your sake. Tell her you understand her point of view and feel for her very much, but just for one day could she please put her feelings aside? Let her know how much this means to you!
2006-12-15 00:51:46 · answer #8 · answered by Sammy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Arrange it with them so they can arrive and leave at different times.
That should work. Just tell them your plan and I'm sure they would be OK with that.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!
2006-12-14 23:32:50 · answer #9 · answered by Molly 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
invite them both and tell them that you expect them to behave like the adults they are. if they [or one of them] can't do that, ask them to not come.
2006-12-14 23:30:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋