My daughter has a bad habit about hitting me in the face. I have tried smacking her butt (not hard) and saying no but she still does it. It is all the time. I am surprised my glasses are not broken yet because she hits me hard enough to knock my glasses off. And I cannot afford any more. What more can I do??
2006-12-14 14:43:09 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Don't hit back. Not because I think there's some taboo against that, but because it teaches her that the behavior is acceptable, or perhaps makes her believe that it's a game.
The next time she hits you, grab both her hands and say, "Don't hit!" very firmly. Then put her in the crib or playpen and walk away for 5 minutes, no matter how much she screams about it. It won't take long for her to get the message.
If she goes to daycare, I would ask whether there's a hitter in the class. If so, she may be retaliating against someone who hits her at daycare by hitting you at home.
2006-12-14 14:49:23 · answer #1 · answered by Karen M 3 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Its never a good idea to hit back. Of course it is so painful for you. But you can try 2 ways.
1. Most often this hitting happens when you both are in good mood. whenever she hits you, change your tone into a steady, strong and not-playful tone and say that "it is wrong"... even children as young as an year understand a tone change in a parent, if not they understand your words. You shall give her a piece of mind that hitting actually hurts.
This may not work the first time, but every time when she hits you, your mood changes, even though you dont hurt her, she won't be having fun...
2. Make an expression that it hurts (either or not you cry). But this idea is not very advisable. because most children are rather amused by this different expression and try that again and again to experience that funny expression.
2006-12-15 06:09:11 · answer #2 · answered by KAZUKI 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
By hitting your child, you are showing her that you have no control over yourself! You are also teaching her that hitting is okay....which it NEVER is. Look her in the eye and tell her that hitting is not okay and that you don't like her hurting your body. Then, give her a hug and change the subject. Behaviors such as hitting are often done for attention. The less attention you pay to the behavior, the quicker it will end.
2006-12-14 23:23:52 · answer #3 · answered by Melissa M 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I had the same problem with my little one. Be firm with her and tell her there's no hitting and it's not tolerated. Then put her in a time out somewhere that isnt fun (bottom step, on a chair near no toys, etc..) and leave her there for 2 minutes. Once you get her.. thats when you're gentle, explain that it isnt nice to hit and that you love her, give her a big hug and kiss.
Mine is doing fabulous this way, and responds well. But I am firm with her (without raising my voice), but if you're gentle, she won't know you're serious.
2006-12-14 23:16:07 · answer #4 · answered by moonmarquette 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
One time my toddler head butted me hard enough that I had to run crying into the other room! I thought he may have broke my nose but he didn't. Anyhow, the sight of me hysterical must've made him feel really bad because he brought me his blankie and pacifier to help soothe me. He never did it again. Just make it obvious she's hurting you (even if she isn't) fake cry if you have to. If this doesn't work you should try time outs but make sure you stick to your guns with this method.
Good luck!
2006-12-14 22:50:36 · answer #5 · answered by Ryan's Ma 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's funny...reread your question and you will find the answer to your problem.
If it isn't obvious, I will point it out...she hits you in the face and you react by hitting her back--it doesn't really matter where on her body. YOU are teaching her this behavior by your behavior.
2006-12-14 22:52:07 · answer #6 · answered by єЖтяα ¢яιѕρψ 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
put her in her crib or a playpen if shes in a big girl bed and tell her she can come out once she behaves explain to her that hitting is sassy and hurts mama and just keep doing that and if that doesnt work i dont know what to tell ya im sorry good luck my son is 21 months and i went through the same thing except for with biting and that seemed to work with me good luck
2006-12-14 22:49:42 · answer #7 · answered by <3 mykiddos,mylife <3 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't hit back. Next time I would start fake crying and say ouch you hurt mommy and sit and cry saying it hurts, and ouch. Say you broke Mommys glasses now I can't see you. She doesn't know shes hurting you and that may make her know what its doing.
2006-12-14 22:51:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't show her any attention when she does it...OR when she goes to do it...do it right back! It will shock her and make her see what's she's doing...It worked for my son and he'll be 3 in Feb.
2006-12-14 22:53:37 · answer #9 · answered by just me 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ignore her she continues to do it because you give her attention
even negative attention is attention in a toddlers eyes
she sees she gets a certain kind of reaction out of you and enjoys it
dont worry all of us moms go through it
2006-12-14 23:37:53 · answer #10 · answered by angie c 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋