hes 15 and lately hes been acting very diffrent. he used to wear baggy/hiphop type clothes but now he wears black tight fittining clothes, he always seems sad, hes grades r going down and ive walked in on him making out with this other boy. but he claims tht he isnt gay/bi even when told him tht it was ok.
Is my son being emo and is this somthing tht i should be worried about?
2006-12-14 14:32:47 · 13 answers · asked by James 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
just let it be
2006-12-16 12:35:05 · answer #1 · answered by Christine B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Emo is a style, of being extremely into your own thoughts and feelings, being "EMOtional" He may be experimenting if he is making out with boys, though most hetero boys dont do this, you cant straight out assume he's gay. The emo stlye is prettty feminine becaue of all the feelings and long hair, tight clothes, but then again thats just what society says, and i think everyone is entitled to have their own styles and experiences, dont worry about your son, he will let you know whats going on when he's ready....just be open and supportive so he'd be comfortable.
2006-12-14 22:43:18 · answer #2 · answered by Panda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The part of your question that concerns me is that "he's always sad and his grades are going down". Those are signs of depression. Maybe he is confused about his sexuality? You have to keep a careful eye on him. If I were you I would do a little research on teen depression. If it lasts too long he might need to go to a therapist and get on an antidepressant for a while to get over the hump. My child was on them when my husband went to war. It really helped. And it was only for about 6 months... not that big a deal. Good Luck.
2006-12-15 01:09:42 · answer #3 · answered by Bookworm4124 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've asked a bunch of teens what emo is and it all comes down to normal angsty teen who doesn't realize they are a normal angsty teen. 15 is a rough age and kids aren't sure who they are or who they want to be. At 15 they are still adjusting to high school and it's one giant hormonal mess.
As long as your son isn't cutting or talking about hurting himself I wouldn't go as far to say depression because most kids I've known and go through this. Sounds like he is right in step with his generation.
I would avoid using the term emo. I am really uncomfortable with the idea of lableling kids and I know a lot of kids who are uncomfortable with it. which is a cause for a lot of anger and pressure that kids feel.
2006-12-15 13:59:29 · answer #4 · answered by Jennifer V 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
might be new at the whole thing, but last i checked making out with the same gender is regarded as a homosexual act. but i think its just that your son is following the trends, it used to be that baggy clothes were "in" and now we have skin tight pants, and boys and girls who look the same, more than once have i questioned an individuals gender. let him grow out of it on his own, if you ask him about it he'll just push you away...
2006-12-14 22:43:34 · answer #5 · answered by Kain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kids go through phases... I went through a goth phase in high school.. a punk phase.. and a preppy phase... then I realized as I got older.. I was just me! Kids will experiment and try things as they get older. Let him be himself.. and he will decide sooner or later to show his true self.... one warning though.. if he seems depressed, get him help, or ask him if he needs help.. he may not admit it right away, but depression is very serious.. and professional help could save his life.
2006-12-14 22:43:53 · answer #6 · answered by Kristin B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes this is something you should worry about, but most of the time you cant change anything. Just talk to him like 10 minutes a week about what goin on in his life and just talk to him that way. dont be discouraged if nothing changes becasue he wont usually change because of talking.
2006-12-14 22:42:06 · answer #7 · answered by mvraidersfootbal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called Puberty,
we have all been there done that. Leave the poor kid alone, we all experimented, practised our first kisses on our friends ect. Enough already. He is discovering who he is and it is a journey he has to take on his own.
2006-12-14 22:42:16 · answer #8 · answered by sunflower932002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My pretty, smart,tennis playing daughter suddenly went Goth... but she was still her old goofy self. Sit down and talk with your son, he needs you.
2006-12-14 22:36:17 · answer #9 · answered by ihave5katz 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd probably get him help mainly for his grades and acting sad.
2006-12-14 22:40:26 · answer #10 · answered by bluedevils2302 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him a hug and tell him you love him no matter what is going on maybe then he will come out and tell you whats been bothering him good luck
2006-12-14 22:43:51 · answer #11 · answered by <3 mykiddos,mylife <3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋