2006-12-14 14:26:13 · 8 answers · asked by colwg 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm sure they are scolding because it's their own bizarre way to show they just really care about you. Just tell them as nice as you can, that you can do this, and that you don't need their opinion on it.
If it continues, or gets to be abusive (not just naggy) then you should consider avoiding them again. However I don't think it's fair to just cut them out of you life so abruptly without giving them a chance. If they don't know that it bothers you that much, then they won't stop.
2006-12-14 14:32:42 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry that you have to experience this situation.
I had the same experience, and I often scolded them back. But things could get worse. I left house a lot of times to avoid contact with my mum. You cannot do anything to change them, I am sorry to say. I had always prayed everyday, and counted each day towards my independence.
The best way try to focus and do well in school. Once you are out of the home, everything will be such a joy.
Just remember: you are getting better with each day passing. Wish you have a good life on your own. If you can be on your own, get out of the house. You will rather work for a living than depending on them. It is not worth having to go through such emotional torture.
2006-12-14 23:17:52 · answer #2 · answered by J F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, staying away from them isn't the answer because somehow you're still getting 'scolded'.
I think it's time to sit down with your relative and speak about the situation CALMLY. Try to understand their point of view and what's the problem. Perhaps they have no idea that their ideas are coming across so harshly. A sharing of thoughts and concerns might clear the air.
If not, you can't change the other person, only the way you react to them. If talking it through with them doesn't help, you're just going to have to learn to ignore!
2006-12-14 22:33:06 · answer #3 · answered by garynjanice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people like to feel important by telling other people what to do. Or maybe scolding others instead of admitting their own problems.
Years ago when I still had problems with my relatives still thinking of me as someone they could order around, I started telling them "You know at my age, I'm able to make my own decisions and put what you have taught me to use. If I have a problem I cannot handle, I'll ask you. Till then.. "
Now at 54, my parents are gone (Dad died at 88 and was still calling me "BOY"). The other relatives, I never see anymore - Aunts, Uncles, cousins.
2006-12-15 00:57:04 · answer #4 · answered by John Hightower 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first how old are you? you give no info there. secondly if you are very young ad making mistakes as a single mum, then you can listen to a more saged or experienced voice on some things. if your child or children are well fed, clean, and wear clean clothes in a clean house are of school age and doing well or just a baby and clean,fed, with clean clothes and changed properly when a diaper is wet or pooped in not left on for a while so, the baby doesn't get a diaper rash. and you are of age. tell auntie to back off you are doing what you are supposed to do for your baby. if you don't have a job get one. that may be one of the problems. with as little info as you gave thats the best I can do.
2006-12-15 10:03:43 · answer #5 · answered by inquiringmindswannaknow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you are a good mom, and I and assuming you are, tell them to simply mind their own business. If you need advice you will ask them, other than that, SHUT-UP! Be brave, be strong, be assertive.
2006-12-14 22:29:53 · answer #6 · answered by doris_38133 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes stay away from negative people even if they are related.
2006-12-14 22:27:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell them to mind their own business....
2006-12-14 22:29:07 · answer #8 · answered by glduke2003 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋