Ok here's the story.(I'm only 13 and...)My sister just had a baby and i wanted her to keep it.(But she gave it away).I've told her i really wanted a niece and that if she really did give it away i wouldnt talk to her, but i guess she really didn't care. And on top of that my brother just died.He got killed by a tree which fell on him during a storm.
2006-12-14 14:22:41 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She is 17
2006-12-14 15:35:20 · update #1
My mom said she would take care of it and she said no and gave to a stranger. i just dont want the baby to ask when it grows up why i didnt stick up for her.
2006-12-14 15:37:16 · update #2
See the school psychologist and talk it out with him/her to help you resolve your feelings and emotions.
2006-12-14 14:32:07 · answer #1 · answered by Boston 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure it would be nice to have a niece but you need to consider how your sister feels. She just may not be ready to take care of a child. It takes a lot of time and money to raise a kid. You sister probably thought it best for her and the baby. I'm sure it was a hard choice to make for her. You should try to be supportive to your sister. Especially since you both lost your brother. You should be thankful to have her in a time like that.
Also just because your sister gave her baby up now doesn't mean she'll never have kids. You can still have a niece some day. Some day when it's right for your sister not you. As much as you could use support in this hard time I'm sure your sister could use support also. So put your differences aside and be there for one another.
2006-12-14 22:41:01 · answer #2 · answered by Gypsy Cat 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know it's hard, but u have to think of possible outcomes that could've happened if she kept the baby. I'm the older sister in my case. Had 4 kids by the time I was 22. I worked hard to take care of them and still do. My sister though has 2, 4 & 6, and she's now 25. She rarely takes care of them and I love them so. That leaves me taking care of them too often. I pay for alot of their food and clothes. That takes away from my kids. So maybe in the long run, she left you with more freedom. It's still hard I know, but I guess she knew she was'nt ready. Hopefully she'll make a better choice before getting pregnant next time.
2006-12-14 23:46:31 · answer #3 · answered by Sammy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister had her first child when i was 15yrs old. She stayed around for a few months then just left. 3yrs later she had another and did the same. I raised my niece's with my mothers help. You did not give enough detail.....Who did she give the baby to? Someone in the family should of taken the baby. If the baby was legally adopted you may want to see if she's able to still see the baby, then you could visit also. I know it would be hard for me to talk with her after that myself....Me and my sister still barley speak....Good Luck
2006-12-14 22:31:55 · answer #4 · answered by Jackie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sister made a mistake and she did the right thing by giving the baby to someone who can give it a stable, loving upbringing. Don't be so hard on her, it couldn't have been easy for her to do that. Your sister still has her whole life ahead of her and she has brought irreplaceable joy to someone who wanted a family of their own but couldn't. Please be there for your sister, it sounds like you both have had enough loses already. There's plenty of time for you to have nieces and nephews, trust me. I am so sorry to hear about your brother, may God be with you and your family in this time of healing. For only being 13, you've had to deal with more than your share of loses and I hope you don't lose your way in these upcoming years, make the most of them. God bless you sweetie.
2006-12-14 22:41:30 · answer #5 · answered by Mustang Sally 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know this is hard, but you are only 13. You never mentioned how old your sister is, but that really is her choice, even if it is hard on the family .Raising a child is hard. You need to be supportive of your sister.
I am very sorry about the losses you have had to go through lately. maybe talking with your parents and getting some counseling may help.
2006-12-14 22:57:04 · answer #6 · answered by cheoli 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To keep or not to keep, it is her decision. I think it would not be easy for her to make that desicion either since she is the mother. She already lost a child, very sad for her, Why should she lose a sister? You should learn to stand in her shoes and understand her. You are still young, time will come when she has kids she can keep and you have your own kids.
Right now, take care of your sister and yourself. Be strong. Bad times will be over and good times will come.
2006-12-14 23:29:27 · answer #7 · answered by J F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋