My 2 1/2 year old daughter is very smart, but she refuses to go to the bathroom. She's very attached to wearing diapers, doesn't even like pull ups. Today I put her on the potty and she screamed for 20 minutes, even after I took her off. I have tried bribeing, stickers, painting her nails, etc.... nothing works. Help please!
2006-12-14 14:17:01 · 13 answers · asked by L♥G 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I didn't keep her on the potty for 20 minutes...more like 5 mins... she was crying after the fact.
2006-12-14 14:26:29 · update #1
How close to 3 is she? My daughter was 2 years, 8 months when she trained. I used the Dr. Phil method and she was completely trained in 5 days. You have to dedicate all your time to it, though. Make sure you can clear your calendar for at least one week. You have to be there to watch vigiliantly for signs of needing to go. Go to his website for suggestions. It has worked for all of my nieces, my nephew, and several friends of mine.
Also, she just may not be ready yet. I'd give her a break and then try again in a couple of weeks.
2006-12-14 14:47:31 · answer #1 · answered by ReeberKaseyMarcus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, nothing is wrong with her, and spanking her definitely won't help things. When I tried at home, my daughter didn't want to sit long enough to do anything, therefore a couple minutes later she'd have wet pants. Just a couple days before her 3rd birthday, my mom had her for a day and had underpants on, and she only had one wet accident, and one time she started to do #2 in her pants but finished on the potty, and after that it was easy going! By the time I picked her up in the afternoon, she was running to the bathroom all on her own! It's just the fact that she was more ready to do it finally. It's been 2 weeks now, with an accident a couple times (playing outside, being somewhere new), but other than that everything is going extremely well. My sitter's daughter did the same thing. Except she was very stubborn about it, wanted nothing to do with going on the potty. She finally was interested after she turned 3. There are also some kids who aren't fully ready until age 4. So you have plenty of time. Maybe put the undies away for a while, and try again in a month. Your daughter will definitely let you know when she's ready! As long as you keep the option there for her, you don't need to push her into it.
2016-05-24 17:40:54 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My potty training advice: it is best in these situations to wait a little longer until your child is more mature. Do not force potty training. Some children are not as physically or developmentally ready to receive and interpret the same signals that tell the rest of us, "It's time to go to the bathroom." While some receive the signal, their muscles may not be able to "hold it" until a potty is available.
Let your toddler be in the bathroom with you. You can make a great role model. While the bathroom doesn’t need be a public thoroughfare, never make your child feel as if the bathroom is a "secretive" place where strange things happen.
For younger siblings, potty training may be quicker, as they watch big brother or sister use the potty and want to imitate this wonderful role model. It’s natural for younger children to watch an older sibling go potty. Try not to curtail this activity. Our first lessons are ones of "imitation".
It will happen in time
2006-12-16 16:01:20 · answer #3 · answered by Isla14 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is not ready to be trained..mentally or physically ready or able to go potty just yet. All kids have their own time within themselves that they can do this it is a big thing to have the cognitive ability to be able to Read your body that you need to pee, then the logic to go on a potty to do that. Your child is still young, In the daycare where I am, many 2 year olds are not trained. Most are not ready until almost 3 years. It's not a big deal..stop stressing about it..when she is ready, she will give defiant signs she is ready to go on the potty. What you are doing now by making her stay on the potty for 20 min or so, is making her resentful and even stressed over it. Why do that to you and her? it is not worth it..just Wait abit,,,try again.,.but let HER take the lead..not you.
2006-12-14 14:24:48 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
take her to the store and let her pick out some underwear--ya know call 'em "big girl" pants and put them on over her diaper/pull up so she can get used to them, and they are exciting for her, and give her a goal. that is what we did with out daughter who is now 3 and potty trained--she was the same way. You can always show her how you go too. And i know my sister did food coloring in the water, and with our son once we finally got him to go on the potty we took a picture of it and he's gone ever since. good luck! be patient--there's no set age for being potty trained--she will do it when she is good and ready.
2006-12-14 14:47:13 · answer #5 · answered by Joyous 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your little girl is only 2 1/2. I wouldn't be concerned until she turns three. If you wait until the child is really ready it honestly takes about one day.
At least give up on it for a while until she cools off. In the meantime take her in the bathroom with you. Let her see what big girls do. I guarantee if she thinks it is not so important to you she will come around.
Children become resistant to potty because that is something they can control. You better not let her think it's a control game.
2006-12-14 14:36:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tried everything with my 3 yr old boy. We tried: putting fruit loops in the potty and letting him aim, giving him stickers, buying big boy underwear, and candy. None of it worked. One day, he decided he was ready. Now, he pees in the potty (and sits on the potty backwards facing the tank), but won't poop in the potty. Oh well, we are still working on that one.
Be patient, it will happen. The best piece of advice I can offer is no matter what you do, be consistent. It will happen when she is ready.
2006-12-16 13:47:48 · answer #7 · answered by tru2theone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She just might not be ready to potty train yet. You might want to bypass the pull-ups all together. Try taking her to the store and see if she is interested in the "big" girl panties. If these interest her let her chose her own with the understanding that she has to use the potty in order to be able to wear them. She just might be interested in being able to go shopping herself and having the feeling that she accomplished something all by herself and had a say in the matter.
2006-12-14 14:30:13 · answer #8 · answered by LYNN W 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
2 and a half is still young for potty. What you could do, is take her in a special shopping trip to buy big girl underwear/pull ups with Dora or Princesses and use this as an incentive, that if she goes big girl potty she gets to wear her big girl underwear.
Make this into a big deal and down play accidents as there will be accidents.
But she is still young, and maybe she isn't wuite ready. you could wait a couple of months and try again.
2006-12-14 14:27:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My son...he'll be 3 in February...was doing the same thing...I'd say..Joe want to use the big boy potty!? He's scream NOPE! And walk away! Husband would joke about him being in college and having to change his diapers himself! BUT the other day..NO lie...he went streaking past me...butt naked! He had taken his DRY diaper off and went on the potty BY HIMSELF...and then a little later...he did poops by himself...He bent over and said " wipe general's butt!" (we listen to Bill Engvall the comedian!)
WHen she's ready...she'll be ready..don't force her...you don't want her to be afraid of doing this herself... Let her see the pretty panties they sell at the stores with Belle, and Cinderella on them...maybe little bows on pretty panties might do the trick...I know with Joe...he's got trucks! LOL good luck!
2006-12-14 14:58:20 · answer #10 · answered by just me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋