IT SEEMS LIKE I PUSH MY BOYFRIEND AWAY CUZ I'M SCARED I'M GOING TO GET HURT AND I KNOW HE REALLY LOVES ME BUT I DON'T KNOW WHY I DO THIS!! WHAT SHOULD I DO
2006-12-14 14:09:41 · 7 answers · asked by *PEACE BEGINS WITH A SMILE* 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like you need to figure out if you really love this guy as well or not ... if the answer is yes, then you need to have confidence that this is good relationship and trust yourself to that you are strong enough to get through it if it doesnt work out. See a therapist to help you out if you need to. And in the event that you aren't that into him, you need to be honest with yourself and him about your feelings and move on.
2006-12-14 14:25:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a good look at what may be causing you to behave like this, could it be a past relationship that went bad?? If you know he loves you do you really feel its fair to treat him this way??
You have to make the choice to change your behavior or end up losing him because of it. Put yourself in his shoes and think how you would you feel if the table were turned. Realize that because your afraid of getting hurting that your hurting him in the process.
If you really dont want to lose your boyfriend I would talk to him about your fears and see if you both could come up with some solutions together if you want your relationship to continue.
2006-12-14 22:24:13 · answer #2 · answered by hopefloats 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is just a defense mechanism. If you feel someone is getting too close, you push them away because you don't want to make yourself vulnerable to heartache. But if you keep pushing them away, you will never experience great love! Accept the fact that heartache is sometimes a part of life and have a good time with your boyfriend! If he doesn't last, you will find someone else!
2006-12-14 22:12:50 · answer #3 · answered by His Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well all I can tell you is you will never know if you are going to get hurt or if you are going to find in your boyfriend the love of your life... Don't be afraid to get hurt, be afraid of never feeling the amazing things you can feel if you fall inlove!!! I understand what you mean, that happened to me too, but a friend of mine told me that I had to try, because no pain no gain...
Wish u the best.
2006-12-14 22:19:10 · answer #4 · answered by Latina Hottie! W.Chocolate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to wear tight pants so you can admire his package more. Guys like that kind of thing. I would also tend to call him a lot and invite him out to do things, but not show up. Maybee you could fill his jean pockets with balogna slices and blame it on your little brother or something.
2006-12-14 22:31:48 · answer #5 · answered by Tropicalboy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go talk to a counselor. Has your past taught you that you will get hurt ? There are just so many possibilities for you reaction.
2006-12-14 22:14:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should let him comfort you and be more open to him
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2006-12-14 22:11:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋