Punishment Ideas for saying the "F" word....?

Question

Our 14 year old daughter got mad and used the "F" word. We need ideas of what a good punishment would be. Just "talking" about what she does never works. So, any ideas?? IDEAS only please. Thanks.

Answer 1

Take something special away, or gound her from a special event. Make he write out i will not swear 100000 times

Answer 2

You need to understand the bigger picture, and that includes understanding who your daughter is and what she is all about. The punishment that I give to my daughter is different than to my son, not because one is a boy and the other a girl, but because they are 2 different people and what works for one doesn't work for the other. My daughter is very easy to talk to and understands that something is unacceptable, whilst my son needs to learn where the line is and how far he can push the line today.

So given the above, if your daughter is someone that you can talk to and reason with, then once you've calmed down explain to her that you understand that her peers may speak like that and feel that it makes them appear to be grownup, but you are trying to teach her what is acceptable in your household and amongst adults in general. Tell her that there is no punishment this time around, however should it ever happen again, you will have to look about changing her crowd of friends because it's obvious that she's a follower rather than a leader and is strongly influenced by her friends. This puts the burden on her, that if she wants to remain friends with her current crew, she knows that you're watching how they influence her or she influences them.

Answer 3

It's just a word. Maybe not the nicest one around, but it's a WORD. The phrase that comes to mind in this situation is "pick your battles."

Look, she used it when she was mad. We all let off steam sometimes, right? At least she's not throwing things at the walls - or at you.

Tell her that you don't care for that kind of language and you consider it offensive. Ask her politely not to use it anymore around you *because* you don't like it. If she respects you she'll make an effort. Then again, she may decide that this is a really good way to cheese off Mom and Dad, and keep using it. (Honestly, I would pick the latter myself and I'm a reasonably well-adjusted adult with a teenaged stepson.)

You could also point out to your daughter that it's all about knowing when to use certain words. Think about it - there are always going to be situations where certain language is appropriate or not appropriate. We don't speak to business associates the way we speak to our drinking buddies, for example. If your daughter can learn to tell the difference, she will offend a minimum number of people with her choice of vocabulary.

Answer 4

if she cusses like a sailor or if she's generally rebellious, put her on a behavior program. at the beginning of the week, she starts with zero points. as she completes her chores and homework and all that stuff, she gets points. if she goes the whole week without using expletives, she can use these points towards something that you decide. if she uses expletives during the week, take points away. this is more a reward system than a punishment system and will prove to be a more positive environment around you and your daughter. if you're as feisty as she is, this is something that the both of you will have to work on. good luck.

Answer 5

This is coming from a teen!!!!!!!!!!!


~ Sorry to say at age 14 in her mind she's an adult. Spanking won't do a thing we laugh it off
~ the old fashioned bedroom punishment doesn't work either we have ways to keep ourselves entertained.

~ now take her out of any extracurricular activities, no phone, no dates, dances etc. it might help but she still going to use the language at school we all do!

~ you get in the habit of not cussing around your parents and only in places you know they won't be.

~ you can also do what made me stop PERMANITLY !!!!! Have mommie or daddy dearest show up at school and embararss them.

Answer 6

At 14 we both know she thinks she is grown, but she's not. When mine said it for the first time. I told her if she wasn't doing the F word she can't say the F word. When she said it again, she was not allowed to speak to me. Any communication had to be in writing. Finally, she got the picture that I wasn't going to tolerate a potty mouth. It took about 3 days. Hope it helps

Answer 7

I think at the age of 14 spanking is not really going to do much good; it hurts for a while and then they get over it .. I beleive (and remember) that grounding was much more effective at this age. I would take everything (and I do mean everything) away from here...everything from telephone to television to makeup to anything else that she likes to do . The only thing that she is allowed to do at home is read (books that have appropriate language) and the only place she is allowed to go is to school and church (if you attend). That's what my mom did to me and I really don't like cuss words now.

Answer 8

First find out who taught her to say that word.

As for punishment, try taking away her computer, cell phone, bedroom phone, video game, television privileges. No hanging out with friends outside of school for a whole week.


Good luck.

Answer 9

Give her the option of losing her phone privileges or volunteering for a good cause. Some examples -- reading to the elderly, reading to children, teaching someone how to read. It will help her realize the power of words, and maybe she'll learn something about herself. By giving her the option to not volunteer, you are keeping it in the spirit of 'volunteering.'

Answer 10

First explain to her that it is unexceptable and inappropriate language. (make sure you set a good example)
Give her a warning that she will be punished next time. And positively stick to your guns.
Finally, I always made punishment win, win. I made my kids polish furniture or pass the vacuum for punishment.

Answer 11

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