could someone tell me how incompetant ur parents are/ were to you. so i can feel like my dad is not that bad.?

Question

please?

Answer 1

Every single parent is incompetant...at least to the child.
When you become your dads age your child is going to look at you as a complete fool and has no idea what it is like to be a kid.
Maybe you are an incompetant kid.

Answer 2

Ohmigod! My mother was a drunken whore. I know it sounds awful because most people love their mothers. I do not. She was just the worst ever. Really physically abusive, had different men in and out of the house all the time. Total poorwhitetrash. I hated her then and probably even more now that I have kids of my own. She was arrested SO many times. Stealing, forgery, child abuse, DWI....you name it. Yet always believes that she is right no matter what. She burned down our house when we were 14 for "us". lol. Crazy beoch. She just wanted the insurance money - which she got and blew without building a new house to live in so we ended up living in a tiny camper. Ridiculous. She killed a baby that she was "watching" with pepto bismal - a little baby - like a month old that had the colic. She gave it pepto bismal!!!!!! And she is a trained NURSE. The baby died, but they couldn't prove how. I can't believe that she isn't in prison. She should be. The world would be a safer place and I know I'd be happier. I haven't spoken to her in over 10 years.

Answer 3

Well let me start with the fact that my parents never wanted me. I was raised by my grandmother from the time I was a baby. I saw my mother on a daily basis, but she never acknowledged me, in fact for awhile I didn't even know she was my mom. My father diappeared and I met him when I was fifteen. He treated me like some stranger off the street. I am 35 years old now, haven't seen my dad since I was 20, I don't even know if he's still alive. My mom and I have never had a good relationship, in fact she always sees the bad and never sees the good in me. I called her a few days ago to tell her that I graduated from nursing school and her phone was disconnected, she never even told me. If your dad is not abusive, and is there for you, then you have it pretty good. It's normal to have some rocky times with your parents, as long as you love each other you can get through anything.

Answer 4

Parents are a strange bread. I am a mother by the way.
You must understand one thing parents do the best they can with what they know. There is no guide on how to raise children. Everyone has an opinion but as I said at the end of the day they do there best.
Read the Boy called It if that doesn't make you appreciate your father nothing will..

Good luck

Answer 5

Welcome to the club. My dad is certainly dysfunctional and should not have become a parent. He has always been a child emotionally. He's been married at least three times, and I don't know how many affairs during them. He ruthlessly severs family ties. He broke off from his own parents at about age 16 or 17. I broke off from him even younger, 24 years ago. He considers me an enemy and I've pretty much given up on him.

Answer 6

i don't know the whole situation but i do know there is
no hand books out there telling you how to be a parent
and i do understand there is a huge generation gap
we as parents believe it or not have been through allot
and we try to protect and pass on what we have learned
for better or worse he is you're dad cut him some slack
good luck

Answer 7

both parents were alchoholics. Mom flooded the bathtube once when drunk and the whole house carpet got soaked. Dad used to put his cigars out in my dogs dish and he molested me when he was drunk. Mom used to stay out all night drinking and fell into the tube or bed I was always afraid she would hurt herself. They both used to drive drunk all the time so I thought they might die at any time. all this and yet nothing I did was good enough for either one of them.

Answer 8

I would rather not get into that, only know that parents make mistakes - their not perfect. Try to work things out with your dad. You only have one. I'm sorry for whatever has happened.

Answer 9

Hun,
Your Dad loves you. What ever he did I'm sure it is because he loves you. Dads are human too and they mess up just like you do, just in different adult ways (if that makes sense). Go tell your Dad that you love him and give him a big hug.

Answer 10

Every day my parents get annoyed if i dont get to school 15 minutes before. They also hit me and spank me if i do something minor. B+'s make them furious. For them, A's are "passes". Every new day was another day for torture...