There's a very nice girl that works in a restaurant where I go rather often. After 3, 4 weeks of little chatting or crossing some lines like 'How do you do?', 'It's getting really cold!', and a lot of smiles my friends suggested I should ask her out. So one night at closing time, I went to the counter and I said I wanted to have her number. She accepted and then I called her. We were supposed to meet one Sunday for dinner but she called the day before to cancel since she was busy. So we had our 'first' date one week later, again on Sunday for dinner. Things didn't go that well, we laughed just a little bit and then she let me know that she's quite busy, she has a lot of activities as a student, some clubs/circles she belongs to, and her part-time job. After the dinner I thanked her and then two days after that I sent her a mail over her phone to tell her the night was nice and perhaps we should meet again. She never replied and I haven't been to the restaurant since. Should I insist?
2006-12-14 13:48:43 · 20 answers · asked by confuxed 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Her non-response was a response within itself, regardless of the reason (busy schedule, not feeling the same vibe, whatever). If she wants to go out again, she will answer. But your offer was enough. No need to insist.
2006-12-14 13:52:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, you should not insist ... sorry dude, but the girl is not that into you - she's dropping hints about how busy she is .... it does not matter how "busy" a person is, if they are really interested they will do whatever it takes to make time for the other person ... u don't say what her response to your suggestion of meeting again was but I am guessing that her enthusiasm was underwhelming or you would have mentioned it ... and if none of this does it for you - she hasn't responded to your message!
2006-12-14 22:03:05 · answer #2 · answered by K 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
For this specific situation, I would not ask her out again, but I'd still go to the restaurant and see how things feel. It may be that she really is busy with school, work and whatever and if you continue to talk and be nice at the restaurant, you'll be able to know for sure soon enough. (It's better than guessing.)
2006-12-14 22:02:32 · answer #3 · answered by TechGal 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't insist because if she's not that into you then she'll probably take it as "stalking".... I would go to the restaurant with friends and just casually say hi to her and see how she reacts to that. If she doesn't start talking to you then forget about it. Don't even think about asking her out again and move on to someone else.
2006-12-14 21:57:51 · answer #4 · answered by dd 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well, it's hard to understand ur question but, you shouldn't insist to have a second date, coz she already told you she was busy and all the clubs she belongs to. But you two really need to have a 2nd date. Ask the girl out when she's not busy. or on her bday. why don't you treat her out and you could have ur 2nd date...good luck!
2006-12-14 21:53:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I say go in and try to talk to her, you yourself said she's a busy college student, maybe she felt she didn't live up to what you thought that date was going to be, maybe try another date again, but in a group-go mini-golfing or bowling..sometimes a restaurant can be uncomfortable, maybe she wasn't comfortable eating in front of you...I'd try and talk to her face to face, maybe send her some flowers, thanking her for accepting your invite to dinner and that you'd love to know how she's doing. I say give it another try--third times the charm!
2006-12-14 21:53:43 · answer #6 · answered by Kitikat 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Neg on that chum, let that one lie where it is.. she didn't have a good time and in my mind her telling you how busy she is was just a hint. sorry...but i will say this if you talk as politely as you type it wont be a problem getting another first date
2006-12-14 21:52:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, why not. Tell her you know the date wasn't the best but you would like to try again. Let her know you're not the type to stalk someone but you really think you're compatible and don't want to give up on her just yet.
2006-12-14 21:55:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i hear what you are saying dude. you dont know sometimes if they are telling the truth bout things, or trying to blow us off. just for the moment think that she is telling the truth. it is a bsuy time of the year. i would call her one more time or message her and let he know you would like to see her again and when she is free. then leave the ball in her court. goodluck
2006-12-14 21:57:06 · answer #9 · answered by marcvialli 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How awkward. I don't think she is interested. Maybe you should try to text her over the phone one more time and if no response then I would say forget about it and move on.
2006-12-14 21:55:37 · answer #10 · answered by daydreamer 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋