MY EX AND I BROKE UP ABOUT 4 MONTHS AGO. HE CHEATED ON ME AND GOT THE OTHER GIRL PREGNEAT.I HAVEN'T TALKED TO HIM AT ALL IN THE PAST FOUR MONTHS UNTILL ABOUT 4 DAYS AGO! HE TELLS ME I AM THE ONE, THAT HE MESSED UP BADLY AND THAT HE HAS THOUGHT ABOUT ME EVERYDAY FOR THE PAST FOUR MONTHS AND THAT WHEN HE SEES ME RIDE BY OR SOMEONE JUST MENTIONS MY NAME HE MELTS INSIDE. HE CRIED IS EYES OUT TO ME THE OTHER NIGHT. HE SAYA HE WANTS TO PROVE TO ME THAT I CAN TRUST HIM AGAIN AND THAT ALL HE WANTS IS ME. HE WANTS TO PUT OUR FRIENDSHIP BACK TOGETHER FIRST AND WORK FROM THAT. IN MY HEART I FEEL HE IS SINCERE . IM JUST SCARED. I CANT SAY I WAS PERFECT IN OUR RELATIONSHIP , HE JUST BROKE MY HEART. I LOVE HIM. I DUNO IF I SHOULD GIVE HIM A CHANCE OR NOT. MY MIND IS GOING CRAZY! WE WERE TOGETHER FOR ONE YEAR AND HALF. EVERYONE TOLD ME HE LOVED ME AND ALL HE TALKED ABOUT WAS ME, BUT HE MESSED UP THAT ONE TIME AND HE LOST ME. HE HAS MY HEART.
2006-12-14 13:40:28 · 12 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes it may be true that everyone deserves a second chance however there may be a trust issue if you do decide to get back together. Think about this:when he's telling you he love you and miss you and wants to get back together is he still involved w/ other woman? Is he just running back to you when him and his other woman are on bad terms? He may want to get back with you AND be with her especially now that he's having a son from that other woman. If you decide to get back with him, you'll have to accept the fact that he's going to have to have some type relationship with her being the baby's father. Personally, I 've dated someone who had a child and it was so much baby mama drama. She couldnt respect the fact that I was his girlfriend and felt that since he was her baby's daddy she had such an advantage over me. Being his girlfriend we would spend time together and she was jealous hearted,she would use the child to get his attention. She would say "You need to come get your child instead of being over their with that *****!!!" She would play on my phone and came to my job wanting to fight me over him. She would say "We would always be together even if you're in the picture!" Drama like that I did'nt need. So I just cut the relationship loose. Not because he had a child but the drama from associated w/ it.
Even though we were together, I know he still cared for her and she cared for him for the child's sake and that was something I couldnt accept. Something I wasn't ready for. Now I'm not saying everyone who's in a relationship with someone who has a child has the same problem,but maybe somewhat similar. You may even start getting jealous because the baby may need his attention before yours. Just consider how it will affect you in the long run.
2006-12-14 14:07:01 · answer #1 · answered by Rona 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you should move on with your life. I know love hurts but cheating and getting the other female pregnant is a hard pill to swallow. You will never forget that and even if you two do decide to get back together you won't trust him. Every relationship isn't perfect but that was really messed up. Move on with your life. He deserves to cry. He has 18-21 years with this other female. Don't set yourself up to get your heart stomped on again. If you keep giving in you'll be labeled as weak. Stand your ground.
2006-12-14 13:53:29 · answer #2 · answered by Foreveryoung 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is up to u, but if he cheated on u and got another girl pregnant, why do u think he would treat u any different? sure he wants u back, things did not work out for him and the preganant girl, coulda been u. when we love someone and make a commitment we need to look at someones past, and not ever think the same thing won't happen to us.
2006-12-14 13:48:15 · answer #3 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're sure that he's being honest with you, then it's fine for you to give him a second chance. But he's gonna be responsible for making the girl pregnant, right? Are you willing to accept whatever possible circumstances that might happen in the future?
2006-12-14 13:48:06 · answer #4 · answered by Kate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can not get back together with him. once a cheater, always a cheater. this statement is true, men have addictive personalities whether its alcohol or cheating. He just wont be able to stop cheating. by begging you to have him back, he's cheating on the girl that he got pregnant! be smart in this, you do not need this stress in your life. also you will always be wondering if he cheated on you every single day of your life.
2006-12-14 13:46:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good girl friend, been there achieved that.. I will relate. To your case that's.. Because the announcing goes if he cheats once he will cheat once more, "definitely ABOUT IT".. He will have to of idea how miserable he used to be doing what he did whilst doing it, and perhaps the mind over topic would of kicked in.. I suppose for you sweetie.. I do consider in forgiveness, but I inform ya candy revenge is very sweet... LOL
2016-08-10 01:27:33 · answer #6 · answered by wojtowicz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nicely woman chum, been there achieved that.. i will relate. on your case it incredibly is.. because of the fact the asserting is going if he cheats as quickly as he will cheat back, "little question approximately IT".. He ought to of concept how depressing he replaced into doing what he did collectively as doing it, and perhaps the suggestions over count might of kicked in.. i believe for you sweetie.. I do believe in forgiveness, yet I tell ya candy revenge is exceedingly candy... LOL
2016-10-05 08:11:04 · answer #7 · answered by armiso 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was kind of in the same situation, and i think you should give him a second chance, just let him no that one more mistake then its really over. Go for it, just be careful!
2006-12-14 13:47:46 · answer #8 · answered by Carlee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your side of the whole thing is true, no, you shouldn't give him another chance. You should move on, to another man- one whose a rarity, who wouldn't cheat, regardless of wether or not he is committed to you.
2006-12-14 13:52:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
suggestion: dont go out with him yet.
become friends first....... as you said.
in my opinion, its your choice, most of the time, if you loose a persons trust then they will always remember that
and you most likely will
do you WATN TO remember it ? or are you ok with it ?
thats the Q
and when he was talking to you.
he got really emotional yea, but what was he saying ?
2006-12-14 13:46:03 · answer #10 · answered by Nick723 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋