Every time he seems to get drunk he drops an "I love you". He went on and on one night about how he was talking to him mom about how I was different than all the other girls hes dated. We've been dating for about 2 months now. Does he mean it and just not want to tell me when hes sober, or is he just a drunk
2006-12-14 12:52:46 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Alright, this may or may not change your answers but, im 22 he is 24 and he has been to Iraq and has cut back on his drinking since hes been back...
2006-12-14 13:04:51 · update #1
Ask him when he is sober.
But in my opinion... 2 months is kinda soon to know if you are in love with a person, but it could happen I suppose. He could just be scared to say it sober and this is his way of testing the waters so to speak, to see what your response would be.
The only way to know how he really feels is ask him when he is sober. You not only will get his answer but his reaction to your question.
Good Luck!
2006-12-14 13:02:01 · answer #1 · answered by michelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without getting too philosophical, why don't you just jokingly ask him, do you realize that every time you kick back, you tell me you love me....and see what he says.
Just know that guys usually have different levels of love, like I love how i feel when I'm with you, or love how wild you are....or I am crazy about you. You'll drive yourself crazy if you don't ask.
Checking back & knowing more facts - I still agree with asking him. I state playfully as it might make it easier for him to admit the truth. As for Iraq & the drinking - no doubt he's going to go through some major shellshock adjusting to his experiences there & you are the fresh air. One sure way to help guide him into falling for you....would be to listen to him & support him in his adjustments by learning that life is ok without so many drinks. It's early, focus on caring & good times - as he's been thru the ringer while protecting yourself til he gets settled.
2006-12-14 20:56:30 · answer #2 · answered by Aphrodite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For some people alcohol is like a truth thing even though it might come out distorted. Two months is short but you can defiantly love someone in two months. If he really loves you he'd give you another indication. With me the non-verbal ones are the ones that count. How does he treat you? When you look him in the eye what does he do? Personally if I love a girl I like to hug her now and then. A kiss not really sexual, ect... You can't hide that feeling in your gut...
2006-12-14 20:59:43 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are probably a fabulous person... and he may very well be in love with you. If you question is asking how serious you should be with him... try someone who can level with you and open up without the drinking. You sound young, so the 'drunk' theme worries me. that is a big, BIG sign of problems down the road.
Taks care...
2006-12-14 21:00:02 · answer #4 · answered by justr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him when he is sober. As in "Did you truly mean what you said the other night? That you love me?" That is one way to address the situation! Or, if you are still shy in the relationship, why not watch his signs? When he is ready to say it sober, he will. Don't worry about it too much, you will just end up stressed.
2006-12-14 20:59:13 · answer #5 · answered by Whava 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him when he's not drunk, and see what he says. If he blushes and doesn't say anything, then he probably does love you but is too shy to tell you in a realistic state of mind. If he says "Uh, no" then he probably just started saying random things when he's drunk.
Besides, not to be harsh or anything, but why are you dating a guy who is always getting drunk?
2006-12-14 20:57:18 · answer #6 · answered by julia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's just drunk, but I also think the feelings are there or that kind of stuff wouldn't come out of him when he's drunk. I think it's possible to love someone after two months, but it's still very fragile.
2006-12-14 20:56:10 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should ask him straight up what he feels and why is it he only expresses his self when he is drunk. I agree with one of the other comments when they said he may just be to shy...
2006-12-14 21:06:35 · answer #8 · answered by Jazzie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he does love you just not the way you think, I think he loves you as a person because you are different than all the other girls to him. I wouldn't just jump the gun and think he loves YOU because he doesn't really know YOU, I hope you understand what I'm trying to say
2006-12-14 20:59:33 · answer #9 · answered by Mamacita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can a word from a drunk person be used ?
2006-12-14 20:56:31 · answer #10 · answered by Mat D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋