i wanna be home-schooled...?

Question

i go to a very good private school but i hate it and i hate everyone here its toooo hard and everyone is soooo smart and im always behind in class and its very hard to focus...im too shy to raise my hand and ask a question cause well..im new..i need individual help i find that certain teacher move a little too quickly on topics..and i have serious concentrating problems, i can never focus fully on one thing..im always procrastinating and it takes me forever to do my homework -sometimes i go to bed at 3am...
and sometimes it can take me up to 6 hours just to write a one page essay...plus i just hate high school and i had to repeat sophomore year cause i was too dumb to be a junior ..

Answer 1

u need some one to counsel u

Answer 2

First of all, have you talked to your parents about this? If they can't help you while you're in school, and help you figure out a solution, there is no way homeschooling is going to be a good fit for you. Homeschooled kids need to have a strong and communicative bond with their parents for it to be a positive experience.

So, talk to your parents first, and if they don't give you the support you need, talk to your counselor at school. If he doesn't give you the support you need, do the best you have with what you got.

Also, keep in mind that homeschooling is not your only option. Perhaps you can change private schools, or you can get an afterschool tutor (preferably one that isn't cute, or you'll be distracted :), or maybe there is a charter school or magnet school in your area.

If you homeschool, it won't be easy. It won't solve all your problems. You'll still have lots of problems. What you have to decide is this: what are your goals? Not little goals like "pass this class", but BIG goals like "designing clothing" or "understanding politics" or "doing artshows across the country" or whatever. And then figure out the steps necessary to meet your goals. Then, from there, you can decide whether your school or homeschooing (or other options) are a better way for you to attain those goals.

If you don't have goals, then it won't matter where you go to school. You'll be unhappy. And you'll blame your unhappiness on your situation. When in fact, even if you are doing poorly in school, your unhappiness comes from inside, not from school. Once you figure that out, all those hard classes and the pressure doesn't seem so important. And once you figure out where happiness comes from, you'll be making your first steps into adulthood.

Good luck!

Answer 3

There are some good natural products on the market to help with concentration. Try Efalex...or even Flax Seed oil.

You might ask your parents to get you a tutor who can give you diagnostic evaluations. It might be that you have missed on a couple of building blocks in your education. What that means is that when you are in these classes, the teachers are assuming that you know something that you haven't actually learned yet. It can prove very frustrating, and if you are prone to daydreaming, will make your time in class a complete waste. That would be a real shame considering the opportunity and privilege you have been given to attend a nice school.

Discipline is getting tough with yourself, and realizing that if you don't do it, it's not going to get done. You are the only one who can make you successful...not your teacher, and not a tutor, even though they are certainly the ones who are going to help you help yourself. Sometime you just have to do stuff that you don't feel like. I know I certainly don't want to do the dishes that are sitting in my sink right now, but it's just something I've got to do.

Hope this helps, and best wishes.

Answer 4

Awe!
I feel bad for you! My high school experience was very similar. I just always had so much trouble focusing and was also very shy. I think I would have loved to have been homeschooled.

I had a hard time getting through college for the same reason. I lacked the discipline to stay focused and meet deadlines. I ended up dropping lots of classes that I had fallen behind in. I cringe just thinking back over it all now. I felt like such a failure. I knew I was smart enough, but I had other limitations that messed everything up. (Strangely enough, I ended up being a public schooI teacher. Go figure!)

I did manage to get through it all though, and get my college degree. I think you will, too. It might be a struggle, but you'll make it--even if you have to stay in that school.

I would recommend talking to your parents about it. Maybe you could do a little research on homeschooling, and present the information to your parents. Go to www.hslda.org for info. and resources.

Now I homeschool my own kids. My oldest was in public school when he was very young, and I saw in him some of those same traits that you and I share. Homeschooling wasn't easy for either of us until we figured out what we were doing, but over time it has proven to be a great solution. My son has really thrived in homeschool.

So I guess, even if you end up "staying the course" with your current situation, it still will have served a purpose. Maybe you'll end up homeschooling your kids, or maybe you'll be a really cool teacher that can help other kids overcome the struggles you've been through.

Difficulties in your life can strengthen you in the long run and even make you better for the wear.

Answer 5

Read Tammy T again
I find myself nearly agreeing with her (and I am shocked too!)
Please TALK TO YOUR PARENTS!!
that is the most important, beyond what anyone would say to you across the 'net

Plz- don't lose faith in yourself
Moving is one of life's hugest challenges, I had a huge problem when I moved during Jr high, I had a few bad semesters
believe this:
NO ONE WANTS TO SEE YOU FAIL!
EVERYONE WANTS YOU TO DO GOOD

Private school sounds like a very awesome oppurtunity, YOu really need to find out how the school and its teachers can help YOU. that starts with asking for help. The pirvate schools I am aware of around me in Detroti all have tutors, the upperclassmen are assigned to tutor the underclassmen, see if this there for you!!
get some sleep, this will be tricky, you will need to manage your time better, NO ONE learns without getting good rest,
You may need to dial back on some other activites, sports, internet surfing, whatever

why do you think home school would work for you?
You know some home schoolers?
Sounds to me like you got 'grass is greener on the otherside' syndrome
don't give into HATE, no one is at their best when they hate
but I do know how that feels!

Answer 6

Well if you are getting F's and D's in school clearly something is not working and homeschooling or a Private school might better suit you. Also have you considered a tutor to pull up your grades?

Answer 7

It sounds like the main problem is boldness and discipline, not stupidity or anything. You have to take control of your education because, to some extent, it determines what you can do with your life. I am homeschooled and sometimes being disciplined and getting everything done is hard, but you get to work at your own pace and you aren't distracted with a bunch of other kids. Try to set tangible goals with improving your self discipline, and try to see the big picture. If you finish school well, you can have a bigger choice of careers.

Answer 8

Be grateful your parents can send you to private school.
You need to work on overcoming your shyness. You are just as entitled to ask for help as everyone else and believe this, all those people you think are soooo smart, they are struggling just as hard as you are, they just hide it better.

You're not dumb unless you think you're dumb. Stop believing you are dumb and start believing you are smart and everyone else will believe it, too.

Answer 9

I'm homeschooled and I always get behind in school. It's really hard for me to get caught up, but it is way easier then public school. Ask your parents about a charter school that homeschools. Thats what I'm in.

Answer 10

Don't put yourself down like that.
I myself am homeschooled, and quite frankly, I hate it. (By the way, it's the hardest form of schooling!) Plus... if you're homeschooled, you have no social life and no friends automatically it seems. It sucks.. not as great as people say..

Answer 11

Homeschooling is serious business. If your parents don't have the time or committment to it, then it is a bad thing to do.