I was young and in loved. I gave him everything but it wasn't good enough and now he wants to communicate? I just had a talk with my ex-boyfriend on the phone since 1 year after we broke up. I loved him, and we were planning on getting married. His family didn't approve and picked out a girl for him and he got married to her. I was left broken hearted. He gave me his new # and we talked and I asked him if he is happy. He would not tell me yes or no. Does that mean that he is happy and doesn't want to say it in front of me or does that mean that he is not and is regreting it? I'm confused because he is still talking to me after he got married and has a wife.
2006-12-14 12:34:28 · 13 answers · asked by Zeenath 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow that's rough. I have some old loves that I feel the same about, they moved forward and while some are happy & others aren't as happy - I think it's hard for them to want to look back. Men aren't as tied to the past as us gals are. Maybe he has some unresolved issues and wants to smooth them through, perhaps there is guilt for letting his family get involved. But since he is married, I would wish him Happiness and maybe suggest that you hope one day you'll be happy to, or if there is something he can help you improve upon. Either way you don't want to meddle in a new marriage but you can smooth things though and maybe make some peace to move forward yourself.
Should he ever express he's unhappy and wishes to choose you again, let him know how it makes your heart feel but that it's best he resolve his current issue/as well as family issues before moving forward, but don't wait around forever.
I still have a hard time settling with the ex's of mine that are married with kids, I realized I needed to focus more on "was I happy than if they were". So I'm working on that....maybe you could do and get the chance of a lifetime to make things better. If your really lucky and brave maybe you'll get to see it for yourself...
2006-12-14 12:42:45 · answer #1 · answered by Aphrodite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this situation has disaster written all over it. You should not be in contact with him like this, and should not be asking such questions of him. He is a married man now, let it be. Let them find out for themselves if it is a happy marriage, your input is intrusive. I would assume he has feelings for his wife or he would not have married her, despite his parents influence. If it does not work out for them, don't be a part of the cause. Get on with your life, go out, meet people, have fun, leave him alone. If sometime in the future his marriage fails, maybe you can re-connect, but like I said, don't be a factor in it. Be classier than that.
2006-12-14 12:42:49 · answer #2 · answered by harlowtoo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would advise you to just forget about him and move on...he got married and waited a whole yr to talk to you...he did you wrong and i dont see why you would still want him...i know 1 night out with your girls could come mr wright or mr right now!!! Forget that lame! Do your thang but if you do give in to him at least make him beg
2006-12-14 12:41:36 · answer #3 · answered by Raymond 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If hes following what his family tells him to do there is going to be no way hes going to go for you. Trust me, I come from the same type of family. Move on, its hard I know but theres no chance of him leaving her for you (he married her because his parents wanted him to, hes not going to divorce her). He proabably isn't happy but that doesnt mean that he should drag you into something where you put your happiness on hold and wait. You might still love him but are you sure hes not trying to have his cake and eat it to? Hes taken.
2006-12-14 12:41:36 · answer #4 · answered by Lexy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For one even if his side of the family didn't like you he should have put his foot down. ANd told them he was in Love with you and he was going to marry you. But for some stupid reason he thought the other girl was better than you. SO my advice to you is tell him he made his bed sleep on it. ANd tell him if he wants to be friends cool, but that's all. But have you thought about maybe he wants to have you on the side for some extra sex when he wants it. But thin about it, becasue he should have chosen you over his family.
2006-12-14 12:47:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're broke up, you shouldn't care. If he's married, he can't be yours until that gets annulled, so make it clear that you can make him a lot happier if he gets out of that wierd marriage. If he did it to get his parents' money or house or something, then that's his choice. Let him live with it until he decides do do what is best for him and not his parents.
2006-12-14 12:38:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-30 10:30:17 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this case, it sounds like he just wants more of the cookies you gave him last year. mmmmmm now that i think about this, the "cookie" must be great !. anyway stay away from him. you sound to sweet for him. Way to sweet for him and he is just turning sour as each day passes. now back to those 'cookies'.... i love cookies !
2006-12-14 12:43:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should not bother him, i know that if someone broke my heart i would never want to speak or hear from them again, u should just find your self someone better and more worth your time. even though i know it is probably hard to get over how you feel about him u should still try, he obviously got over u
2006-12-14 12:41:15 · answer #9 · answered by breonbebeh13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How tragic he did not have the courage to go against his family and choose the girl he wanted.
2006-12-14 12:36:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋