How do I overcome Shyness??!?!?!?

Question

how do i overcome shyness? i am really shy, and thats y i dont have many friends. its not like any1 hates me i just dont hang out with them outside of skool, because i am shy. so how do i stop being shy??
please dont say " thats ur problem not mine" or " idk deal with it urself

Answer 1

What is at the root of your shyness? Shyness is the result of some insecurity. This insecurity can be the result how you percieve your looks, wealth, intelligence, etc, as compred to your peers. Please understand that you are very critical of your own self image, and this is not how others view you. People who seem out going can be equally self-critical, but are able to sort of get over it. Ask yourself why you are shy. Why are you afraid of engaging other people? What is at the root of this insecurity? What is preventing you with interacting with other people? Once you determine what your own self image problems are, fix them and fix the problem. Your peers won't notice any diference though. They're too busy worrying about their own insecurities. Shyness is not a desireable quality in te business world. You will soon find out that in the "real world" so to speak, pity is in short supply. If you carry this into adulthood, you will be either considered weak, or a snob. In either case, it can damage a career. Work to overcome this now. In social situations, just be yourself. Get to know people and you will see that everyone is a little insecure about something.

Answer 2

you are in the wrong section. But i will try to help. Shyness stems from insecurity, low self esteem and low confidence. You have been socially conditioned to be shy, maybe because you were picked on, or did not have enough positive reinforcement as a child... unfortunately this has effected you as an adult (you are an adult arent you?) What i suggest is this. First. Realize most people are shy to some degree. Everyone has reservations when dealing with other people to some extent, everybody doubts themselves and has insecurities. You are not alone in the way you feel. Secondly, to deal with shyness you are going to have to be persistent, it is going to take time and practice. Start off with some very small things you could do. smile to a check out clerk and ask how there day is. build up from small to large. Analyze the way you think. Google "distorted thinking" and read up you may be surprised what you find, and eliminate any negative thinking patterns. Third. Be kind to yourself..and respect yourself. No one is going to do that for you. Do not put yourself down. Try not to dwell on things. What has happened has happened and look towards the future for improvement. ignore insults. Remember compliments. If you cant talk to people in real life, find a forum online for people who suffer from shyness. Read up on things you can do. You can escape if you really want to.

Answer 3

I used to have the same issue and then I figured out that a lot of my shyness was coming from me worrying what other people thought about me and that I never wanted to do or say something that would make people not like me or judge me. I started to think “who cares what they think” and “I’m never going to see them again, so who cares!” and then I found that I was much more comfortable opening up when I didn’t feel that whatever I did or said mattered that much. Also, the phrase ‘fake it until you make it’ is really useful, just start acting like how you would like to be and after a while you will get more comfortable with being more outspoken. And also, being shy isn’t the end of the world, a lot of people are shy, it’s just all about how you deal with it and not let it affect your life in a negative way!
Good luck!!

Answer 4

You may have a condition known as social anxiety. I had it for 20 some-odd years. A year ago I was prescribed Zoloft from a psychiatrist, and holy krap! That stuff works great!!! Tell your mom you want to go see a psychiatrist because you need to get some help. She will probably not want you to go, but if it's covered by your insurance, she'll probably let you if you persist.

Answer 5

to overcome shyness u need to get out in the open. talk to other people that u have never talk to before. if they dont talk back then go and talk to some one else. just because they dont talk back it doesnt mean that they dont like u. it also doesnt mean that u should stop talking u need to keep getting out there

Answer 6

stop caring what people think about you. just remember this: if they don't like who you are then they can just deal with it.

trust me that worked for me (I was shy up until about January of this year and now I have in excess of 30 friends that I hang out with outside of school on a regular basis)

Answer 7

Well that's one way by telling people to step off if they don't agree with you. Also, try your best to join school clubs etc. Start doing things you like to do like if you like art join a art club etc.

Answer 8

I'm the same way...Hold your breathe and just do it. That's it. Can't be like that forever. Take a deep breathe and jump in there. Everything will be fine.

Answer 9

You really need to just put yourself out there!!!! Thats the only way you are going to break out of that shell :) It may be hard and uncomfortable at first but it will benefit you in the long run! Good Luck!!!!

Answer 10

try to make yourself get embarassed on purpose, and youll find out when you are trying to embarass yourself, it is nearly impossible, so a few times a day try to make yourself get embarassed by doing something you normally wouldnt do, if you do this everyday, in time you will get over your shyness