How do I get my best friend to stop being so "sexually friendly"?

Question

My best friend, 19, is "sexually friendly"...she likes three guys right now, but keeps having sex with her guy friends who only call her when they want to get laid. I understand that it's her body and her life, but she is better than this! She deserves someone who respects her, but she keeps hooking up with boys who use her. She is just a number to them, just a name on their list. When she tells me what she does, I get sad and disappointed in her, so she's keeping things from me...but am I so wrong to want better for her then to become a skank like so many of these college girls I see who hook up with random guys and not care? She has no self-respect, and what she is doing is really low and unclassy. But she won't listen to me when I beg her to reconsider her actions. Is there anything I can do or say to make her understand...or should I just stop caring what she does?

Oh yeah, just for the record, this girl is a Christian.

Answer 1

She's already a skank... the best she can be now is "used to be a skank" in the boys eyes.

She needs to break this habit NOW and seek counseling. She'll be just another unwed mother on welfare.

Answer 2

My Dear,I do applaud your efforts to talk to your friend who doesn't have a listening ear to what you're saying.I understand what you mean as a good friend trying to defend your friends back,but lets look at it this way,she isn't ready to listern to you perhaps you have done your best as a friend .All i will say is leave her to her fate but i promise you when she realises the damage she's done to herself ,I pray it won't be too late for her.If i should ask are you a Christian,if Yes ,then put her in Prayers becos thats your only last bet becos God helps those that help themselves.You've done your part as a friend it's time for her to act if she wants,but i know that there's a friend that sticket more than a brother(Which you are,keep it up).Your mind won't leave her as far as she still does those things but just try and stop talking ,one day she would realise that it pays to keep herslf for just one Guy than mess around with many.Guide your Heart!

Answer 3

Hello and how are you doing this evening? I read you’re question / story, & I understand you’re frustration & pain. I have only one suggestion, me growing up in one of the worst neighborhood I seen female abuse mentally & physically. Know is time for you as a friend, and set down with her like when she’s telling you about those nasty disease free things she’s done or doing. That’s when you become the friend and say in your mind **** that I care for you to much! You tell her straight up look your becoming a ******* discus sting person. One not every one you meet in life will not give a **** about you living or dying, there’s a lot of people out for self, and just to get a ****. If you as a friend keep it real with your self first, and say I don’t give a **** about her crying & not wanting to talk with you, but at least you told her. And if she’s not smart about being women with respect for her self, then that’s her decision! (LEAST YOU WHERE BEING A FRINED)
HAY WHY NOT TELL HER? IF YOU’RE A FRIEND RIGHT, FRIEND DON’T LET FRIENDS DRINK & DRIVE! DO THEY? HAPPY HOLIDAY’S / HAPPY NEW YEAR TO YOU & YOURS!

Answer 4

Unfortanately there is nothing you can do but let her be.If she is your friend,you now have told her what you think,she knows what you think,but now leave her alone or quit hanging out with her if it disturbs you that bad.I have many diffrent girlfriends ,and we all have our own approach/outlook on sex.No two people ever really have the exact same way of handling their love life,but it is a peronal choice.She has her view,you have yours.You must stay out of it at this point.If she complains to you about feeling used,you can ask her if she'd like your advice,if she says"no",then tell her you don't want to hear her complain then.

Answer 5

dude you purely would desire to teach them howdy. to tell you the chum zone is't all that undesirable. dont be a kiss up the full time however the greater you dangle out with them the greater they'll comprehend how cool you're. the sole element with the chum zone is you would be able to desire to attend and see because of the fact it may take an prolonged time it takes them to comprehend. I;m just about beneficial which you will have the flexibility to persue a relationship with between the girls.

Answer 6

I appreciate your behavior who really care for your friend. But she is to stubborn and think she is right. I only can suggest you bring her to a counselor or psychiatrist. I think she has a feeling that guys only want sex with girls and accepting a good relationship is far from over to your friend. Keep cool, and dint stress yourself my dear.

Answer 7

Maybe she should read the teachings of Jesus the Nazarene. Personally, I do'nt believe in the Bible, but I do know a few women who gave up promiscuity after converting to christianity.

Answer 8

Not every woman wants what you want. A relationship. Its you who feels like a promiscous woman is a skank, when she probably feels she is sexualy liberated.

As Yoda once said, fear leads to hate, hate leads to anger. Are you angry and stupid?

Answer 9

i would have her look at pics of herpes and ghonoria, clamidia and other nasty ****.. keep showing them to her.. heck.. put some next to the toilet when she uses the rest room.. she'll think twice before passing vagina around.. jk i dont noe talk to her and let her noe that she is better then that.

if you hang out with a hoe ppl are gonna think you are one.. and i noe your not so your in a pickle .... yikes!

Answer 10

she definitely needs help
I dont think she really wants to be a toy to boys, that´s what she is now.
What you just told us, sounds perfectly reasonable, tell her the same thing, or send her the link for this question, and let her read herself, our opinions