Ok me and my boyfriend of 2 years broke up a month ago because he put me in debt. Well we just back together, and now we are having problems again. I missed him so much so he took me back. Everytime that he wouldn't want me I would want him more. Everytime he wanted me, I wanted him less. He has been very controlling lately. I want to hang out with him because I don't really feel like going to bars. I am afraid if I don't take him back I will never meet anyone else and he will start his job that he got and he will be better. I am also afraid if I do take him back, he will fall into the same guy that he was. I don't know what way to go. Please I need some help! I am a mess!!!!
2006-12-14 11:50:17 · 12 answers · asked by KAB128 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He will only take all your money again and rip your heart out.
The only thing wrong with you is him.
DO NOT be afraid you will never meet anyone again.
YOU WILL!
But you will have to distance your self from that jerk for longer than a month before you will be ready for a new love.
When you do meet the love of your life, you will be glad that this guy is out of the way.
That is if you do the right thing now and dump him!
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2006-12-14 11:54:36 · answer #1 · answered by Dave Yours Truly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
About nine out of ten times nothing ever changes,you will fall into the same patterns. Relationships are a game of chase, everyone desires what they think they can't have-grass is greener on the other side- type thing. you need to follow your heart and see where it takes you, but if it's only been a month and you are having problems again, it doesn't sound good. When you only want something because you can't have it you don't have anything real there.
2006-12-14 11:57:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a look at who you are and decide that you are worth more. If he is irresponsible and has let you stress behind his financial irresponsibility, what will it be like when you have children or purchase a home or plan for retirement? Are you really willing to take responsible for everything being accomplished? I hope not. Sometimes the things we think we want so bad are the very things that are the worst for us. Good luck to you.
2006-12-14 11:55:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never make a decision based on fear. You are way too young to give up your life for someone on the wrong path. What you are craving is familiarity. Deep down you know you can do better but you need a clean break.
2006-12-14 11:54:03 · answer #4 · answered by Pilgrim 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will find someone else eventually, never get stuck with a guy just for fear of being lonely in the future, go out (not to bars) and meet new guys. leave this one, as u said it urself u already having problems, so most likely thats how its going to b all along. move on.
2006-12-14 11:54:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't love this guy, you merely want to be with him out of convenience. It's easier to be with him than putting the effort into finding a new boyfriend. My ex put me into debt the exact same way, and as soon as I figured it out I was gone.
2006-12-14 11:53:33 · answer #6 · answered by Todd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this sounds like a game of cat and mouse. Once the cat catches the mouse, he's pretty much done. Once the cat let goes of the mouse, he wants it again.
You have a problem of letting things go.
2006-12-14 11:53:30 · answer #7 · answered by The Doctor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a new guy. This one may be great, but together you two are not. You will find the one for you if you look and are patient.
2006-12-14 11:54:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you need to give him up. ask yourself if you love him. I think most people are like that. where when he didn't want you you wanted him more. but from what you told us you are just with him because you think no one else will want you. but trust me there is someone out there that is ment to be with you. you will find him.
2006-12-14 12:04:14 · answer #9 · answered by jmd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE DOESN'T SOUND LIKE HE'S FOR YOU. YOU DON'T NEED SOMEONE WHO PUTS YOU INTO DEBT. JUST BE STRONG AND TAKE IT 1 DAY AT A TIME. YOU'LL BE OK.
2006-12-14 11:55:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋