She always tells me she loves me but this guy is still there and theres another thing she says that she wants to have him as a friend should i allow that?
2006-12-14 11:39:00 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be mature let her have friends and a life, if she crosses you and cheats just let her go, your young so just live life!!
2006-12-14 11:40:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let me just tell you one thing. Guys and girls can never just be "friends".Because if she gets mad on you about something. Guess who she's gonna go to? the other Guy friend and then somehow in time she'll get emotionally attatched to the other guy and find out that he's a better choice then you. Avoid all that and start attending her church along with her! That way the other guy can tell fur sure that you've got a grip on this chick and to back off. BTW I speak from alotta experience!
have a blessed day
ali
2006-12-14 19:44:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. Jealous is not a good feeling to have.It is hard knowing her ex is going to the same church as she is. If I were you I won't be jealous because that would only come between you and her. Don't order her not to be friends with him because that would only make her mad and possible break up with you. Try to stay calm. If she really does love you and is commited to your relationship she won't do anything to ruin that bascially what I'm saying as a female getting jealous or ordering her not to be friends with him wouldn't be a good idea and it could cause your relationship. I don't think you want that.
2006-12-14 19:45:17 · answer #3 · answered by Irish Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, very difficult.. well i am with a guy that i love and loves me, but i still keep in contact with my x for reasons that we have a dog together and i love the dog so i can't just stop seeing him.. i wouldn't care if they went to the same church, i would just tell her how you feel and let her know that it some what bothers you and you hope that the only time they spend together is at church and hopefully in "gods" house they aren't doing any sinning..i wouldn't be to jealous and if you want try to make her a little jealous and show her how you feel you could do that.. other then that i don't know, good luck and best wishes!
2006-12-14 19:43:52 · answer #4 · answered by ~broken~ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You say that your girlfriend goes to the same church as her ex. and you want to know if you should be jealous? You do not explain how long your girlfriend was with this other guy. I guess it is human nature, or the green eyed monster as they say that won't let us trust someone that used to be their girl/boyfriend to someone else. But if your girlfriend really loves you as she says you should trust her, and she should maintain her talks to him on a neutral level, and hope that they do not kindle their friendship into more than that. I am not saying they will, but you have to be on your guard and hope for the best.
2006-12-14 19:51:53 · answer #5 · answered by a.vasquez7413@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not unless he is going just to be with her and keep a relationship with her(more than friends). Church is the house of God and if he is just going for the spiritual experience and just happens to say hi then it is your doubts on her you need to work on. Maybe you should join in and kindle your relationship with God so he can clarify things for you and you can clarify some things on your own too. Talk to her and find out.
2006-12-14 19:48:22 · answer #6 · answered by darlalee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if you don't allow it, if she wants to be friends with him, you can't stop her. Overprotecting her and jealousy will only destroy your relationship with her. Although you feel threatened by him and obviously insecure, if you want things to work out between you and her, you've got to learn to trust her. Trust takes time, but how can you start to trust her if you don't give her the chance to show you she can have guy friends and still be faithful? Don't forget who she is with. you or him? He is the ex a reason. Should she ever cheat on you with him, you need to realize that it's not worth it. But definitely give it a chance. I remain friends with my ex, and that's all they'll ever be.
2006-12-14 19:47:33 · answer #7 · answered by Alicia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look she probably moved on..but you should just let her be friends with him. I mean that is just like her telling you not to hang out with any of your girl friends anymore. They go to the same church. SO WHAT? They are bound to talk to one another anyway with or without you knowing, and that does not mean she is going to cheat on you. If she does then move on, life still goes on..jeez its not like you're freakin married to her!!
2006-12-14 19:44:21 · answer #8 · answered by Aida 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Allow? Unfortunately for you it isn't your choice, the worst thing a guy has ever done in relationships is try to control and choose friends for me, it's the fastest way to drive a girl away, just have some trust in her, it's a church, they g othere to worship God, not makeout. If you love her you have to trust her.
2006-12-14 19:42:22 · answer #9 · answered by mirandap82 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
"ALLOW" that implies that you think you own her. I'd back away from that sort of comment if I were you.
You aren't Married to her are you?
ANd the term "EX" means "used to be". So what if she goes to church with the 'ex'? Why don't you go to church with her? Seems to me that would solve a lot of issues with you.
2006-12-14 19:42:13 · answer #10 · answered by domesticgoddess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! you should be jealous, that's normal. Let them be friends, but at the same time, be a keen observer. If you feel that there's something miracle between them... LET HER GO! just think that it's not your lost! and you deserve someone better.
2006-12-14 19:52:30 · answer #11 · answered by estiocohk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋