My boyfriend tells me he is not still seeing his ex and that he can't get her to move out of his house. he has been trying for a few months now. he says he is not even sleeping in the same bed as she is. he tells me that as soon as he gets her to move out he wants me to move in with him. he left MI and moved to MN with me, but we both had to move back due to circumstances (not between us) and she still had not moved out, but he was hoping she had. i don't know what to think. he spends nights with me once in a while an we see each other every chance we get, but he won't talk to me when she is around and she doesn't even know i am in MI again. he says he wants to keep things cool between them so she will help him get his loan for his business that will set him and I for life. what do you think? is he lying to me? or is he sincere?
2006-12-14 11:16:16 · 16 answers · asked by Amy H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he wants a three some
2006-12-14 11:18:25 · answer #1 · answered by jac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well when he gets him loan I guess you'll know because he'll either give her the boot or he'll come up with some new excuse. Guys never want to be the bad guys. Some would probably let an ex stay inedfinitely if it meant avoiding conflict. I don't think it's cool that he seems to be trying to hide you from her. Basically you're his girlfriend but he's letting your ex control your relationship. If you can handle that then it's fine. Personally I'd give him the ultimatum to kick her out once and for all or kiss me goodbye! He'll likely drag this on forever if you let him. If he picks her over you I guess you have your answer.
2006-12-14 19:31:02 · answer #2 · answered by copper_eos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Woman- Get the HELL out of that. I hope this dosn't hurt your feelings but, come on! Do not fall for that! Do NOT stand for that. You are better then that and you could be with ANYONE you want! I kow it is hard trust me I was in love with and am now in love with a new "abuser"! So I probably have no room to talk. But, come on to help him get a loan for your new lives??? You don't want that girl supporting you, do you? Come on now you can do it be an independent woman tell him to f u c k himself and get a REAL man!
Good luck!
2006-12-14 19:20:28 · answer #3 · answered by A Woman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is lying. He wants his cake and eat it to. He is a cheater. He could always move out if she won't and he could always call the police. There are alot of places she could stay like a homeless shelter. He is not telling her that you exist. I would try to meet her without him knowing and talk to her. You might find your answer there. I know it is hard but u would be better off without him. Ditch the guy. You don't deserve the crap.
2006-12-14 20:40:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well a woman that doesnt want to leave can be a formidable opponent. I once had a woman wet herself because I wanted her to get out of my car. Just like a pet would jump on your bed and piss to show its annoyance with you. It took over a week to get the smell of her urine out of the car. And the seat was still stained when i got rid of the car.
2006-12-14 19:21:35 · answer #5 · answered by f1antasyman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HELLO!!!!, He wants his cake and his icing too.He's probably what is commonly known as a "Player". Your both being played,and it's hard to even imagine what he's telling the other girl about you and him, or if there is even a "You and him". And furthermore what type of a person (slimeball) would try to extort money from someone by playing on their emotions . He's Trouble with a capital "T".
2006-12-14 19:30:57 · answer #6 · answered by EveretteDavid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmmm....that's a tough one, but I really don't know if I would believe him or not. Why doesn't he stay with you at your place instead of at his house with her if there is nothing going on? I mean, he doesn't have to stay there to keep things cool between them. I would talk to him and tell him that you are not comfortable with him staying with her and you would like for him to stay with you until she moves out. He might be sincere, but if it were me, I would be questioning it too. Good luck with whatever you choose to do!
2006-12-14 19:22:48 · answer #7 · answered by melody g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mad shady. chances are they are still hooking up and if he was truly interested in you, he would proudly let her know he was with someone new. it's all about you now, not her. he can't really legally get her to leave if she's part of a lease at the same place he lives at. i don't know. this guy just rubs me the wrong way. i'd say don't believe him, but the real question is if you're going to listen to anyone's advice. i know how it is when you really like/love someone.
2006-12-14 19:20:49 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Rabeka♦ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him u are uncomfortable between the situation at the house. and that you want to spend the night with him and if he wont let you than he is hiding somthing from you, and you might considering upgrading on the boyfriend.. tell her that you are back in town and that you and him are talking about living together.. she how she acts about that and tell him it slipped out..
lots of luck happy holidays
2006-12-14 19:19:53 · answer #9 · answered by Beth m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey this man is lying to you. been through this to many times. You should do what i did to the last man that did this to me. I just simply wrote a letter to his wife and told her that she needed to hire her husband a baby setter cause he was out telling woman that he is not married. Boy the crap hit the roof in there house when she got the letter.
2006-12-14 19:22:22 · answer #10 · answered by valerie s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Open your eyes he is playing you both. Get a hold of the girl that is staying with him and talk and see what she has to say about their relationship.
2006-12-14 19:21:03 · answer #11 · answered by Clara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋