How is it that some people still want to be friends with someone that hurt then, rejected them, only wanted them for sex.
Do they have a problem moving on, does it mean they want to try to get back with them. Because thats the only reasons I would want to stay in contact with any ex's. Saying we are just friend is a lie because you are ex lovers / partners and that does not change.
2006-12-14 11:09:40 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well after i broke up with my X of 4 years, i was willing to still be friends with him, but he was bitter and still loved me.. so he didn't like the idea very much and was cruel to me.. after he got into dating other girls he was okay with me hanging out at his house. i think that we became closer after we were apart and it's hard for most people to do something like that if they still totally love the person.. like if the guy i was with right now left me, he said he would always want me to be his friend, and i felt good to know that, but i dont' think i could do it because i love him and if i saw him with another girl i would so be jealous.. and i would try my best to do the same back to him with the jealousy.. by the way this is a very good question i will so give you a thumbs up! good luck and best wishes for everything in your life!
2006-12-14 11:18:11 · answer #1 · answered by ~broken~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all marriages/relationships end under the circumstances that you mentioned. Sometimes people just grow apart, or come to mutual decisions about ending the relationship for whatever reasons. So if two people can be mature about it, why have the bitterness and ill-will towards the other person? Especially if there are children involved; keeping things as "friendly" as possible is the healthiest way to handle a split.
2006-12-14 19:31:22 · answer #2 · answered by baybeegrl5 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first you have to understand that after you guys break up and hurt the **** out of each other, you have to seperate and not talk to each other for a minute. during that time you have to find it in your heart to forgive them. then decide if you want to be friends, either again or for the first time.
for me my ex's were always gonna be around in some way, so we had no choice but to be friends or atleast civil to each other. also, that we wouldn't want to put our friends through that "which one should we still talk to or invite to something...etc?" bullshit. so it just made everything easy and better to go/ get along.
2006-12-14 19:21:17 · answer #3 · answered by smthomas306 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i have stayed friends with a couple ex's just so i could stay close and hopefully get back with them. But their are times that i actually just wanted to be friends with an ex just to be a friend and be there for them because i cared for them. For instance i have stayed friends with my kids father because of my kids of course but i would never want to be with him and i am friends with my ex husband and i also would never want to do anything with him either. Me and my husband were friends before we dated so we decided to stay friends and not loose the friendship we did have between us!! And on the opposite i have stayed friends with my youngest kids dad because deep down i want to get back with him, but i know it will probably never happen again.
2006-12-14 19:23:50 · answer #4 · answered by noramom4life101 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sometimes we stay friends because we are comfortable with them dispite the hurt. eventually we leave them. being friends with an ex is hard and tricky.
2006-12-14 19:16:58 · answer #5 · answered by intelligent80000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋