My parents don't like eachother anymore and it's breaking my heart. They've been together for 24 years and have been our rock, but I know the past 4 years have been wearing on them and it's finally worn down on them. My mom is becoming meaner each day and my dad is becoming more resentful towards her. My mom and i are close, but her rudeness is obscene, And i love my dad, he is a teddybear and would do anything for anyone, and he's becoming bitter and this is not him. This is not either of them. My heart is breaking and I have no idea what to do anymore or say to either of them.
2006-12-14 10:58:55 · 12 answers · asked by ansia22 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
c every relationship has a problem. 24 yrs u get used to each other now gettin logger heads doesnt really help either of them . just get them together on a table together and tell them what they had promised b4 lord when thry got marrried in thick and thin health and sickness they have to be together ask them to talk abt how they feel what they want from themselves and each other and tell them their bitterness is takin toll on u. let them talk openly when one talks other shud only take note not say anything . then vice versa and then let them talk it out .. whatever it is gettin separated is nott he solution coz any relationship goes thru the same thing after sometime so try this out hope it works for u ..
2006-12-14 11:17:37 · answer #1 · answered by nimi shaun 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that is a really hurtful situation for you I am sure but as parents, the last thing they want to do is put stress on you b/c of their relationship problems. I'm sure alot of the reason they stayed together was for their children, so I am sure they would really want to know if something they were doing was affecting their children now, it would kind of make their sacrifices pointless then. Maybe they just don't realize that it is affecting you so much, especially since you're an adult, maybe they figure you can deal with it better or something. At any rate, it is not your job or obligation to help your parents sort out their issues. Even though they're your parents doesn't mean you know all the inner workings of their relationship, so you wouldn't be able to, nor should you, objectively give advice. I would just talk to them (separately of course) and let them know just how deeply this hurts you without accusing or blaming, just tell them straight from your heart what this is doing to you and see what they have to say. Maybe they just need a reality check is all. Good luck, I hope it works out eventually.
2006-12-14 19:05:53 · answer #2 · answered by Princess~C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went throught that about 10 years ago. Sadly, there is nothing to do but go on with your life. Just put one foot in front of the other each day. Fortunately, my parents worked it out, hopefully yours will to.
2006-12-14 19:01:43 · answer #3 · answered by lefty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try writing them a note, separately.
tell then exactly what you have said here. I'm sure they are not doing this deliberately to hurt you. sometimes adults react instead of thinking things out. it is not your fault.
if things get worse or you are feeling worse, tell your parents that you wish to seek counseling for family. if they don't wish to go. tell them you want to go alone.
if nothing else it will help you to get better coping skills.
good luck hun.
2006-12-14 19:05:00 · answer #4 · answered by KRIS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was a kid, I too had my parents in that same situation, I tried to interfere and my Dad told me, " this is a marriage problem and its between your mom and me, so stay out of it" And so I did, and they resolved their problems alone, no resentments on either side.
So stay out of that problem- let them clear their situation.
LUCK TO YOU.
2006-12-14 19:13:33 · answer #5 · answered by Taz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww. Do not despair. When you move out, you can forget about this and remember them the way they were before. ANd they won't be there to remind you that they have changed. Just remember all the good times you had.
2006-12-14 19:02:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think the best thing for them is to separate for a Lil while.. you know they dont have to get a divorce but separation would be nice.. who knows.. maybe they'll appreciate each other more and remember why they were together this long..
2006-12-14 19:03:25 · answer #7 · answered by coqueta19 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Theres nothing to say. Just love them. Anything you say will cause resentment.
2006-12-14 19:02:20 · answer #8 · answered by sm4125 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what I did when mine were doing the same thing....go tell them.....why don't you guys divorce, everyone will be happier, including you two!"
2006-12-14 19:01:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-12-14 19:09:33 · answer #10 · answered by mr johnson 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋