We have been together a year and a half and have been happy. There have been a lot of changes in our lives lately and we have been arguing more. He says he doesnt know how he feels anymore he says everytime he talks to me he gets angry and i always end up upset and crying. I think tonight we will end up breaking up. Though i really dont wanna, id rather work at our relationship. I love him with all my heart and soul, i always have and i could never see myself loving anyone else. It hurts like mad right now. Im confussed, i cant eat or sleep. Im a mess, i really dont know what to do!
2006-12-14 10:33:46 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sometimes you have to let someone go, to make it work. Although you don't want to break-up, maybe for now it would be best for both of you as you are always fighting. How can you have a good relationship if he's always angry just being around you and the two of you can't get along right now? You should try giving your boyfriend some space and let him do his own thing. If the two of you are meant to be together then you'll get back together later, if not then you should consider yourself lucky that you found out now and only lost a year and a half, then staying in an unhappy relationship for years, doing the whole marrage thing, kid thing and then hating each other so much all you want to do is hurt each other.
"If you love something set it free, if it comes back to you it's your forever, if not, it was never meant to be."
2006-12-14 10:41:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
If it comes to a break up suggest working at it or ask him what you can do to change things or make the situation better.
Unfortunately there isn't much you can do in this situation. And when one half of a relationship decides he/she wants to break up it's not usually possible to change his/her mind.
I don't want to be negative but I have been in exactly this situation. I really loved my ex, but after 18 months we couldn't get on and I always ended up crying, he would be frustrated. In the end he said we should stop seeing each other. I humiliated myself by begging him to change his mind but he just made lots of excuses. I couldn't eat or sleep and in the end I got really ill. I pleaded to stay friends just to stop my anguish and grief, and we did after a fashion. A year on and I am now so over him and regret making such a fool of myself. It's hard to let go but sometimes you have to realise that things have got past repair. I hope things can work out for you. Maybe you just need a good long talk and for both of you to put your thoughts and feelings on the table. Or maybe you do need space. Don't humiliate yourself though. Trust me, it's not worth it.
2006-12-14 10:44:16 · answer #2 · answered by lianhua 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't really know your situation that well, but only thing I know is that destruction is very easy and creation is very difficult. Before you both decide to break up, both of you must get your differences out in open and make a sincere attempt to find solutions to them without blaming each other, with a calm mind and attitude. Try not to torture yourself by not eating or sleeping because by torturing your body and mind you do not even get God ; leave aside anything else.
2006-12-14 10:45:41 · answer #3 · answered by kevin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't panic, it will all work out. If he wants to break up with you it's best not to just hang on in there knowing he'd rather not be with you. I know it's hurting but trust me there are plenty of other nice men out there, who could be even better than him. This happened to me and I was devestated! But 2 months later I found someone even nicer, better looking, funnier etc. And he treated me like a queen. Honestly there are loads of people out there who will want to be your next boyfriend. You probably think that he is the only one but you are just comfortable with it. I think the best thing would be breaking up and you can have some fun being young free and single!! enjoy yourself! x
2006-12-14 10:41:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off what the heck are you doing having unprotected sex all over the place? By the sounds of it you sound super immature.. what makes you think bringing a baby into this world is a game! He cheats so you cheat.. really smart! Him braking up with you would be the smartest thing he could do. When you took the chance of sleeping with someone else you risked losing him and its well deserved if you ask me. You should deff be completely honest and don’t allow him to live in a lie.. it’s going to haunt you for as long as your with him!
2016-05-24 06:02:40 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your suffering anxiety and depression because you don't know what to do about your situation or if you going to stay together or split up.
so you are now sending out negative vibes which your boyfriend is picking up on, so it makes him angry. you need to balance out your emotions and make them stronger think positive thoughts, and become a independent strong happy woman and please stop the crying, pull yourself together, start doing aerobics, and get a life of your own then you wont have to rely on your boyfriend to make you happy or unhappy, fight the negative thoughts and here is a web link to help with the anxiety. Good Luck
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2006-12-14 10:57:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old are you, kid? This sort of **** happens in more or less eveyone's lives. You just have to live through it. Sure it hurts at the time, but sooner or later you'll find the right person. After a few years with him, you probably won't even remember your current boyfriend's name!
2006-12-14 10:44:26 · answer #7 · answered by Ghostrider 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe u both need to seperate for a few months just to see how u both really feel about eachother and try to work out wot is causing u both to have so many arguments then if u were meant to be to gether then who knows u might b back in no time if it dont happen then im afraid it just wasnt meant to happen between u 2
2006-12-14 10:43:06 · answer #8 · answered by ck 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you need to have a big d&m with your boy. find out why he thinks the relationship is having problems an tell him he needs to figure out how he really 'does feel'. tell him if u break up thats it, theres no going back once he realises he misses you or finds out he cant get anyone else. tell him how you feel too. maybe hes just a bit on teh rocks because he thinks you feel the same way too.
GOOD LUCK =)
2006-12-14 13:09:15 · answer #9 · answered by WomanSoHeartless 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every relationship has its ups and downs. Every couple argues so try to work things out with him.
2006-12-14 10:38:03 · answer #10 · answered by Virginia 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋