At the present time my mother babysits for my five year old son. I am currently in the process of getting back with my ex wife. My mother hates this. She has threatened to take my son away from me if i don't give up on my relationship with my ex.
I have also given my mother an ultimatum. I have told her that. Roy-Lynn will change her work schedule so that she can be home at night with our son while I work and I will be home with him during the day while Roy-Lynn works. Thus my mother will not have to babysit for us anymore. And she will have a harder time getting our son from us.
I hated to have to do it this way but I will not let my mother or anybody else dictate who I am going to be with. This is my choice plan and simple my mother has to respect that.
I have informed her that if she fights me on this and loses she will not only lose her grandson she will lose me as well. I am a grown man and have the right to make the decisions I want to make.
Was I to harsh? advise.
2006-12-14 10:16:28 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
ungreatful son of b
believe me you will be running back to your moma when your ex will dump you again
2006-12-14 10:21:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
I think you could have been a little kinder to her. You are her son and she wants to protect you.. but threatening to take a child from you... makes me wonder about her.
Is your child really safe with her or is she filling their head with baloney about your ex.
I don't think you should excommunicate her just because she has an opinion about you getting back together.. Her reaction is to the anger she feels. I think she is just throwing words out because she is upset.
Let her know you respect her and love her, but you must make your own decisions in life.
Tell her you understand she is upset,, but that you have made your choice,
She can be part of your life and not interfere or she can choose to stay away.. Let it be her choice.
She can't get your child away from you... it is very difficult to do... Remember she is your mother , she must know her place and she should keep it....
I hope you are ready for this reconciliation and that you two have been working on this by seeing each other, talking and discussing your future.
I would hope that you are not charging into this head first without doing your homework.
You certainly don't want to make the same mistake. hurt your child again and have your Mom pointing her finger at you saying "I told you so." Do not apologize to her. but don't yell at each other.....listen to each other...
Good luck
2006-12-14 10:42:14 · answer #2 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As a mother of four sons, and one grandson. I am appalled at your mothers behaviors. No you were not to harsh with her. I say how dare she act out and say such a thing. Unless your x, tired to kill you and he baby. No you were not to harsh. I assume she must have cheated or something like this, however, it is not your mothers place to judge or forgive the behavior. It is up to you to do what you think is best. I wish you luck and I pray your mother calms down and comes to her senses. God bless****
2006-12-14 10:47:00 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-14 23:15:02 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you were harsh. your mother wants what is best for you, and she thinks it's not going to work out with you two. however,she was harsh as well. you need to talk to her and tell her you want to do this and you really think this is the right decision, and if she can't respect that, fine, but you're going to do what you're going to do whether she likes it or not.
i wouldn't let this get in the way of your relationship with your mother. or with her grandson. because if it doesn't work out, you're going to end up with nothing.
my mother is helping me with my son right now, and i know if i ever tried to get back with my ex, she would do something like what your mother is doing. and even if we did work out, i wouldn't be able to get along without her.
2006-12-14 10:32:06 · answer #5 · answered by pikachu 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Too harsh? Mom was definitely too harsh! It is YOUR child, not hers. To use a child as leverage to keep you from getting back with your ex-wife was definitely harsh. Children need two parents in the lives.
Good luck with this one.
My mother was the opposite. Our son was adopted so she would have NOTHING to do with him; not BLOOD. My wife's parents are the same, also. Not BLOOD.
2006-12-14 10:29:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No you were not too harsh. She has no right to threaten to take your son (unless your ex poses a danger to the child.)
2006-12-14 10:44:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no u were right ur a grown man and u wanna do whats right for you and ur child good on ya
2006-12-14 10:26:47 · answer #8 · answered by mrs motorcross 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your ex should be very happy that you're not a mammas boy. However this ends up I hope you & your son are happy
2006-12-14 10:54:46 · answer #9 · answered by gitsliveon24 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you weren't too harsh. It is your life and your decision.
2006-12-14 10:22:38 · answer #10 · answered by kittysoma27 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋