My uncle remarried a few years ago and now has a step-son that NO ONE in my family can stand. He is lould, whiny, demanding, extremly annoying, gets in everyones stuff and hits people.His latest stunt was on Thanksgiving when he hit my husband below the belt. He is 9 which is old enough to know right from wrong. His mother was sitting right there when he hit my hubby down there and she did nothing to the little brat. She never does anything to disicipline him when he behaves badly. I am dreading Christmas because she will have him this year. No one in my family will say anything to her about this because they don't want to upset my uncle. Being around him gives me anxiety attacks which are really painful so just to ignore the situation is not an answer. They were my family long before she came into the picture so I shouldn't have to give up my Christmas with my family because of this but I don't know what else 2 do. Any advise would be greatly appreciated.
2006-12-14 10:13:48 · 9 answers · asked by kittysoma27 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Everyone in my family feels this way including my uncle.How do you even tell someone that their child is a brat and that NO ONE can stand him?
2006-12-14 10:25:24 · update #1
Since the mother doesnt do any disaplining if it were me and if you are up to it when ever you see the little kid acting up simply go up to him and say in this house we dont act like that , noone is allowed to act like that not me not you not your mom not my husband not the other kids , noone. If you are bored let me know and I will find something for you to do that is fun. I know its hard to be cooped up with abunch of older people in a house and away from your own things. All you have to do is let me know and I will do my best to help you have some fun. The only reason why the kid acts like that is for attention which obviously his mother doesnt give him. You wont be offending the mother in anyway by handling it like that since you arent disaplining him or telling him what to do just letting him know that noone is allowed to act like that in the house and that you are willing to help him find something fun to do. Its worth a try even though its hard and shouldnt have to be your responsibility . Or another thing just try to keep him busy from the moment they arrive until they leave. Kids always like to have stuff to do as long as they think it is something important. Or ask him to do you a big favor and to help you by making sure that the other kids dont act up. Tell him it will be his responsibilty to make sure that the other kids are fighting or what ever. Just keep him busy. Or just lock him in a closet upstairs where noone can hear him screaming until its time to go home . NOT REALLY only kidding. dont lock him in a closet lock him in the garage in the trunk of one of the cars. ONly kidding .
2006-12-14 11:10:25 · answer #1 · answered by hersheynrey 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel its not his fault so don't take it out on the kid. Maybe he is not getting enough of something at home. He is a child who is from a recent broken home. It's what he is surrounded by,did you ever think this kid could be doing this to get the " bad attention" because he does not get enough good attention.Kids learn from what they see, and how they are treated.
Treat him like a person and not like he is the child who is left out' the brat child in the family.Kids sence that stuff.Don't take it out on him.Get to know him and try to understand why.
2006-12-14 11:22:30 · answer #2 · answered by swtluvingcntrygirl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My uncle's kids make me feel the same way about my own children. I deal with it for a short while, on Christmas Eve. I do'nt stay long and my kids and I enjoy Christmas Day 2gether.
2006-12-14 18:21:12 · answer #3 · answered by Sammy 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If it were me...I would personally make small comments to him regarding his behaviour and how if it were you you wouldnt let him get away with it.
"You're lucky you aren't MY son or you wouldn't be allowed to open that toy because of the way you are acting."
OR you can let him know that you won't put up with his antics.
"In THIS house we do not treat people that way. This is NOT your house and here it is MY rules."
That's what I would do.
2006-12-14 12:13:38 · answer #4 · answered by thoughts_in_a_blender 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just ignore the brat i mean are you really going to let a child ruin your holiday go to your family and have the greatest christmas ever
2006-12-14 10:21:11 · answer #5 · answered by joker 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Next time he tries anything like that, smack him hard across the face. Seriously. I bet he won't do it again. And if his family ups and leaves, so be it! Problem solved.
2006-12-14 10:46:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to his parents. No one likes to bring up an uncomfortable subject but something needs to be done with this kid. Good luck!!!
-Ali
2006-12-14 10:18:18 · answer #7 · answered by Ali B 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
move 2 switcherland
2006-12-14 10:24:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2006-12-14 10:17:52 · answer #9 · answered by plinko's mom 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋