brother jealousy?

Question

my brother has always been the "favorite" in the family, and he does so much sh*t and gets away with it..i do the littlest thing, and they act like i killed someone. i hate how my brother gets all the attention too, he just got arrested; i'm not saying i don't feel bad for what hes going through right now, but my parents can never seem to be mad at him like hes some kind of angel and it pisses me off..hes been like this all his life, hes 24. everything he does is always better than me..we look alike, but hes the better looking one, we both like to write, but hes better at it..grr it makes me soo mad. there is something about him that makes it so you can't be mad at him for too long, and my parents give him money all the time and just keep giving into him. i love my brother but i think i'm getting jealous. any advice on what i should do? should i tell my parents the way i feel?

Answer 1

I used to be way jealous of my sister, (I'm a triplet) my mom would say "Hayley you're such a good singer" When she sang to the radio, I start singing along with her and all I hear is mom say " Hayley, You have such a beautiful voice......" And trust me it went on for a long time, I was soooo mad, I wanted to....like, bite her! But, you have to remember there are a lot of sibling rivalries, plus just do something that he doesn't do, and keep working at it, then show your parents your new skill, they can't bring up your brother because he can't do that! Ha Ha for him! Sucka! No, just kidding, kind of lost it there. Anyways, I think you should tell your parents, so they can understand you, plus maybe the have always liked your brother because he always speaks his mind to them, try it, I mean life is short, take chances!!!

Answer 2

Yes of course tell them how they make you feel...maybe they dont even realize what they are doing and how it is affecting you. Let them know and maybe they will see how you are feeling and change thier ways a little bit. And if they dont change thier ways then forget about it and just do the things you are suppose to do with your life. Some parents always baby the ones that are the weakest out of the siblings as far as thier mentality goes. My mom always did the same thing for my sis who is bi polar and now mom is paying for the price of always kissing her *** because now sis has nothing to do with her anymore since she got a loser man in her life. Your mom is going to learn the hard way with your brother i think at some point. As for you be a good person and dont let them get to you,,as long as you know what kind of person that you are thats all that counts. :)

Answer 3

I am through the same thing i mean no matter what you do your brother is always the favorite you should tell your parents but be careful on what you say, say it in the wrong way and you'll be gone like that



there watchin you

Answer 4

I feel like that sometimes too. I dont think that your parents love him more than you. Its not right to do that because you are both their children. I do think that you should tell your parents and im almost sure that their answer will be "we love you both the same" but its still good to tell them how you feel so maybe they can think about it and treat you both equally. Im sorry this isnt good advice but if i helped, then i guess thats good. Well talk to your parents and good luck.

Answer 5

It 's funny ...you and I are in the same boat..

My brother could do nothing wrong. I have had more achievements than him and have married well..but he is still a loser and now I am a gold digger because I have married into wealth. Just to let you know that I had alot of money to begin with before I married and I had no idea of my husband's family wealth.

Your brother is jealous because you have more than he does.

Answer 6

Please talk to ur parents about what do u feel .. and also ur brother .. or u can keep it in ur heart without saying anything .. and make believe in ur self that maybe that ur a girl they loved her more .. but there reaction negative to u .. they can not agree that ur doing the same what he did .. and they agreed for him everything bcoze he is a man .. i hope u look to the positive site.. try to find the way .. better than talk .. :)

Answer 7

ha! I have an older brother whos like a saint in my family...good looking, graduated HS at 16 years old, lots of friends...the whole nine yards. BUT...hes in prison right now...used to get thrown in jail and stuff like that
and me being the only girl...my parents were real strict with me. At first I was a little pissed. But you know....I'm the ONLY good kid now...
give it time..he'll probably do something that'll make your parents really flip...then BOOM..you're the saint.

Answer 8

I have three younger siblings, same thing. If your jealous, do what he does. Next time he asks for money, you ask for money too. If you get in trouble, just bring up something worse than he did. Your parents cant really argue without looking like @$$holes.

Answer 9

you can try to discuss the issue with them, but from my experience they probably wont or cant hear what you are saying, i had 4 brothers, with myself right in the middle, and i went threw the same thing, my brothers were so favored, got away with anything, i got in trouble for any little thing,,, only as an adult, when my parents aged, did they appreciate me,,, just try to not let it affect you, as best you can,,,,, i have no idea what causes it,,,, in my case i came to later find out my mom just couldnt relate to females, due to lack of a father figure in her life and her sister being the favored one , she clung to the men,,, so who knows why they are doing it

Answer 10

of course you should tell ur parents how u feel.wait...u shouldn't...in my dad's family it's the other way around.They act like my dad is...just...not normal or something.I think u should talk bout it. if it turns out to be a problem and they get mad at u, u can just emial me at [e-mail] and ill give u more advice!