ok. me & my ex have been broken up for 3 weeks. we were together 2 and half years. and he already has another gf. he wants to be friends and stuff. & i want to be friends too. but every time i talk to him i just get even more hurt. he talks about him & his new gf. & it makes me sick to my stomach. i dont want to talk to him cause i just end up getting hurt. but i want us to be friends. cause i want him in my life. he made me who i am today. i just cant forget all about him. i want to get over him. and i know the only way to get over him is to not talk to him. but i want to talk to him. and he wants to talk to me. i dont know what i should do! HELP ME!!!
2006-12-14 09:50:33 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Bah, it's all pride. Believe it or not he is still stuck on you and having that new girlfriend is mostly just to drive you crazy and pretend like he's over you, which he's not. What you have to do is be confident and don't let him know it bothers you. He may not be directly trying to hurt you, but he damn sure is making sure you know he doesn't need you. He does. And if his pride doesn't get in the way you might just be alright. Hope I helped.
2006-12-14 09:53:34 · answer #1 · answered by Rob D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you are not comfortable with him talking about his gf in front of you. Remind him that you just broke up, and that it is hard for you still. You want to be friends, but if he wants to be friends, he needs to realize the consequences of his actions. Come up with a little hand gesture between the two of you which means, "That's enough please, I'm getting uncomfortable." Or something like that. He'll think you are being really cool by still hanging out with him and his new gf, and should become aware of his own actions. New gf's are like a new movie, they do get old very fast unless they're destined classics. If she's mediocre, he'll come back to you, his classic.
2006-12-14 09:55:44 · answer #2 · answered by rawlings12345 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW he has a new GF and you've only been apart for 3 weeks. Look you need to get yourself together before you do anything!!!! Take some time for yourself and if you still want to be his friend let him know how you feel about him talking about his new GF.
2006-12-14 09:55:10 · answer #3 · answered by pecarican 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
relax!! You know what, you still love him right? then sometimes things take time.Yes, it is hard to hear him talk about his ex and no one would want to hear that.Not even him if the shoe was on the other foot.At least not so soon.
Just talk to him and explain to him that you don't wish them anything bad but its still hard to hear about him moving on. If he cares for you and your feelings, he will understand and refrain from talking so much about her.
Besides, if you loose complete contact you just might miss out on the chance that he will realize you were the right girl for him and he the right guy for you.Most times when guys talk like this its because he is insecure about what he is feeling now and already regrets where he is so he trys to test himself by forcing himself to try and numb his feelings he still has for you with talking about her.
Give it a little time, I have a feeling you will be back together soon and because of this, stronger than ever.
2006-12-14 10:00:30 · answer #4 · answered by vmaxer85 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need MUCH more time of little to NO communication to become friends later. You both have to enter a phase where you really dont care what the other person is doing to be friends. 3 weeks... NOT long enough. Im friends with all of my X's, so if you want to remain friends. Give it time!!!
2006-12-14 09:52:43 · answer #5 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him not to talk about him n his girlfriend because you haven't gotten over him yet and maybe he'll feel the same way and you guys can be together and if not that at least he should respect the fact of you beig hurt by him talking about his new gf
2006-12-14 09:54:15 · answer #6 · answered by Mike H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait a while before yo ubecome friends. I am in a similar situation and I know how it feels. But its true what they say "time heals anything". Eventually you (and me) will stop to care about what the "ex" is up too and we will be able to move on. Good luck. I know it is not easy.
2006-12-14 09:56:38 · answer #7 · answered by JV 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be smart, stop the relationship for now, it is too soon since the breakup and the pain is too close to the surface.
You are a beautiful woman that seems to wear her emotions on her sleeve. You will survive this and grow because of it. Protect yourself right now.
2006-12-14 09:54:47 · answer #8 · answered by rilindy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both gotta a give it time. Just back off, if your really as good of friends as you think, then time off won't hurt either of you. I would also be a little wary anyway if he got another gf that quick.
2006-12-14 09:54:36 · answer #9 · answered by ropemancometh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you still care you have to step away for awhile, sure he wants you to remain friends..Men are dogs...try to go on with your life first, then if you want to stay friends with this joker, then you can do so...but it still hurts now...wait til you find someone new, you will probably not give him the time of day.
2006-12-14 09:54:47 · answer #10 · answered by Brenda Soooooooooooooooooooooooo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋