I keep in written contact with someone who never responds. What motivates me to keep in contact with this person? We were good friends at one time, but the connection disappeared when I didn't physically show myself for long periods at a time. Ftankly, I am rather inhibited by this man, why would I subject myself (woman) to chances of rejection on a weekly basis. I also bring him things on each holiday. Why do I do this?
2006-12-14 09:46:33 · 6 answers · asked by tiafromtijuana 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Human nature. The thing you must ask yourself is why are you doing it? You know the answer inside yourself and you also know what you should do. Will you follow the advice of your inter-self? Best of luck in this, because most of the time it takes a long time for us to do what needs to be done when it comes to emotional issues.
I also see you have asked this question before, so you have thought about this a lot. If he doesn't return your feelings, then you must choose to move on. It will hurt at first, but you will survive. The longer you prolong what needs to be done, the more hurt you will feel.
I am also going to throw something your way. You answered a question on here and it is similar to what is going on with you. You wrote:
She wants you to tell her she is OK, you are OK, you will remain friends, but each can get on with their own lives. I know this is heart wrenching. You could wait and not answer as you are doing. she may have an intense need to communicate with you directly. give her time and see what happens.
Think about your advice and follow it. I do wish you the best.
2006-12-14 09:53:41 · answer #1 · answered by Shiva07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People change over time, especially if they are appart. We all change, but some try to keep the friendship going while the other has lost interest. What I would do is stop emailing, stop picking up gifts, and see what he says.. If he says nothing, then no loss. Move on and find someone else that likes your attention and is more deserviing of it.
2006-12-14 17:52:38 · answer #2 · answered by nrthbubba3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because you are a friend... thats what friends do. Im the same way ith a girl i know & I ask the same thing but all I can tell myself is "My mom raised me right. I have morals & manners."
Try letting this person find it out for themselves... the worst that could happen is you lose someone that didnt value you like you valued them. Friendship works both ways....but you could like this guy as more than a friend & you just dont know it.
2006-12-14 17:51:24 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your really scared to be in a regular relationship so you waste your time with someone you know for sure nothing will happen with. Just a thought.
2006-12-14 17:49:20 · answer #4 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make the person that talks a ham sandwitch so youll get the other to start talking ummmm ham sandwitch
2006-12-14 17:49:27 · answer #5 · answered by grand master killa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
must been love then
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2006-12-14 17:48:37 · answer #6 · answered by mr johnson 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋