i've been the reject/loser so i've only had a couple of friends trhoughout my whole life and i hate it and feel so lonely so i was just wondering are there i mean i might just go nuts from being cooped up inside is that all? (and how can i make friends outside of skool since no one in school likes me and hor do i get better at socializing i suck at it and get shy/nervous and don't know wha to say so i have too many awkward silences)
2006-12-14 09:22:49 · 10 answers · asked by mamama 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Try with body building and eat more meat, it will make u fell more self confident.
2006-12-14 09:26:32 · answer #1 · answered by Claudio F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sucks for you now. But I want you to take some hope in your college days to come. In college, you are surrounded by all sorts of different types of people, and for the first time, teh social position of high school doesn't matter. You will find other people like you and you will gravitate together. The things that are important to kids in HS just don't matter as much in college. The environment is a lot more open and accepting, and really frowns upon people trying to be someone they're not. So you can just be you and find others like you. Then you will make friendships that you can carry through your entire life.
After that comes the workforce, and the pettiness of high school is a disgusting memory to adults. I know it doesn't help you today, but there is a whole big world out there waiting ahead of you. High school is hard. It all gets better from here.
2006-12-14 18:02:56 · answer #2 · answered by lizardmama 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello mamama I am an old man who had some trouble when in grade school because I was shy and felt I couldn't make friends. Now, in grade school, the people in charge would notice that in a pupil and help him by including him in planned activities, encouraging him to speak up in class and putting him forward so as to give him experience in socializing. Why I was shy I don't know but it got better when I got into high school.
By that time I had grown to 6 foot tall and outgrown most of my class mates so I was no longer afraid of them pounding me because I was little. I would suggest analyzing why you are shy and pinpointing a few things you are afraid of in others (write them down). When you have identified a few concentrate on getting over them. It will amount to facing what you fear because this is the only way you are going to discover that your fears for the most part are exaggerated by your own mind. Just remember that!
I know you can do it because you had the courage to get on here and ask the question you did. You have approached the whole population of the cyber-world and it didn't hurt you did it? My son says to put something on the Internet is like shouting it across a stadium filled with people! You did it and you can do it again! Good luck!
2006-12-14 20:00:08 · answer #3 · answered by Mad Mac 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Humans need some kind of interaction with other humans...as long as you have a good relationship with your family, you should be ok...The first thing that you need to do is stop calling yourself a loser. Stop worrying so much about what everyone else thinks about you. You don't have to try to be what everyone else considers cool...just look for someone that you have things in common with. I missed out on a lot in high school because I had a low self esteem....As you get older, you will see that the things that mattered to people in high school won't matter so much any more. Some of the "cool" people will turn into losers.
2006-12-14 17:28:55 · answer #4 · answered by Joe d 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear of your situation.
Making friends isn't the easiest thing to do for some people. I understand about being shy/nervous. I would find something that you like to do. It could be sports, music, or some type of hobby. Find something that is just right for yourself. I think you need to stay active and not isolate yourself. Maybe if you find something that you like to do, and reach out into the community (YMCA or Community Center) you'll find someone else who enjoys doing the same stuff.
Hang in there. Kids are mean....and people at school usually don't understand what you're going through. Build up some self-confidence in yourself and maybe you'll be able to muster up some courage to try to make friends.
Sending hugs to you! : )
2006-12-14 17:31:22 · answer #5 · answered by spaescape_princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life can be a little harder, nobody to share with or to give to. Someone once said that it's better to give than to receive, it's difficult to do this by yourself. We all need people in our lives even if we are walking a lonely road. My best advice is to practice giving and people will give to you. I'm not talking about money or material, but in conversation, and not flattery. Just be the listener and be understanding, I think that’s a good start. Making friends isn’t about being a smooth talker by any means. Naturally people are drawn to others who are happy and smile.
2006-12-14 17:33:04 · answer #6 · answered by grem 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Probably low confidence and low self esteem. Maybe you could start some new clubs or hobbies and meet people with the same interests, don't call yourself a reject or a loser or other people will think the same!
2006-12-14 17:27:34 · answer #7 · answered by BBaller25 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you arent such a social butterfly...Try socializing more. Be more open instead of a closed box...Try to see how other people go about the day. Just get outside of your comfort zone for a minute and go into another so your box will hopefully expand.
2006-12-14 17:27:30 · answer #8 · answered by purple19934 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you need to do is talk to a psychologist.....you possibly have some type social anxiety disorder...or some other underlying issues. Good Luck!
2006-12-14 17:26:34 · answer #9 · answered by RcJones 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
in getting older i have learned that family means much much more to me than friends
2006-12-14 17:27:38 · answer #10 · answered by cc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋