This guy asked me to a dance. I'm 17, he's 16, we're in the same grade and school. But, I'm not sure if he wants to get romantically involved too, as in bf and gf. We talk some, and e-mail a lot. And, I e-d him that he could back out if he wanted and he said that's not an option. Then, I asked him why me and not some other pretty girl who goes to our school...I'm average looking, and he came up with a paragraph of reasons. Do u think he wants more that just to go to a dance? Should I ask him if he wants more, or just wait and see? Am I exaggerating a simple situation?
2006-12-14 09:16:12 · 34 answers · asked by Iamnottellingyou 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The question is: do you want to get romantically involved? Why not take things a little more lightly and go to the dance as friends (at least in your mind) and see what happens? If you talk about something too much ahead of time it becomes a big issue then makes things awkward if one person wants to back out. You say you are average looking but guess what? Guys don't see us as we see ourselves. He probably thinks you're gorgeous and also loves your personality. Otherwise he wouldn't have noticed you, he would have asked someone else. So don't put yourself down. Just take one day at a time - go to the dance, let him make all the first moves while you play the mysterious-hard-to-get kind of girl. Be nice, polite and wonderful company. Laugh alot and be happy.... but if he really cares for you, make him work for your love. Don't be easy but remember, always be polite and wonderful. Let's see if he keeps coming back for more. That will show is real intentions.
2006-12-14 09:27:46 · answer #1 · answered by Aussie Girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For starters, you might want to find out what 'crying over spilled milk' means.
But, the answer to your question is 'Yes' he absolutely wants more than just to go to a dance.
You talk some and e-mail a lot, he said not going to the dance with you is not an option. He has a paragraph of reasons to be with you.
Exactly how much proof do you need or want to accept the fact that he is very interested?
Count your blessings, have fun at the dance and if it progresses beyond that, really count your blessings.
2006-12-14 09:37:33 · answer #2 · answered by deepndswamps 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has a big list of reasons why he thinks your special and different from the other girls in your school, I would say that he defiantly likes you. He has obviously spent time thinking about you. I would go to the dance and see how that goes.. if I were you I would just wait and see. Maybe he will ask you out again after the dance or if you have a good time at the dance you could always ask him out. Have fun and good luck :)
2006-12-14 09:25:56 · answer #3 · answered by Tracy G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're putting more pressure on this situation.
The basics:
A guy asked you to the dance.
That's it! There's nothing more than two friends going to a dance. If something else does happen then great! If not, is that going to hurt you?
I would just relax and enjoy the dance. Don't be so caught up in whether or not he wants to date you. In the end you're going to find yourself stressed out about something that may or may not happen.
Also, don't ask him for his reasons why he chose you. It's desperate--you know that he chose you because he thinks of you as a friend, not just any other girl. The more you ask questions like this, the further you're going to drive him away.
2006-12-14 09:19:46 · answer #4 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He likes you, but it doesn't sound like he's looking for romantic entanglement. Romance is complicated and scary stuff when you're a teen. It's better not to get intimate too quickly at that age anyway; just have fun, be friends, and learn more about each other.
Don't worry about the future, it'll take care of itself: You're not there yet, and when you get there, things are never exactly what you thought they would be. Enjoy the moment for what it is. Appreciate without expectation.
2006-12-14 09:27:26 · answer #5 · answered by SoCalSkierGuy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's exciting that you got asked to the dance and that brings all kinds of romantic notions to your mind which is normal. But, let what will happen happen on it's own. I'm sure he likes you and you can let him know that you like him and are glad he asked you to the dance but be careful of pursuing him so hard core. What if you're wrong and he doesn't like you and you end up losing him before you even get to the dance?
2006-12-14 09:26:38 · answer #6 · answered by Phaylynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go to the dance with him and have fun without so much pressure on yourself and without any expectations. You are at an age where you should just enjoy yourself instead of having to stress about relationships and getting serious. If it happens it happens and that's it. Dating in High School is for getting to know how to relate to the opposite sex, not to find someone to marry or have a serious relationship with.
Relax and enjoy your youth.
2006-12-14 09:23:15 · answer #7 · answered by Nuts 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
here is an opinion of a 22 year old women in colleg with experieince. You need to ask him in an email if he wants more then what he is telling you. if he does then don't even bother going out with him. Most likey he may want sex. Not a good idea at only 17. to risky to dangerous. Move on ok
2006-12-14 09:19:46 · answer #8 · answered by Da Q 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In 25 or 30 yrs. from now you will look back on your life and properly say how foolish was I to worry about such little things. I know they may seem like earth moving moments, and maybe they are. so what I'm saying is enjoy life and don't sweet the small stuff. What ever happens will happen
2006-12-14 09:25:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a possibility that he is interested in you, but you shouldn't be so worried. If you like him, even just as a friend you should go with him and have a good time. If it leads to something more like boyfriend and girlfriend you can decide then. Just try to be yourself and have fun with the people you want to be around. Don't ask him, just see what happens. Good luck. :)
2006-12-14 09:19:04 · answer #10 · answered by hey hows it goin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋