My boyfriend and I have been together for well over a year now. He is always talking about how much he lvoes me and how much he wants to spend the rest of his life with me. We'ew even started talking about how we would raise kids together and what we would name them and all the stuff! He's said he wants to marry me one day and even took me to a few jewlery stores to see if I like and RINGS! he had them size my RING FINGER and everything! he picked out this gorgeous ring and had my opinion on it. It was HUGE! ( like 4.5 or 5 carets) I told him that was too much for me, but he said " I'm just getting a gernal idea of what I want to get you for when I do propose."
When do you thin khe is going to do it? Soon?
Im 16, yes I know, too young to get married, but exclude that though. I just want people's honest opinions on this.
Thanks
2006-12-14 09:14:05 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
He is the same age as me and my parents dont relaly know what to think. Its not a promise ring or anything: he got me one after 6 months of dating. I dont think he trying to butter me, cause, really, I dont know what he would want to butter me up for.
he is a really sweet guy and loves me for me. he's caring, lovable, sweet, attractive, funny, and just has a all around great personality.
2006-12-14 09:24:12 · update #1
cont.
buying a ring isnt really that much of a money issue for him cause of where his family stands with his social status due to his mothers job/pay check.
Let this be known: I AM NOT A GOLD DIGGER! All the rings I had said were nice were smaller that a 1/4 caret.
So, please, dont get the wrong idea of me.
2006-12-14 09:26:11 · update #2
He's not just doing this to get into bed with me. I know some people are going to say something about this, but I have slept with him before.
Also, he is actually very mature for his age. Though he is 16, his maturity level is about 18/19/20/. e's not stupid and I know that I have to finish school and so does he. We already have plans on what we want to do after High School ( he wants a government joba and I want to do law enforcement) We would wait until we were AT LEAST 18 to get married, so yes, I know this would be a long engagement.
2006-12-14 09:30:20 · update #3
So what if he proposes? You're just kids. Even waiting until you are just 18 is not waiting long enough. 18 year olds are children. Talking about your kids? Jeez, that's typical talk of 16 year olds who think they are in love and who think that love means getting a job, a house and popping out some babies. You need to experience so much more than that. Definitely wait until after college like a year or two after college.
2006-12-14 12:18:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously i'm sure he's buttering you up. If he does propose then wait at least until you finish College. High School is not the only important thing College is the future.
I hope he has a kick butt job at 16 for affording a 4 1/2 to 5 ct ring. Mine is 2 1/2 platinum and cost close to 6 thousand!
Hopefully you both wait, if you haven't had sex yet, it could be a sign he wants to and this is his way of showing you. Just be careful. If he does then good luck but wait till you are both done with College! Pay off your student loans, buy a house, then pay off the ring and you're ready.
2006-12-15 02:19:43 · answer #2 · answered by egomezz007 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it sounds like he is definately thinking about it. Maybe he just wanted to make sure he knew how you felt about it. I wish you all the luck. I was 17 when I got engaged. I am now soon to be 21 and we are getting married in September. By that time we will have been together for 5 years. I know what you are going through with all these people saying you are too young... but if it's right, you will know. I did like the idea of a long engagement. We will have been engaged for almost 4 years... it made it a lot easier to plan:-) Good luck!
2006-12-14 22:30:54 · answer #3 · answered by shelly225 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if he is then congratulation to you, but try and make sure you take at least a year or two for engagement before the final plunge. You are very young to get married and need to finish school, figure out what you want out of life, things you need to explore. Also, you did not mention how old your boyfriend is and if he is a lot older then you then it's probably not a good idea.
What does your family think about the whole thing?
If he is your age or so. he is also not old enough to make this very serious commitment. Its' a lot of fun to talk about the future and imagine cute babies and playing house, but in real life it's a whole different story, believe me, I've been through this.
So take your time and don't rush, it's better to wait then be sorry later,
Best of Luck to you,
Irene
2006-12-14 17:23:14 · answer #4 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's kinda hard to exclude the fact your sixteen. That's way to young to think about marriage. You need to live alittle and enjoy your younger years, they fly by fast trust me. You two should probably tone it down a bit. And then let things happen as they should.
Also, For a 16 year old to have the money for an engagment ring is a little out there. My fiance spent well over a grand for my 1ct. ring.
Good luck with the relationship.
2006-12-14 17:37:24 · answer #5 · answered by Noella 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like he is really in love with you! Who says you have to be OLD to get married?
It does seem like he is eager to tell the world that you are his woman. Keep in mind that just because he propose, doesn't mean you have to get married right away. Don't let the flash of the diamond or the pretty white dress cloud your thinking. Keep getting to know each other, and learn to think more about what you love about him--and thus how you can improve on your relationship.
Congratulations!
2006-12-15 00:45:27 · answer #6 · answered by Benji's Mommy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're a kid, you are playing house, trying to be grown up. it is only puppy love at that age. 80% + of all marriages before the age of 25 end in divorce because people do so much changing and growing during that time. don't be stupid. just have fun. you won't know real love until you are much older.
2006-12-14 19:25:53 · answer #7 · answered by Cassian 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Uh, I hope he doesn't... 16 is so too young to get married. If you haven't slept together yet, it could be a trap to get you into bed. if he does, plan on a long engagement (I would recommend at least 19)
2006-12-14 17:23:45 · answer #8 · answered by cadillacrazy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like u really care for eah other and i hate it when adults say u dont know nothin about love because we might be yung but we kno sumthin but anyway he will know when it the right just be on look out and be carefull i hope u and ur man live happy every after good luck
~kiya sign out wit much love~
2006-12-14 17:20:24 · answer #9 · answered by ahkiya :) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know your boyfriend so its hard to say but it seems like he is in Love with you, so dont sweat it take it one day at a time and see what happens. The best think would be to talk to him about it.
2006-12-14 17:18:29 · answer #10 · answered by supersteveee 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋