The above question was recently posted in marriage and divorce and the answers were mostly yes and that it was a bad place to raise children in that atmosphere. Do the military in here agree?
2006-12-14 09:03:43 · 16 answers · asked by Raven 5 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
Re one of the answers, I disagree that a man can be a good father and a bad husband.....only in his mind. So he interacts and supports his kids but when he cheats, he cheats on his family and sets a bad example and bad atmosphere by his lack of morals.
2006-12-14 09:27:12 · update #1
Youd be very surprises at just how much fooling around goes on, especially on deployments.Ask anyone whos been to IRAQ -- what happens in Iraq stays in Iraq is a familiar saying.
And its not just one sex over the other.
Why do you think theres so high of a divorce rate in the military.
those that try to say no clearly havent served or have endured the long ordeal of a deployment.
Pretty much every soldier knows a few people who've cheated or are cheating with someone married - in spite of the fact that adultery is against the UCMJ.
As far as raising children. Well, if a family can endure the hardships of the deployment, the bases are usually safe compared to the high crime rate cities that are just adjacent to the bases it seems. But like anything, it all comes down to good parenting.
So the verdicts still out on that one, because Ive known lot more NCOs that have been good fathers, but were lousy husbands.
2006-12-14 09:20:06 · answer #1 · answered by writersbIock2006 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The sex will be good and some factors of the relationship (the intense that comes from being loopy and so on.) will be large yet there are huge factors which aren't to any extent further ok. Like believe, self-appreciate and conceit. healthful relationships position a good type of importance on the above 3 aspects besides almost as good sex, communique. They strike a stability. immediately your relationship is heavy on aspects except believe, appreciate, esteem. yet you're having some needs met that is why you've stayed on. Your pastime now's to go back to a call how a lot weight you connect to each and each and every component. which will settle on even if to stay or go away. For me it replaced into that little epiphany which helped. understanding WHY i'd compromised and what i did not favor to compromise on. I went by enormously a lot an same as what youre describing, ended it, stayed unmarried (2 years) till I met someone trsustworthy, compassionate, mushy, and sweet. i'm letting you comprehend so that you would have the boldness to bypass on, if thats what you settle on to do. good luck.
2016-11-26 19:43:34 · answer #2 · answered by evert 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is cheating going on in most neighborhoods across the country! Don't you watch Desperate Housewives? But most bases are great areas for raising a family.
2006-12-14 09:23:32 · answer #3 · answered by usmcspouse 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I've noticed the people that cheat don't really have a good "bond" with their significant other. If you really love your partner you wouldn't want to hurt them military or not.
Kids growing up in any situation where there isn't a good connection between the parents are going to suffer. (well if they're living together)
2006-12-14 09:13:31 · answer #4 · answered by Some Random Chick 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
*Some* cheating goes on. I think the last place there were 2 couples out of like 25. (that I knew of anyway). Not a very high percentage - or more like I mind my own business....
Where we are now, there has been a couple - but that's in a post that has a total of 100 families and everyone knows everyone.
Again - there might be more - but again - I mind my own business and watch where my children play and hang out with.
2006-12-14 09:11:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
I have to disagree. It's no more prevalent than in the civilian world, and the truth is, it's probably less. The fact is, a soldier can be kicked out of the army for having an affair. It's a criminal offense under UCMJ.
2006-12-14 09:12:49 · answer #6 · answered by lizardmama 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why stop with family housing, even walked in on it in my own team room lol.
You have all types in the military though. Would have quite a few NCOs who kept a room in the barracks for their "girl friends" on the weekends, but also had guys who were really stand up and didn't cheat at all.
But of course the bad stuff comes up mostly.
EDIT: Wow two thumbs down for talking about what happens, totally amazing!
2006-12-14 09:08:02 · answer #7 · answered by malmapus 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
go to any navy housing. a mop left on the front porch means that husband is out to sea and boyfriend can come over and play.
2006-12-14 11:28:25 · answer #8 · answered by Stand-up Philosopher 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, YEs, and YES! I'm in the military and I've been TDY many many times and what the wives and girlfriends don't know....Whoa, if they knew! :-0
2006-12-14 09:23:29 · answer #9 · answered by CTargrl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its no worse in base housing that in civilian housing. base housing is a very safe place to raise kids its guarded more and less violence in most areas. i live in base housing
2006-12-14 10:46:20 · answer #10 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋