well i am pregnant right now and i really want the dad in the child's life cause i think its very important for a child to have a dad figure in there life. and i am due jan 18 and i have no contact with him since i told him i was pregnant by him?
2006-12-14 08:58:12 · 21 answers · asked by amy2002 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Don't try to force it. You don't want the child growing up feeling resented. Just be the best mom you can be and see if your dad or brothers can spent time with him.
2006-12-14 09:01:44 · answer #1 · answered by lisa h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go after CS, chances are he will never be a part of the child's life. It isn't your fault the guy can't take responsiblity for your child. Just remember that the only person that he is unmitately hurting is himself, cause the child won't know him as dad and years later if dad comes back then the child will remember all the times dad wasn't there for him or her. My x husband has had very minimal contact with my kids, and its a sad situation but I keep remember the only person who is going to hurt is my x. Those kids will remember that I was the one there for them thru thick and thin. And I would rather have my kid's dad not around at all than to come and go as he pleased when I lived near him.
2006-12-14 17:04:13 · answer #2 · answered by sweetdreamin96 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men need to be held accountable too. Laws restricting males should be strengthened and less lenient. Men should be forced to stay and raise children. If they fail to do this they should be imprisoned or more severely fined. Child support is a good start but it is never enough and does not provide adequate needed sleep for a pregnant girl or a single mother trying to work two (2) jobs and find time for her child during the rest of her short day. If men are allowed to slip through the cracks it only makes life harder for the women, which strengthens the argument for abortion. If laws are kept at the present, after a man goes delinquent on child support of over one-thousand dollars ($1000), He should be court ordered to have a mandatory vasectomy.
Not that my opinion matters but, im kinda attached to my boys and i think the thought of them gettin chopped off would make me sure want to stay around.
2006-12-15 12:48:36 · answer #3 · answered by army_redneck_daddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make someone be a responsible parent. what you can do is get the paternety test when the baby is born to prove that child is his (i know that's awful to have to prove it to him). Once you do that, if he still doesn't have an intrest in the child, file for child support. if he pays his child support and still has no intrest in the child, i don't know what tell you, except try to find the child a new dad while he is still little enough to not know the difference. good luck and i'm sorry you have to go through this.
2006-12-14 17:03:28 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if by the baby's 1st birthday he still does not want anything to do with the baby.Have his rights taken from him which takes place in court.That does not mean that after his 18th b-day he cant find his father.But it protects the child till then.
My ex-sister inlaw did this one to my brother because he never tried to take any steps to try. She even told him if he had at least been a part of his life she would not charge for the child support but no go.
So she took him to court to have his rights taken away.(Meaning he did not have to pay child support and he had no further access to his son)And he did not even show up for the court date to stop it. Some guys never learn till it is too late don't beat yourself up about it.
2006-12-14 17:45:49 · answer #5 · answered by billieleann78 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't force a person to be a parent. I understand your want to have a father in your child's life but sometimes they are better off without if he wants nothing to do with either of you. Make sure that you nail him fro support and move on. My cousin's ex hasn't been in her daughters life since she was 8 weeks old, and she is a well rounded little girl with her extended family to step in and help.
2006-12-14 17:03:56 · answer #6 · answered by mommy_2_liam 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't do anything about the father "wanting" to be in your baby's life. Next time...and don't flame me for this because it's true...don't have sex with a LOSER.
It is important to have a male role model in the child's life, but it need not be the father, especially if he's the kind of loser you describe.
I'm very sorry to hear of your predicament. Next time be more careful.
2006-12-14 17:15:18 · answer #7 · answered by vamedic4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go after him for child support. Most men that don't want to be dads decide if they are paying for the child they might as well get to know them. Good luck and Congrats on the new baby.
2006-12-14 17:00:20 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs. Always Right 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If he is bound and determined not to have anything to do with the child, you cant make him. You can, however, make him pay child support. Contact an attorney or your local DSS office regarding this. I hope he comes around and does help with his kid. Good luck.
2006-12-14 17:06:36 · answer #9 · answered by parrothead2371 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In most cases the 'dad' shows up after birth if only out of curiosity. Collecting welfare is easier than the nuts you will probably suffer trying the support see you everyother weekend hoopla that has become NORMAL U>S>A> Congradulations on the baby, their wonderful. Name him Joshua.
2006-12-14 17:24:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋