My boyfriend has just moved to another state about two weeks ago and we both decided that we should be friends, so i guess he is my ex-boyfriend. But anywho, i miss him so much and i want to be with him. But right now its just not in the cards for me. I can't stop thinking about him and looking a his picture and its just killing me to be away from him. What should i do?
2006-12-14 08:56:26 · 22 answers · asked by line6_2006 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's not gonna be an easy time, distance never is. But really, it doesn't work out very well and it's better to move on no matter how much it hurts. You should do stuff to occupy your time and get your mind off of him. Sitting around thinking about what you had definitely isn't going to make you feel any better.
I wish you the best of luck.
2006-12-14 09:00:16 · answer #1 · answered by Chrissy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly what you should do is continue being hurt. That sounds sad but that is what you have to do. And it is going to be bad for awhile. I'm not gonna say "Oh, it'll get better, you wait" cause I hate that. It won't get better right away and it's gonna suck. But as someone said earlier, find something to do. The best way is to just be with friends that you love. They'll still make you smile no matter how low you feel. Be with them as much as you can and it'll hurt less until it doesn't hurt anymore. Then you'll be able to smile when you think of that great relationship you had. And life will go on.
2006-12-14 09:01:22 · answer #2 · answered by Rob D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, you have to let it go. He could have tried a long distance relationship with you, but he decided he wanted to be "friends" instead. That means that he is looking forward to finding someone new where he has moved to, and I think you should do the same thing. Here's the thing, if you meant enough to him, he would have kept you, even with the long distance thing. I hope that I didn't hurt you by telling you that, but it really is the truth. Dont harp on him, just start spreading out and talking to new guys. You'll be over him in no time. :)
2006-12-14 09:01:57 · answer #3 · answered by NestleGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships very rarely work. I know from experience. You did the right thing splitting up. It will hurt for a while, but it will get easier.
I would stop looking at photos - it only makes things harder for you. Try to go out and have some fun. You may even meet someone else, but don't go looking for that. Just enjoy being free and single for a while.
2006-12-14 09:00:56 · answer #4 · answered by helly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through a very similiar problem. My best advice is to get out of the house. Go to a party, shopping, anything to keep your mind off the person. Time heals pain, and in no time I found someone new, and I am still friends with my ex.
2006-12-14 09:00:37 · answer #5 · answered by P W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may take a while but just move on honey.. go out with your friends... get out do something that you didnt get to do b/c you had a boyfriend.. dont become a hermit b/c your EX-BOYFRIEND moved. at least you two didnt try the long distance relationship...those NEVER work out (unless youre both strong willed).
Oh yeah; dont look at his picture.
2006-12-14 09:02:26 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to him and see if he would like to try work out the long distance relationship. Maybe he is doing the same thing you are. I was in a long distance relationship for 2 years before we were married, and you don't get better sex then when you haven't seen each other in a while.
2006-12-14 09:00:45 · answer #7 · answered by sweetgurllexi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it is difficult, but please don't do this to yourself. He has told you he just wants to be friends. Forget him. There are billions of people on this planet. There is someone else out there for you, who will love you, and cherish you. Life is too short. This is not a practice run. This is it. I know it hurts but you have to respect yourself. Be open and honest about who you are wherever you go and you will find that special person just for you. Don't worry. Everythings gonna be alright.
2006-12-14 09:14:22 · answer #8 · answered by Gary S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Occupy your time with something else. Take up a hobby, get all your gifts wrapped for xmas... Do something to keep your time busy. Rent some action or horror movies... Something you can do ON YOUR OWN, or with good friends. Have fun! In time, you will be more at ease.
2006-12-14 08:58:12 · answer #9 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move on. If he was serious about you, he wouldn't have said be friends. Remember that boy in 4th grade that you didn't really like? Well, this is how this guy who moved away feels about you.
2006-12-14 08:59:26 · answer #10 · answered by Kimberly B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋