im depressed, please help. (not not another he doesnt want me story) serious answers only please?

Question

i feel really depressed right now. everything in my life just seems to be going downhill. sometimes the only reason that i get out of bed in the morning is because i hear my kids wake up and know that i need to take care of them. when i go to sleep all i do is dream about my problems. i cant get a break! i feel like i have nothing to look forward to in life. thank god i have my kids or i would be lost.
unfortunately this depression is turning me into someone i dont want to be - moody, short tempered - a *****!

the doctors can only give antidepressants and counciling but i dont want them. if it were a physical or chemical imbalance problem then ok give me meds but its not. its more situational and there are things that i cant fix by myself. i need cooperation from others to solve my problems. counciling doesnt work. im not paying for someone to say uh huh, and how does that make you feel. so what do i do?

Answer 1

YOU NEED TO DEFINETLY TAKE IN CONSIDERATION TRYING TO TAKE THE MEDICATION AND START COUNSELING NOT ONLY FOR YOURSELF BUT YOUR FAMILY. YOUR KIDS NEED YOU TO BE THERE FOR THEM. IF THAT DOES NOT WORK (AFTER SERIOUS EFFORT) TRY TO LOOK FOR OTHER ALTERNATIVES

Answer 2

It does sound like your depression is very situational, I wouldn't recommend going to a psychiatrist, I would recommend a therapist instead, however a psychiatrist would be able to prescribe you a mild antidepressant that would help you to regulate your emotions so that you can sort through your problems a little easier. I went through a period where I was really depressed but it was all situational and I was put on a low dose of Zoloft and went through counseling and it really helped. As soon as I began working through what was upsetting me, we lowered the Zoloft even further and then I was completely off of it after 2 months. I wouldn't be completely closed minded about medication because the right combination could really help you. Another thing that you might try is finding a life coach or consultant. They can help you to structure your life and use a non pharmaceutical approach to easing depression.

http://www.transitionslifeconsulting.com

You may not be able to see this woman in person but she does phone and e-mail consultations as well, and if you're not interested than it'll at least give you an idea of some things that might help you.

Answer 3

Do not get your hopes up. It's been a long time since you broke up and he has moved on. You got a little psycho afterwards so now he was a little concerned. How are you going to act? Now that you are seeing him are you going to go psycho? Are you ok? Have you moved on? It's makes sense that after seeing you he would ask about you--to make sure you are ok. That you aren't still crying yourself to sleep each night. He doesn't want you back but he did love you so he doesn't want you to be miserable for the rest of your life. You need to start trying to move on. There is the chance that he and his new girlfriend just broke up and he was merely having a deep night. A night where you think a lot about What Might have been. At 22 though he is no where near marriage and neither are you. So try to move on and date more people and make sure you've really discovered what you want in life. Your first love is never something you get over but you don't know what's wrong with your first love b/c you don't know who you are or what you want in life yet. So the fresh new experience of love is perfect. Later on you realize that it was the New Experience that made it seem so perfect.

Answer 4

change the way you do things ,can change the way you feel ,dont cook a tea ,do sandwiches ,dont sit in all day go out even if for a walk ,for get house work it will keep ,play hide and seek with the kids ,they will love it and so will you ,revert back to being carefree and a kid ,i think whats happened is you have soooooo much on your mind that reality is slipping away ,what tends to happen is the house work becomes a chore ,cooking tea ,means you have to think what to do so its not the same as we had yesturday ,,then in the minds eye whilst you are cooking tea ,your mind is thinking on its own ,the washing needs doing ,the kids need clean clothes,the bath need cleaning ,i havent payed the electric ,i have to take that parcle to the post office ,i have an appointment at 3 tomorrow ,i think you get what im saying ,,,,wooooooooooooo,stop,thats it no more of all that rushing around ,it can al wait till another day ,the appontment can be canciled ,the washing ill do tomorrow,sod the bath ,what you need to do is say right ill give em all a sandwich ,turn the tv off ,leave the plates in the sink ,and me and the kids are going to be silly today ,and play games ,push the furnature to the sides of the room and you have a space that needs to be played in ,ask the kids they will help,just say what we gonna play then kids ,and they will come out with something ,they always do ,you need to enjoy life ,its so easy to get into a life where its all work ,and all aving to remember ,IT WILL ALL BE THERE TOMORROW TOOlet your hair down go crazy,laugh,play ,tell jokes ,mess about with anything ,get the kids paint set out ,go to the park ,go swimming ,do anything just not what you normally do ,we all need to have fun ,people let theirselves get depressed ,DONTwhat ever you normally do dont do ,what ever you dont normally do DO IT,things can turn around very fast ,try it and you will see ,if that dont help smile in the mirror pull faces at yourself ,make yourself laugh uts a great feeling ,and you will want it more and more ,,,it sound mad but it worked for me ,we dont need pills ,WE NEED FUN,good luck,kat

Answer 5

dont go on anti depressant they dont solve anything i suffer from real bad depression and my kids are the only reason i get up mornings but i do have couselling now which really helps . im learning to find me time just an hour when the kids go bed i do something just for me ,relax, it makes you feel that little bit better about you! if at this time of year like me s.a.d hits you then get some st john wart capsules their great read up about s.a.d on the net . good luck

Answer 6

I have 3 small children two 6 six year olds and one 4 year old. It takes a very strong person to raise children, I think your just in a rut. I was depressed a few years ago, and found that I started to do things for myself...just myself. I started going out without my children just for coffee with my friends and started to actually buy myself new clothes and get my hair done. I feel good about myself and recently started to work from home. It helps to have someone support you and to tell you your doing a good job. My advice is to start to take care of yourself b/c you can't rely on others to do it. Wake up, take a shower, listen to some upbeat music, make yourself look good and tell yourself I'm worth it.

Answer 7

It is good you do not want them. Vioxx killed more Americans than the terrorists on 9/11. See site below for natural help including the advice of a psychatrist on What your doctor may not tell you about depression. Uplifting stories.

http://www.phifoundation.org/heal.html