howabout this...my boyfriend has been dropping hints about how he can see us married..he already asked me to marry him "unofficially" but said he wanted another chance to do it right...and ive been with him about a year and we knew eachother long before....we will be living together sometime in february and my birthday is next month and he said he was going to surprise me...majorly...his mom and i are close and she said that my birthday would be special and i might cry. okay..now ive had too many hints and i dont know what to think..we've talked about how serious we were and how we both didnt want to be married until our mid twenties.. i love him and he is the best thing that has ever happened to me...but ive got a few more years..need to finish college first!does anyone out there know what is going on>?
2006-12-14 08:46:09 · 18 answers · asked by tigerlilly 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Well, get engaged before you move in together and set a date for right after you finish college. I think it's a mistake to live together before you are engaged...I know, I know.... everyone does it. But you need a commitment FIRST. Otherwise, what's his rush to marry? He might decide in a few years he's not interested in marriage 'cause he's already got all the benefits of it without the responsibility. So, I'd take the ring and set a date for right after your graduation. However, if you live in the same town where you go to school, there's no need to wait so long. Get married next year and keep going to school. (We got married while I was still in school and he was out working. That was 35 years ago.)
2006-12-14 08:58:21 · answer #1 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Affortunately he has given u so many hints that he popped the question. He wants to spend his whole life with u.......(Grow old with u)......Well that's the way they call it. If u are serious about him and u love him so much, well like u said u want to wait until you are in your mid-twenties. I say that's a good age to get married.........because all this drama 19 and 20yr old getting married and their marriage doesnt last long....By the time they turn 22 or 23.......they are already filing for a divorce. Well if u do get married pretty soon Congratulations on your special day when u tie the knot. :-)
2006-12-14 09:06:45 · answer #2 · answered by LaLa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being engaged doesn't mean you have to get married. You can get engaged and just plan your wedding to be a few years down the line. From what I've heard planning the wedding takes forever, so you can get a head start. So you can get engaged and when you move in together this will help you get to know each other better and whether or not you two want to be married. If you feel rushed, just tell him that you're not ready for all this and for him to wait.
2006-12-14 09:00:18 · answer #3 · answered by angelicasongs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe try dropping hints about how you want to wait. For example saying, Wouldn't it be nice when were out of college to be married and have a big house... Or something like, I can't wait 'till I'm out of college and we can finally get married. He should get it. If this doesn't work and you keep getting hints about "a ring" then just kindly speak to him and let him now that you love him, but you just need to wait 'till school is over. If he loves you, which I'm sure he does if he wants to marry you, then he'll understand. Good luck!
2006-12-14 08:53:11 · answer #4 · answered by Kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay honey, let me tell you in plain English and ruin the surprise for you:
He is going to propose on your birthday in your new place. Get it?
You can get engaged and be engaged for a while before setting the date, or set the date two years down the road after finishing school. BTW, being married is not going to prevent you from going to school.
With that said, congratulations!
2006-12-14 08:57:10 · answer #5 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Egad, neither he nor his mother can keep a secret, huh? They MUST know that the major hints they are dropping have clued you in to what he's going to do. That means he's worried and wants you to get used to the idea, probably. My advice: take the ring, be engaged, but don't plan the wedding until after you graduate. There's no reason to rush into things.
2006-12-14 08:49:25 · answer #6 · answered by bibliophile31 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All i can say is hold on to him with all your might ,it is very rare to find a guy who doesn't run for the nearest door when you mention the word marriage or engagement.I know from first hand experience when i was with a guy for two years and when i mentioned engagement ,well you can guess what happend ,so be grate full for your man ,i found someone else and we've dating for 3months and he wants to get married and i am not gonna let him get away ,so be happy.
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2006-12-14 08:47:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't think about it. He probably has a plan. The more you expect something, the less of a surprise it will seem. Tell him to stop dropping hints. You already know you'll be married. I surprised my wife big time when I gave her the rock and proposed.... and I gave her zero hints.
2006-12-14 08:54:40 · answer #9 · answered by Ronnie Reign 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not to worry about it - just wait and see.
If it happens, explain it to your boyfriend that you do love him and are very happy he asked you, but say you aren't ready yet as you want to finish college. You could always wear the ring, and have a long engagement, or maybe wear it on the other hand as an eternity ring.
2006-12-14 08:49:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋