So I thought today. Alot. And I decided, after much consideration, that even if something good happens with him, what good will it do? I mean, he was the one who made me cry, who made me hate, who made me angry. The only thing he wants is to not be lonely. He has failed to recognize his mistakes. And without acknowledging those errors, I couldn't accept the fact that he could ever love me. Sure, I would love to be with him. But, I couldn't do that, if he can't realize how much pain he has caused me. Though I still love him with all of my heart, I won't give my love to him until he apologizes for all the tears I cried for him, for all the blood I spilled for him, for all the words I screamed about him. I don't want him to break up with her. Because if he did, it would break her heart, and I just couldn't stand the thought that he tore another girl's soul into peices. I wish he could just say the those ******* words. "I don't like you."
2006-12-14 08:33:12 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It would make me feel alot better, because then I wouldn't have to go on wondering "what if?" or something. If he did say he liked me, I wouldn't allow him to go any further without making him see his mistakes and for him to correct them, to think about them. And if recognizes his mistakes, and asks for forgiveness, and just saying that because he doesn't want to be alone, then I am not accepting the apology. If he wanted to be with me, it would be from deep down in his heart, not because he doesn't want to be lonely. So, nothing will happen between us until he corrects the past and heals the wounds.
Is this a good way to be handling this? If not, then what should I do?
2006-12-14 08:33:57 · update #1
You need to respect yourself, Why would you want to with someone who shows you no respect.......You have the chose to choose to be happy, learn from your mistakes and forgive yourself and move on
2006-12-14 08:38:13 · answer #1 · answered by bob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
STRANGE you are questioning this? I'm going through something similar. I was wondering if it was love, but decided against it. His face shows the desperation of missing my company, and the remorse of the hurt his words caused, but he just can't/won't utter the apology. I will say this to you: Don't get used to painful and abusive relationships. When this guy hurt me, it really cut. I walked away, don't look at him or acknowledge him in anyway whenever our paths cross.
DON'T EVER get used to abusive treatment. If you settle for that, you will never know what it's like to be loved and treated right. If he's lonely, he'll get used to it or find other ways to fill that void in his life. Let him enjoy his life with the other woman. I hate to say it, but she's going to see the exact same side you saw. Then he'll end up back where he was when you ended the relationship with thim. Hopefully, he'll recognize his mistake and change his behavior. Good luck!
2006-12-14 16:44:48 · answer #2 · answered by Mike's Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is too short and there are way too many things to experience to be wasting your time on this guy. Have some respect for yourself and move on, you are wasting your precious time and energy.
2006-12-14 16:39:15 · answer #3 · answered by karina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are over thinking the situation. If he has moved on then you should too. It will hurt for awhile but not forever and you will be better for it.
2006-12-14 16:38:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this sounds like a bad situation for you and it behooves you to walk away.
2006-12-14 16:56:37 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Patience is virtue my dear--stand strong!!!
2006-12-14 16:36:21 · answer #6 · answered by smeezleme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you say he was the one that made you this and made you that but did he make you c.u.m
2006-12-14 16:36:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
pas this and forget
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2006-12-14 16:36:09 · answer #8 · answered by dana brown 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no.
2006-12-14 16:36:21 · answer #9 · answered by john 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋