I have a problem with him..He wants to have a sex with me, but I hesitate to do that. Cause he told me he can't have a sex before marriage and he has to have a virgin wife. But now he wants to do that with me. Is it because I am not a Muslim girl? Should I agree him to have a sex....I know I have to make decision by myself , but I still worry about his attitude to me which is serious or just wants to try....
2006-12-14 08:24:09 · 23 answers · asked by confused333 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He wants to use you. He thinks that because you are not muslim, he is not commiting a sin. His religion only allows marriage with another muslim. Be careful. If I were your mother I would advice you to leave him.
2006-12-14 08:27:50 · answer #1 · answered by Dulcinea 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You should only agree to have sex with somebody if this is what YOU want to do. Their motives are really secondary, but should still play a part in your decision. He's been pretty clear in saying that he wants to marry a virgin whilst sowing some oats of his own. If you are okay with the fact that this is not going to be a long term thing and that he IS saying he wants to have sex with you whilst keeping women from his own religion "pure", then it's your decision and nobody can make it for you. If you like him and you think you'd have a good time, that's fine, but if you are looking for the "one" and will therefore be hurt further down the line then avoid putting your emotional well being at risk later on.
2006-12-14 08:30:21 · answer #2 · answered by little_jo_uk 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from him, if he is a true muslim he would not harrass you about it. If you give in he might well throw you out the door , so be true to yourself and follow-up on your gut instincts.
You will find that most of time they are right, if he loves you he will understand but you should try to find out how your life will be if you go ahead and get married with him.
I have a few friends that went through what you are and the end result was not very pretty at all.
2006-12-14 08:27:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have a great idea, don't date Muslim guys. If he knows his religion, he knows he can't do the deed till he is married. But he is trying to find a way around it, that's the guy in him talking. Just dump the guy. Easier said then done, but you will be way better off. Leave those 89 virgins for him.
2006-12-14 08:29:45 · answer #4 · answered by Tyler C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is correct that Islam teaches no pre-marital sex. Apparently this boyfriend of yours is not walking the talk. He didn't sound frank to me. If I'm you, I'll re-think the relationship and move on. Besides, should you decide to marry him, you will have to convert yourself to Muslims ideology. Are you prepared for that!
2006-12-14 08:27:23 · answer #5 · answered by SingGirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you shouldn't agree to do anything with him that you feel uncomfortable about. He seems like he is manipulating you which is extremely unfair of him. His ideas that he should marry a virgin are not your problem, and in any case they are hypocritical, since he is willing to have sex before marriage himself. He does not sound very nice, to be honest.
2006-12-14 08:26:46 · answer #6 · answered by probablestars 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't trust him either. That is a sure way to 'lie to you' and still get his way. It's a very old come-on.
Do you love him? He certainly doesn't respect his Muslim heritage.
Does he love you? Does he respect you and your heritage?
Hope these questions for you are appropriate ones...I am 47 and don't know your age, but I would certainly ask my daughter (have one, she's grown) the same questions.
Hope this helps. Keep your angels around you at all times, they will help protect you and help you with your decisions.
2006-12-14 08:31:43 · answer #7 · answered by I love angels 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm dating a muslim guy too, and I'm Christian. Basically, he's not
sticking to his beliefs just like a lot of people. If you want to have sex with him, go ahead. But let him know that if he isn't 100% sure he's going to stick to his beliefs to not trouble your mind about it. Doesn't mean he isn't a "true" muslim.
Krazy Libra
2006-12-14 08:30:14 · answer #8 · answered by krazy_libra_from_ac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is that strong in his faith he probably wants to marry a muslim girl, that's why sex with you don't matter. ASk him to describe his future wife, I bet she's muslim. Your are just the toy till the real thing comes along. Sorry to be blunt but that's how it is!
2006-12-14 08:30:01 · answer #9 · answered by krissy 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Too many what if and maybe. Don't have sex with him. If he has to have a virgin for marriage and he wants to have sex with you then you are not marriage material in his eyes. Your a play thing.
2006-12-14 08:30:03 · answer #10 · answered by Poppet 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋