How to stop a two year old from throwing fits!!?

Question

Every time I leave her at daycare my two year old throws herself on the floor. She has been going there for a year and this just started happening all of a sudden how can I help her stop

Answer 1

Well, there's a reason they call it the terrible two's. Kids do this at this age because psychologically they're starting to recognize they can control what they do, and they're creating their own identity, separate from you as the parent. From the outside, this can look like trantrums. The child is wondering, "what happens when I do this?" Will mom still love me? Will she give me that candy I see on the shelf at the checkout stand?

At this age, I'd give your child a kiss & hug. Tell her that (whatever her teacher's name is) will take good care of her. Now you're going to work and you'll see her at X time.

Be predictable and consistent and this phase your daughter is in should pass eventually. Best of luck to you!

Answer 2

Your baby misses you. You're not going to be able to stop it. She's in a bad phase right now. If you can take a day off and spend some time with her, do that. If you can't, you'll have to let it run its course.

Have a conversation with the daycare workers. See if somebody new just started working there. Maybe she doesn't like one of the staff members. Maybe one if the kids is mean to her. See if they've noticed anything different since her fits started.

They might also have a kiss-and-go suggestion for you (that is, kiss your daughter and then leave) that will help her calm down more quickly.

Good luck--

Answer 3

Well when you go in before turning her over to the place Give her a Hug, Say Good bye, I'll be back or daddy will or whom ever will to pick you up at so and so time. Then turn don't look back or say anything and walk on out.

Other thing is if your married and your husband can Carry your family with out your income Quit and stay home to raise your Child. Remember this is the only time your little girl will be 2 and in her most informative years. Wouldn't you rather be teaching your child your morals and beliefs rather than some PC Daycare? However this may not be for everyone...

Answer 4

Have you tried ignoring them? or getting on the floor and throwing a fit of your own? In public, simply drop what you are doing and leave. Make sure he knows - explain in 2 yr old words - that HE is the reason you are leaving. Parents forget that if you continue activities or pay attention to the tantrum, you are rewarding them for their behavior! It is a phase tho, he is testing boundaries... pushing buttons. But get it nipped in the bud soon!... (It can get worse...) You have to find a method of correction that works for you and your childs dynamics. if time outs haven't worked, start taking away prized posessions. if that doesn't work, a swat on the behind. If you won't do that one, try a positive reinforcement for good behavior, like a sticker chart. when chart is full, if there are more good days than bad, reward the child with a trip to zoo, or mcdonalds playland, or something along those lines If you're concerned it could be medical, talk to your pediatrician.... maybe there are some testings or advice he/she could give you

Answer 5

From experience I would have to ask , does she have a new teacher? Are there some new kids in her classroom that are giving her a hard time? I went through a similar experience with my two year old. When they changed her teacher, she quit fussing. I don't think she liked the one that was in there with her. I would find out more about what is going on there at the daycare. All of a sudden, she doesn't like it. She has to express herself somehow, and maybe she is trying to tell you something.

Answer 6

Did something happen at daycare? even something unimportant to you could be a big deal to her. Talk to her teacher(s). Maybe she's testing you. If possible, hang around and watch her after you drop her off, without her seeing you. It may be all a show for you. ASK HER. find a time when you and your daughter can talk. Ask her questions about her daycare. ask her about her friends. Ask her about the children that she's not friends with. You may be surprised at some of the answers. Be sure when you talk to her, though, that you have time to listen. During her bath or when your tucking her into bed are perfect times. Ask yourself a questions, too. Has anything changed at home? Kids pick up on little things more than parents realize.

Answer 7

I have a 23 month old who has begun to throw fits out of nowhere. I have tried everything from holding him to the very unpopular spanking (which by the way did not stop the behavior, but only made it worse). I have found that if I just walk away and ignore him, he eventually stops. It breaks my heart to do it cause he is screaming and screaming, but a few minutes later when he comes and finds me and wants me to hold him and tells me he loves me, I know I did the right thing.

Answer 8

It depends on why she is throwing a fit. If she is suddenly starting to miss you more then comfort her, tell her you will be back, and when she is calmer leave. But if she is just misbehaving ignore her. She may just want to get attention and if you ignore her she will probably stop. But also, make sure she DOES get enough attention at home and doesn't have to resort to fits to get some. If you really love and care about your child you can usually figure out reasons behind things and how to remediate them. I know that I love children!!! :) Good Luck!

Answer 9

She acts in a way to try to get your attenetion. If that attention is not given the action would be lead to extinction. The reward for her fits is your attention, if you stop the reward then she has no reason to throw a fit.

Answer 10

You can't!! It's a phase she is going through! SHe will one day...just stop! It only lasts for a while and then she probably goes about to play...My son who is almost 3 does this to his dad...if I go to the bathroom...separation!! PLUS she's starting to test her boundries! She'll out grow it and when YOU want her to miss you...she'll kiss you and run off!! That hurts worse!!