when a man has fallen for you but still loves or has feelings for someone else and does not know who he wants and secretly really wants to keep things going elsewhere and with you what do you do? Thing is would hurt to do this knowing he has feelings for someone else and could walk away on the other hand if you walk away then you will never be in with a chance of been with him. What would you do???? Its obvious he's not going to leave who he is with or has feelings for without knowing what you or I could offer him or which he would prefer, suppose it would be unfair to expect him to, what would you do??? Give it a try or walk away??
2006-12-14 07:59:57 · 13 answers · asked by mymanomer 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Walk away from him.
I assume that the man who has "fallen for you" has not told the other woman in his life that he's seeing someone else on the side?
Think on this: assume that from your point of view, the "best case" scenario happens and he leaves the someone else he is involved while he is also involved with you. What do you end up with?
A man who will get involved with someone else while he's still involved with you.
This guy you're seeing knows what he wants: he wants to have his cake and eat it too.
You say "Its obvious he's not going to leave who he is with or has feelings for without knowing what you or I could offer him or which he would prefer,". I think that's bogus. If he knows he's having problems with the other relationship he's in, what's the fair thing for him to do? Isn't it to be honest with his partner and tell her things aren't working out, and suggest that maybe they need counseling or other help to fix the relationship, or decide if they need a clean break? IMO, that's what a man of character would do. You seriously think it's okay for him to "test drive" a relationship with you while deciding if he wants to break off the old relationship?
He knows his old relationship isn't working. So if he's a real man, he either works on putting it right or he ends it. Neither of those choices includes getting involved with someone else while he's still involved in the old relationship.
IMO this is not a man of character. The best way of predicting how people will behave in the future is to look at their past and present behavior. Look at the way this man is treating the other woman in his life. Is that the way you want to be treated?
2006-12-14 08:10:27 · answer #1 · answered by Karin C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in a similiar situation. This bloke fell for me, but was still with someone else ( i didnt know ). But then I found out. OUt of anger, I told her. She got him beat up & put in hospital. They are still together & they have now got married.
Leave the guy. Dont fall for his charm. He doesnt have true feelings for you if he doesnt want you full time.
Move on & get over him
2006-12-14 08:13:50 · answer #2 · answered by The_Catcher_UK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Walk away if he still has feelings for someone else he does not have 100% feelings for you.
2006-12-14 08:03:11 · answer #3 · answered by Ding Dong 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From experiance it never works out and it gets more an more messy asd time goes on so I would have to say walk away!
2006-12-14 08:03:00 · answer #4 · answered by Jo. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get your boots on and start walking. Plenty of men out there who are actually worth the effort. Why waste your time on one who isn't committed to making it work with you?
2006-12-14 08:04:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would walk away. Why stick around for a maybe?
2006-12-14 08:03:15 · answer #6 · answered by Lexy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Walk away, that's what he would do. Have more pride in yourself for goodnes sake! Merry Christmas.xx
2006-12-14 08:14:45 · answer #7 · answered by maria bartoninfrance 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guy has to choose, A or B. Neither should have to "win" him over. And you shouldn't stay as long as he prolongs the decision. Just having and eating his cake.
2006-12-14 08:03:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
run away as fast as you can there's no future there for you is there surely you must know that
2006-12-14 08:13:53 · answer #9 · answered by srracvuee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont be a whore..dump that guy and find someone single who is totally about you...you deserve it
2006-12-14 08:02:52 · answer #10 · answered by j c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋