idk what i would do without her, and she says the same, but bc of the age difforence, her mom doesn't want us 2 talk nemore, and my parents agree... im afraid that she would try 2 take this 2 court, bc they could try me as an adult... her mom said to stop talking "no contact at all" i really love her and dont wanna let her go and cant imagine life without her, and she is refusing 2 stop talkiing 2 me, but at the same time i dont wanna get her in nemore trouble with this... what should i do?
2006-12-14 07:54:17 · 25 answers · asked by lp696900 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dear 69...Uh,hu
Listen, I know that at both of your ages your hot and just purrrrring to go (at it). Although your just 3years older, but your ages are very complicated. For instance it would be different if you were say twenty-one and she were eighteen or nineteen years of age. Then she's legal and can move out (with you).
The one thing most parents are afraid of especially for their girls is to end up with children too early, or not waiting for their understanding of what it is to be an adult. Love and lust are two different things. Here are a couple of ways to know if you really love someone or just lust them:
I'd like to mention first though that the Bible gives a great understanding of what really love is....Love is an action word. Love is not actually a feeling. Yes it can have an emotional attachment, but overall you either care for someone or you don't. Love should know boundaries, but there are no limitations or define set conditions. If a person is not acting or being what and who you want them to be and you find yourself up-set with this person for that reason alone then you should question if what you are experiencing is love. Lust on the other hand is a strong desire. A strong desire for indulgence of sex. Now some people refer to lust for food, money etc. but, thats lustful. In other words if when the two of you get together and you can't keep your hands to yourselfs as well as other parts then you should ask yourself what am I experiencing.
One last thing. Love wants to see love happy, content and very alright. Love wants no harm to come to love. Love is slow to anger and shows compassion. Love is not a feeling. You either do or you don't. If you care about this young lady you will let her go per her parents request. If you care about yourself you will find some other business right now. If you guys are meant to be together believe me fate and faith will have their way eventually. Be patient...that's a sign of love too.
2006-12-14 08:19:37 · answer #1 · answered by simplyarty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its very tricky due to the age difference, but then i think you should try to let it cool for a bit, maybe you guys have taken things too quickly, keep in mind that if she's only14, her parents may still be clinging on her and keeping her away from the 'outside world' and are VERY protective. Don't take any drastic actions like running away together or anything, as that can lead to something like a tragic romeo and juliet ending. Another option worth considering is you talking to her parents and really get straight to the point about you going out with their daughter and sort out ur differences. if all doesn't work, best try the homing pidgeon mail services or better still, wait till she is about 16 or so. good luck!
2006-12-14 08:01:22 · answer #2 · answered by ChristopheraX 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was you I would listen to the parents. Yes I know it will be difficult, but if you sneak around and keep talking it's only going to make things worst. So tell your girlfriend that you think it will best for the two of you to remain separate for now. When your parents see the maturity level then they may let you guys go out in the future. Besides she is 14 years old and you are 17 years old. Enjoy your youth. You will have a life time to be in a relationship. Trust me!!
2006-12-14 07:59:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been through very similar situation with my daughter. It scared me because he was sexually experienced and she is not. (Yes I know that for a fact) But the fact that they would do things behind my back and sneak over to his house at lunch break, bothered me like crazy. I confronted him and he acted like he cared, but there they go again, doing things I said no to. As a parent we have a responsibility to protect our children and keep them safe, I did not feel letting them go out was a responsible decision. They eventually broke up because of the no contact rule outside of school. I am happy for this, simply because he had no respect for rules and never tried to be a better person in my eyes. You need to be honest and respectable to parents, if not, you'll never get anywhere. If you think you could talk to her mom, try, I highly doubt it would make a difference, but it shows that you have the heart to try. Wait a year, stay friends, but don't be sneaky. If you are supposed to be together forever, what's a year and a whole lot of respect from her parents.
2006-12-14 08:14:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love each other then you can wait a few years to be with her. She is too young for a serious relationship, if you love her give her time and respect her mother. Maybe if she matures a bit and can talk to her mom, then her mom might back down about her friends. I think you should just move on, at your age you are likely to "love" alot of girls. Besides, if you get caught with her after 18 you are likely to get labeled a pedophile for the rest of your life!
2006-12-14 07:57:30 · answer #5 · answered by SassySister 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no toddler no way!!! you're doing it for each and all of the incorrect reasons. it won't make his mothers and fathers come back jointly. in simple terms on the grounds which you're out of school doesnt mean you have got the money to look after it. you will ought to end working, you recognize that suitable?? a minimum of for 2 months or so. and in simple terms by using fact his ex wont enable him see the toddler doesnt mean you need to offer him a sparkling one. so now he is going loopy and breaks up with you. do you relatively think of it particularly is a sturdy concern for a newborn??? strengthen up slightly extra.
2016-10-14 23:02:48 · answer #6 · answered by dusik 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're young and love is a lie. Wait until she gets a little bit older and if you feel the same way, them who is her mother to stop her? If you really mean everything you said, 4 years shouldn't be that long of a wait.
2006-12-14 07:57:40 · answer #7 · answered by Dreaming of You 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As the phrase goes " if you love her let her go"! If she is getting into trouble over you than you need to take yourself away from the situation!! If you truely love her than respect her parents' wishes! If you are meant to be together, you will!! And if not, at least you will not be spending your youth behind bars!!!
2006-12-14 08:00:05 · answer #8 · answered by September Sweetie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at this point she is too young for you to be seriously involved with you. you are almost a legal adult. back off and give it time. you will probably meet others you will want to spend time with. we all change over time. your interests will change. after she and you are older, if you feel the same you can pursue a relationship again.
2006-12-14 08:00:28 · answer #9 · answered by katlady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The parents are right.
You already know how the legality works out.
Leave that girl alone before you find yourself shower dancing with some guy named Spike.
2006-12-14 07:59:01 · answer #10 · answered by peter n 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋