The guy I was seeing was still with his gf after telling me they had split up and that he loved me. He has been cheating on her for four months with me and I feel terrible about it, should I tell her the truth as he is still with her and will probably do it again.
2006-12-14 07:54:13 · 32 answers · asked by Shelly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is a scumbag, he's having his cake and eating it. Get rid and dob him in. :)
2006-12-14 07:57:18 · answer #1 · answered by chutney 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Umm hellooooooo!!!!!!! Wake up girl! He is cheating on both of you. Why are you allowing yourself to be second best? No, don't talk to her. You need to talk to him and say GOODBYE !!! If he truely loved you, he wouldn't be cheating on you. You're an intelligent and wonderful person who deserves respect. Once a cheat, always a cheat. Turn around and run away from this lousy lying two timing loser now!!! before you get really hurt. He's not going to give her up for you. There are millions of gorgeous, faithful, single, sexy and AVAILABLE guys on the planet for you to date and you have to go with this one??? Don't let yourself be used like a sexual outlet any more. You can do so much better.
But do it now!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-14 08:01:20 · answer #2 · answered by Aussie Girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wise only if you feel your are being dishonest to your self, The guy will be caught out eventually so its up to you if you want to be put into that position.. personally i wouldn't get involved if someone cheated on me i wouldn't bother making contact with them or anyone they know again.
remember a lie can only be kept up for so long true colours always shine through even if it takes a long time.
2006-12-14 08:37:26 · answer #3 · answered by comission90 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one! I would want to know personally if my guy was cheating on me, but not everybody feels the same way, If this girl is a close friend of yours then I advise that you dont unless your willing to loose your friendship over it, However If you feel that she will benefit from knowing the truth that this lying piece of scum might do it again then she deserves to know!
2006-12-14 07:58:26 · answer #4 · answered by Jo. 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Shelly...it's not just her he was cheating on....he was cheating on you too...he told you he was no longer with her anymore...so he's lying to both of you.....don't bother with him any more because he will make your life miserable...don't feel guilty about this either..it's not your fault...you thought he'd split up with her so how was you to know what he was up to....don't tell her anything...make him tell her, and if he refuses then threaten to tell her yourself...call his bluff, dont let him get away with it (then run for the hills)....you are not to blame for this...he's the liar...not you....he does not deserve either of you, so if i were you, I'd drop him like a hot brick...he cant be trusted any more....
2006-12-14 08:06:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. tell her the truth. she deserves to know. I was in the same situation as you. I told her. She ended up getting her boyfriend beat up & put in hospital. In the end, they got back together & they are now married. But he's still cheating on her (not with me, with someone else ). Once a cheater, always a cheater. Tell her. Then forget about him & move on with your own life, to bigger & better things !
2006-12-14 07:57:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to tell her anything, but you DO need to stop seeing him NOW. He's a cheat and a liar and not worth your time. If he cheated with one girlfriend, he'll do it to you too. Get out of the situation while you can ... and don't ever go back to him no matter what he tells you. Remember, he cannot be trusted.
2006-12-14 08:15:26 · answer #7 · answered by Roberta 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My advice is just to get out of it and leave them too it! For all you know, she may be one of these women who love their men so much they will put up with anything.. yes there are some women like that! Im sure this man will eventually get what he deserves and equally, so will this woman!! Just dont get involved in settling the score.. allow nature to do that.. thats definitely the best way!
2006-12-14 12:40:57 · answer #8 · answered by Bobbie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl why are you with that loser? I hope that you don't think that there is any real potential for anything meaningful with him he is using you. Kick his *** to the curb because if he cheated with you he will (and is) going to cheat on you. And yes, tell his girlfriend b/c she has the right to know. If you were in her place wouldn't you wanna know?
2006-12-14 07:59:25 · answer #9 · answered by erinboberin21 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should stay out of it because really its between him and her. If you tell her, she may not believe you and if she does she may lash out at you cause you are there. Girls sometimes don't want to believe the worst about their guy. The best thing you can do for you is to remove yourself from the situation completely. If he could do that to her, he would do it to you tool
2006-12-14 08:02:32 · answer #10 · answered by Jen_n_TX 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Which one of you is he cheating on? If he was still with her and seeing you, he cheated on both of you.
And you say he is still with her? Come on, wake up and smell the flowers!!
It is over. Move on!!! This guy is a loser.
2006-12-14 08:01:29 · answer #11 · answered by Gnome 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋