I met a guy through an online dating service but I know I don't want to see him again although he expressed some interest in seeing me again as he asked my to call him when I am off. I guess I didn't find out enough about him before meeting him.
When I met him and spent an hour with him, first of all we sat at the coffee house and he didn't even offer me a coffee, and I hate cheap men. It turns out he has been divorced twice in the past decade and although he is upper 50's , he three children (which I presumed would be grown) are all under 10 years old. I am not really looking to start a relationship with a man with 3 small children, and to top that off , he had mentioned going to college and having a management job but he told me on the date that he barely made it through highschool and he has been on disability for the past year although he seems well bodied to me. He kept looking at me and it really made me nervous. I know he isn't the one & I need a nice way to end it
2006-12-14 07:41:19 · 8 answers · asked by reallyfedup 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He doesn't have my phone number or know where I live, as we communicate through the dating site only and email addresses are concealed and he isn't a weirdo or anything, it's just I know for sure he isn't the one but don't want to come across as rude but it is true probably that it's best to ignore him because any time i have tried to be nice to a guy to lose him, they don't seem to get it and take it as interest.
2006-12-14 07:49:12 · update #1
Wow, those are a lot of issues rolled into one. Why can't people just be honest from the start? I personally get turned off by a man that displays himself as something he is not. He should have been upfront from the start about his schooling at the very least if that is important to you.
Also, why wouldn't he atleast buy you a coffee? YIKES!! how cheap can you get?
Do the best thing, write him an email or letter. I wouldn't even call him at this point. Tell him clearly that you are not interested and never will be. You may also want to mention (though it may be a little white lie) that you have decided to get back together with your former boyfriend/husband or whoever fits the bill.
In any case, get rid of the guy and move on. There are much better fish in the sea!
2006-12-14 07:47:49 · answer #1 · answered by Singthing 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way is just do it. Don't acknowledge them when you see them, don't answer or return their calls, Emails, Letters. In fact act as though they are a complete stranger. If they do approach you to ask why you are doing this, don't tell them things are cool, just either continue to ignore them or say something like "excuse me do I know you? I think you must have mistaken me for someone else" and then walk on. However, If someone is doing this to you, and saying everything is OK when you ask, perhaps there is something going on that you don't know about in their life that is causing great upset or distraction. They might not be cutting you off, maybe things between you are genuinely OK but they just don't realise they have blanked you a few times. I do that all the time, even to family if I get distracted, which is done easily and often.
2016-03-29 07:18:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sounds like a real looser. The best way to do it is to just tell him ur not interested in a relationship at this time. Its a nice way to tell him to get lost without realy saying it . thats tjhe problem with meeting on line . you have to be sure that people are what they say they are . well good luck in your search for mr. right u never know he could be the guy living next to you or the guy at the store shopping when u are. ITs better to see before u buy the product so good luck.im single so if u want u can message me ......lol
2006-12-14 07:49:16 · answer #3 · answered by tom d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After telling him that you have a hair appointment, doctor's visit, family obligations or any of the other excuses and he's still persistant just tell him straight out.
Some people need to be hit in the face with a 2x4 before they see the light. Know what I mean?
2006-12-14 07:45:55 · answer #4 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is easy - completely ignore him. Men know that when they're being blown off that we have absolutely no interest in them. Should he keep calling - tell him you're back with your ex and you guys are trying to make it work (even if you're not) and that you'd appreciate him not calling anymore so that you two could work on your relationship.
If that doesnt work - get a restraining order.
2006-12-14 07:45:32 · answer #5 · answered by Chrissie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
change your email adress & home adress so he can;t reach you. IF he has your number call the phone company & tell them you're getting too much advertising calls & you wish to change yuor number. IF you gave him your cell too do the same thing and there you go! problem solved. FI you want to continue on this chat room change your identity & continue chatting so he can;t find you if he wants to.
2006-12-14 07:45:20 · answer #6 · answered by Cheesy Stuff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jesus, what are you really asking? Just don't talk to him. Block his email or whatever you have to do. Tell him you don't want a jobless loser with a bunch of little brats running around.
2006-12-14 07:44:51 · answer #7 · answered by danika1066 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ignoring
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2006-12-14 07:45:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋