I have been with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years. in the start it was awesome, He always wanted to go do something. spend time with me it was the best time of my life. I fell deeply in love with him. I thought he was the one that i was gonna spend my life with. But now the past few months idk what happend. He doesn't like to spend much time with me anymore, he always wants to hang out with this one friend of his (thats a male). He'll get mad and then take it out on me.. no he's never laid a hand on me but he'll sit there and say i'm an idiot, call me a pshyco and I don't even know what I did. He was going to end the relationship lastnight because he said i'm tryin to run his life. and i"m not. I trust him with all my heart and I know he would never cheat. he knows that I don't want anyone eles.. so why is he acting like this to me anymore. he still says he loves me to death. but sometimes I feel that he doesn't.. I love him so much but I can't take it anymore
2006-12-14 07:36:49 · 12 answers · asked by Jen 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the second and third years of a relationship are always the hardest, you gotta tough it out, try bringing more spice to your relationship, something like a threeway or something, you gotta make things interesting again
2006-12-14 07:39:57 · answer #1 · answered by student network noob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this because its a shame but this usually happens because he has lost respect for you.Maybe you have been trying too hard and giving him too much of yourself.Ask yourself this, Do you still do things on your own that you do for yourself or only things with him? Do you still hang with your own friends alone or only him and mostly his friends? Have you blown off those that love you and now never see them because of spending so much time with him??if you answered these like I think you are going to, then you forgot who "you" are. the one he feel in love with because of how you were in your own life.He probably feels like your his shadow more than his partner.
My advise is start spending sometime to get back in touch with the "you" you used to be.Spend a little more time without him at times with friends.He will see you being yourself again and in turn start respecting you more again. Trust me, I have seen this happen alot, even when you don't realize your doing it.Just step back a bit and re evaluate.
2006-12-14 15:48:23 · answer #2 · answered by vmaxer85 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Plain and simple this is abuse, obviously he has done a complete turn around from what he used to be as to what's going on right now. If he is going through something difficult in his life, you are his partner and he must discuss it with you calmly, not abuse you, call you names and basically blame you for whatever went wrong with his life.
Tell him that you need to know what is exactly the matter and that you are not willing to be his punching bag.
If you stay in an abusive relationship it usually gets worse and worse, you don't want to be there when he finally hits you, right?
Get to the root of the problem or get out,
Best of luck and please be careful.
Irene
2006-12-14 15:44:38 · answer #3 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not sure exactly what's wrong is he just borred or what coz here am just seeing yr point of view which is not enough in addition yr words are general, but the best thing to do specially he is fighting with you too much and that he did say that he wanted to break out with you and i don't know how it was setteled to stay together not forgetting that he calls you stupid which is not acceptable I beleive both of you shoud have a break from each other to makes sure if you can continue together or end it up without more suffering for any of you
good luck
2006-12-14 15:43:42 · answer #4 · answered by Thank God 4 everything 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has a conflict going on in his life that you don't know about, you either need to set him down and talk it out with him or beat him to the punch and say I'm leaving.
If that doesn't snap him out of it, it means it's what he really wants anyway and there is nothing you could have done to stop him from moving on.
2006-12-14 15:47:42 · answer #5 · answered by Powerplay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might not be laying a hand on you, but he is still abusing you. Don't ever let a man talk to you like that. They aren't worth it. It sounds like he is trying to get you to break up with him. Try talking to him, if he doesn't want to talk about it, then I would say leave him. Most times physical abuse starts after the verbal abuse. Don't let it get to that point. I know its going to be hard, but I would walk away. You will find a guy who sweeps you off your feet and makes you feel like a queen. Don't settle for this little boys verbal abuse.
2006-12-14 15:42:10 · answer #6 · answered by confused angel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you both need a break from each other, use that time to talk to a counselor, name-calling-especially the things he is saying to you is a red flag and wrong. You don't deserve to be treated this way. As much as it hurts sometimes its best to move on.
2006-12-14 15:45:39 · answer #7 · answered by Boots4ACowgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DAMN HUN !
Your so right .. We seem to have lost track of whats important on YA..
I need some sex and I think that is the problem.. I didn't get my noon gang bang session today and dammit I think it is getting the best of my judgement !
2006-12-14 15:39:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
GIRL...YOU NEED TO GO OUT WITH YOUR FRIENDS FOR A GIRLS NIGHT..LEAVE HIM ALONE ...AS SOON AS HE SEES THAT YOU HAVE PULLED BACK A LITTLE BIT ...IT WILL MAKE HIM CRAZY!!!!...HE KNOWS YOUR CONVENT AND YOU WILL BE THERE WHENEVER AND HE LIKES THAT...GUYS ARE SO INSECURE AT ANY AGE....GIVE HIM HIS SPACE....IF HE DOESN'T REACT ..THEN HE IS NOT WORTH YOUR TIME...TRUST ME IAM TALKING FROM EXPERIENCE.....
2006-12-14 15:42:00 · answer #9 · answered by Jennifer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mija you love him talk to him about it! something I should have done
2006-12-14 15:42:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋