They've worked together for a couple of years. He left for a different store and came back about a month ago. She says they've always joked around together. Last night they were really busy and he called her a b i t c h. She asked me to not get involved. What should or shouldn't I do?
2006-12-14 07:26:38 · 22 answers · asked by slap_shot69 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Respect her wish that she does not want you to get involved. While it boils your blood to hear somebody called your loved one such awful name, I think it is even more important to respect her wish. She is no longer a kid that needs somebody to take charge of tihngs for her. Just my opinion.
2006-12-14 07:35:04 · answer #1 · answered by SimpleGuy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-30 10:07:16 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's asked you not to get involved, its best not to. Some people allow that sort of language from certain people. Make sure you talk to her about it.
If it becomes a problem (meaning you hear it or something like it again) you are in the office as a customer, and you can complain about the uncouth worker who seems to forget he's representing the organization.
2006-12-14 07:34:38 · answer #3 · answered by drutheta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if she's not upset enough to tell a manager about being called a derogatory name, then it is something she's used to or will put up with from him. If it doesn't bother her, it shouldn't bother you. If I were you, though, I'd ask her why she would allow someone to call her that.
2006-12-14 07:40:34 · answer #4 · answered by irie.girl_2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well its all in the matter of how you feel about it. My husband personally would probably go kick their @$$ for saying anything like that. But its all in how you feel about it. Even though I would tell my husband not to get involved he still would because I'm a part of his life and he wouldn't want anybody calling me a name that would be degrogatory to him as well. I know its a touchy matter but you have to do what you feel is right even if it may go against what your fiance says. She may not like it or even get mad but its out of love.
2006-12-14 07:39:29 · answer #5 · answered by elbellasera 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one. You have a responsibilty to say something due to the fact you heard it. Your fiance may not want to have to deal with the uneasyness of it all, but you have the obligation to say something. If you heard him call her a *****, then you need to say something to him. If she told you he called her that name, I would let it go. However, if you heard this yourself, you need to say something. I would never allow anyone to speak that way about anyone I know. Joking or not. Thank you.
2006-12-14 07:41:49 · answer #6 · answered by cookie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she told you not to get involved then you should respect her wishes. Otherwise I would imagine that your SHOULD do something about it. Maybe nothing drastic but definitely stand up for her. If things do turn unfriendly, then you should step in. I would suggest speaking with the co-worker privately and get things settled without unnecessary violence.
2006-12-14 07:30:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
She asked you not to get involved, but she wouldn't have told you if she didn't want you to march down there and jack that dude up, take the thirty days in county jail and teach that guy a lesson, it'll be worth it.
2006-12-14 07:53:54 · answer #8 · answered by DjStabMasterArson 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should do the gentlemanly thing and demand an apology on behalf of your fiance. if this is refused you should call the other fellow out and offer him his choice of weapons and fight a duel....
2006-12-14 07:34:58 · answer #9 · answered by jademonkey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should listen to your fiance above your coworker, and not get involved.
However, if this happens again without your fiance hearing about it, tell your co-worker that you don't appreciate such demeaning and insulting language.
2006-12-14 07:31:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋