My "down there" is toooo tight and my bf has a hard time getting in, we use lube and everything but it is still really tight. what can i do?
2006-12-14 07:25:44 · 33 answers · asked by Sam S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well i happen to have that problem as well. even after i had my daughter two years ago. it is still pretty tight, but like the others have said that is a good thing. but just do lots of foreplay and maybe some oral. my bf gives great oral and that always gets me really wet and ready. but other than that just just some lube and go really slow and things will open up, if you are still have probs just mention it to you ob the next time you go for your check up. :)
2006-12-14 08:21:59 · answer #1 · answered by blah blah blah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thought is more foreplay. Remember that this is the same passage that babies come out, It stretches. The key to having it stretch during sex is arousal. That means foreplay. Tight is good for both of you, if you are turned on enough. One note, if you need lube to get him in at all, then you are way too early. Take the time to do it right and you will drive each other mad with pleasure!
2006-12-14 07:29:46 · answer #2 · answered by funwithu_007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have him slowly slide an inch in at a time (using lube). Once an inch gets in, have him pull it out, and go slightly deeper, pull it out and so on. Eventually it will be all the way in.
Another thing you could try is have him finger you before penetrating you. Or masturbate with an object smaller than his penis but large enough to stretch it out some. It loosens things up as well as lubricates it more.
2006-12-14 07:31:54 · answer #3 · answered by Abby C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RELAX, if you havnt been having sex for a long time it take time to "break it" some women are more naturally tight than others, this is okay. just relax this can help those muscles stretch and be more comfortable for you and your mate. Good luck
2006-12-14 07:28:58 · answer #4 · answered by Lillian S. Phx Arizona 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, if you want a healthy relationship, wait. Don't have sexual relations. I think in time it will resolve itself. Relationships that begin on spiritual intimacy are always stronger and more exciting than those on physical intimacy.
If you aren't going to wait, then the only cure is find a boy with a smaller "down there". It won't matter who it is, cause the relationship will only reach a physical level.
2006-12-14 07:32:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Maybe he is too big. Try more foreplay which will relax your muscles. There certain things a man can do orally and manually to get you more excited and "loosened" up.
2006-12-14 07:29:32 · answer #6 · answered by Mike E 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOu have to do some foreplay. He's got to get you really hot and wet. Things like oral and touching can do this. Baically, you have got to be the wettest you can be (as disgusting as that sounds). After that, have him use the lube...then slowly ease it in there. I know this from experience...
2006-12-14 07:28:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try doing some foreplay first. Have him use his hands "down there" and get you ready. Then when he does try to get it in, have him go slow. It will get better over time. Good luck and have fun exploring new ways to get "down there" not so tight.
2006-12-14 07:29:59 · answer #8 · answered by confused angel 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honey, it's like a pair of shoes you have to break it in for a while before it fits right.
2006-12-14 07:29:43 · answer #9 · answered by Jabberwock 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
need more foreplay for natural lube and take his time. he may be too eager. the more it hurts the less you will want it.
2006-12-14 07:30:57 · answer #10 · answered by BuddhaDaddy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋