i feel like a bad person or a bad guy?

Question

oh this christmas is going to be really bad. my sister keeps making catty remarks to me she is jealous of me. then she turns things around and makes up lies to my mother saying that i am catty towards her.my mom sticks up for her always. then my husband was on the dating sites marriedcheats.com and some other ones 4 years ago and i was crying and i send him mother and father a letter telling them what he did. he denied it and then they took his side i am no longer allowed over there. I feel like the black sheep. i feel like staying here all by my self this christmas cause of all the crap. i feel like the bad guy cause eveyone seems to take someone elses side but mine. my mom believes my sister over me and my husbands mother and dad dont believe what he did and they said i lied and so i like what now.... all i have is myself now. i feel lije the bad guy at least they make me feel this way

Answer 1

oh thats just awful if i were you pal i wouldnt speak to any of them especialy that stupid so called hubby of yours none of them deserve the time of day from you isnt there a friend you can spend xmas with. you really dont need people like that let them know you are worth much more than that then they might realise what they are doing to you keep your chin up. i hope you get yourself sorted out.a very merry xmas to you from us in scotland uk.

Answer 2

What a predicament. You need to talk to a friend, or someone who is impartial and won't take sides. There is no point in trying to convince your family with words, that you're not the bad person they think you are.
Don't get into arguments with your sister, no matter what she says to you. Try to not talk to her unless it is really necessary and then keep it brief.You will be seen as not being argumentative. Let her fall into her own trap.
From what you've written, and the way you wrote it, you sound like a pretty cool person. If your family and your husbands family continue to give you grief, why not take yourself on a loooong holiday. Find work somewhere else. Another town or state. Make some new friends. Maybe find a new partner. Your husband doesn't deserve you.
Now might be a good time to look after and pamper yourself.
I wish you well.

Answer 3

aww i really feel for you, that sounds horrible. this is just one of those stupid illogical problems people go through sometimes, that you will have to get through. at least you know you didnt do anything wrong and they will probably realise this sometime soon. and your husband denied it? you are too good for these people! it sounds really unfair and not nice. i hope you get through christmas and these problems sort themselves out. could you show the parents the marriedcheats.com thing? if its any conselation, you can at least know that plenty of other people are unhappy during christmas. i will be, i hate my family! i hope you are ok. xx

Answer 4

I would skip your side of the family if it's that bad.

I would have a chat with your husband. Tell him to come clean with his family or get a divorce attorney.

But then, I hate liars.

Answer 5

i know how you feel i always get blamed for things that i didn't do 2 years ago i got my car smashed.and i got blamed for it . so i had to pay over 500 dollars.

Answer 6

i don't think i would go over to my in-laws. they owe you and apology. your husband owes you and apology. He needs to stand up to his parntes and take responsibility for his actions.

Answer 7

i think too a bad person

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