been with my boyf for about 5 yrs, we have a 2 year old daughter, he started his own buisness in march this yr and has been very successful but recently hes been working really late starting at 7am finishing at around 8.30 to 10.30pm or even later he works every saturday and since oct been working most sundays. I do believe him however some nights he has come home and i have smelt alcohol on his breath, i ask where have you been he replies a drink with the work mates this is fine but why doesnt he say anything till i ask? last week i rang him and it was noisy in the back ground, so again i ask he replies, out with friends this is 9pm at night and he hasnt been home for his tea which i cook for him every single night- proper meals not ready meals! again why didnt he say?
tonight i rang twice 1st he said ill be back soon cant wait to see you and ebs then when he wasnt home soon i rang, he said out with my dad, he came back ate his dinner then said im going out with lee!
am i just paro
2006-12-14 07:11:40 · 17 answers · asked by dippydon 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I doubt he's cheating on you, just think he's working so hard he needs some time to himself.
Just explain you don't have a problem with it, but you would apppreciate knowing, and then you don't have to do the clingy girlfriend ;where are you?' thing.
2006-12-14 07:15:11 · answer #1 · answered by CHARISMA 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A man needs time out with the boys. After taking tea for a long time one gets allergic to it. A cold pint always does the trick.
I think he's just trying to relieve the pressure of spending the whole day working. You're a bit paranoid.
Who's Lee anyway? Don't bother.
2006-12-14 15:19:05 · answer #2 · answered by Eddie 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Not at all. There is nothing wrong with a little courtesy. All he has to do is call you and say what he is doing and give an approximate time he will be home and stick to that time. Talk with him and tell him you are missing him and understand his business is doing well but perhaps his relationship with you is not so much. Tell him he needs to spend time with his daughter as well cuz Im sure she misses daddy. Good luck!
2006-12-14 15:15:27 · answer #3 · answered by sweetlaughter434 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you would like him to be home more often. Try to get him to understand that partying is okay, but he needs to try to limit to like 2 days a week. Just give him time to figure out what he wants. Don't be pushy or bitchy. Which all of us tend to do from time to time :). Ask him straight up if anything is going on that you need to know about. If you believe him, then stand by your man.
Good Luck.
2006-12-14 15:17:20 · answer #4 · answered by confused angel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Work hard, play hard may be his motto. Stop being a doormat, do you have a life of your own or do you just wait to wait on him hand and foot? Being considerate if your mate is hardworking is one thing, being desperate is another. Communication seems to be what you want, tell him that. If he continues to be inconsiderate and hang with the boys instead of with you, then you have you're answer, he still wants to be single.
2006-12-14 15:16:58 · answer #5 · answered by Boots4ACowgirl 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
he probably needs some space and time to hang out with friends. but in doing that u also have a need to be with ur boyfriend, do not make trouble with him but tell him u want to have a heart to heart talk with him and then u explain to him that u do not disaprove of his hanging out with friends, but u need him to make time to hang out with u as well, if he spends the whole spare time he has with friends where do u then come in?
look for a hubby, have some sort of interest in something else, he will get jealous of u being passionate about something else other than than just him. u are not a door mat.
2006-12-14 18:52:37 · answer #6 · answered by gal-next-dr 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Running your own business is never a 40-hour-a-week job, but it sounds to me like there is too much suspicion and not enough communication in your relationship. I'd look into some couples counselling for the both of you, if I were you.
2006-12-14 15:19:05 · answer #7 · answered by Liz 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
trouble is with many trades, you cant turn the work down is case it dries up.
In a few years there will be loads of plumbers and their value will go down. Support him now while he grafts and enjoy loads of time together with no big bills in the future.
Be grateful he is not like so many lazy good for nothing who dont even want to work normal hours.
2006-12-14 15:17:14 · answer #8 · answered by dsclimb1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No he's out of order,put your foot down,he might be going out with his mates because he is working so hard and feels he can't say.But you have a toddler at home and he should be spending some of his time with you,you will have to have a talk.
2006-12-14 15:16:12 · answer #9 · answered by MANC & PROUD 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Explain you are fine with him going out with the lads, but sometimes you want to go for a drink too... ask him to give you money for a babysitter, or ask him to invite you along.
2006-12-14 15:15:43 · answer #10 · answered by demnity 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋