Me and my boyfriend have been together for over a year now. We live together, and have built a life together. He's acted like this for a long time and about a month ago it almost ended so he changed for the better. Now he's back to how he acted before. Everytime I talk to him, he acts put out to talk to me. He's short and snappy and has the worst attitude. If I ask what's wrong, he says I'm irritating him, it doesn't matter if I call him one time, 5 times or not at all he still acts this way. Then...maybe and hour later he acts like everything is fine and acts pissed if I act mad. He never wants to kiss or hug me, but never passes up the opportunity to have sex. He hardly tells me he loves me anymore. If i say I love you to him, he says it back in a mumble. I'm not saying that sometimes I can't be annoying but he's like this all the time. I've told him I would leave if he wants me to, but he always says no. Am I being used or what? Please...no smart *** answers, I'm being serious!
2006-12-14 07:09:12 · 15 answers · asked by ParisLynn16 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Keep in mind, I do the cleaning, the cooking, the laundry, the dishes, and all the grocery shopping. He always asks if I want to go places w/ him, and I don't always go because I feel like he's asking me because he feels obligated and sometimes I don't wanna do the things he does, then he gets mad if I don't go. BUT....if I ask him to go somewhere w/ me it's like pulling teeth so i always end up going places by myself.
2006-12-14 07:12:38 · update #1
I don't think he's cheating! I thought that before and caught him talking to other girls. So I just quit snooping! There's no telling! I could be VERY naive!
2006-12-14 07:14:45 · update #2
I don't think he's confused. I think you are.
Obviously, this guy is not very into you. He's getting everything - you cook, clean, shop, put out. What does he do for you?
If he really loved you, cared for you or even enjoyed your company he would talk to you, joke around, want to go to places with you even if it wasn't his first choice of activity.
But obviously he doesn't.
I suggest you get rid of this parasite and find someone who appreciates you and will share the chores and to-dos. There are hot looking, nice acting, intelligent guys out there. You deserve one of those kinds of guys.
2006-12-14 07:18:00 · answer #1 · answered by krinkn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you should ask him why he is acting so wrong. im sure that there is alot that you love about him but it sounds like you could do way better. dont let him abuse you. not physically or emotionally. every good girl deserves a good man. and from what you say it doesnt sound like he is so good. so my advice would be to evluate your situation and if you do that you will find the real answer because no one can tell you what to do with your life after all you are the one who has to live it everyday day after day. so good luck and i hope you make the best decision for you.
2006-12-14 07:25:40 · answer #2 · answered by hello motherhood!!! 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He could have the mentality of an Ivy League student. artwork your butt off to get in, then goof off and waste each and every thing you have worked for. Are you his first female chum? i understand that I felt apprehensive and uncertain with my first female chum and that i did no longer somewhat understand what to do. i found out that once I went with my impulses, i replaced right into a solid boyfriend, yet while i presumed too plenty approximately how I could act round her, I got here off as chilly. refer to him approximately it. communique is top in a solid dating.
2016-12-30 10:06:42 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same situation.. except i am him... my husband tries to kiss me and hug me and love me all the time, and i don't want to anymore... we have been married for a year now... and it's the same thing.. i don't even like to have sex. when he says I love you, i kinda mumble it to... hun.. the reason i am like this is because i don't think that i am in love with him... i don't feel attraction anymore... your boyfriend might be feeling the same way.. sorry that i had to say all that.
2006-12-14 07:14:15 · answer #4 · answered by ashjmy5 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon, l think he is using you. You are doing all the household chores so he can just sit on his happy *** and do fun things.
I would give him an ultimatum, that if he really loves you, he needs to show it to you or you are leaving him.
Good luck with that
2006-12-14 07:25:06 · answer #5 · answered by amarilysusa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your bf is maybe bipolar, depressed, or using you.
I know it is hard to break free when you have built a life together.
You need to tell him to get help with his issues or you need to leave and find someone who loves you and isn't afraid to kiss you or say I love you
2006-12-14 07:14:49 · answer #6 · answered by Michael J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been there with my partner and we got through it. he was bored of every day life and needed a change, but he was not as bad as your man, i cant help but think maybe the mood swings are down to drugs, does he take them, if he keeps on like this you need to leave to frighten him in to changing cause you cant life your life like this its not fair. if you wanna chat email me i have been there its horrible
2006-12-14 07:21:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi im jeany have you tried seriously talking to him or maybe some type of counseling. maybe he just needs time to cool off becasue he just might have realized that you might be the one he spends his life with and its making him a little nervouse. or maybe he just doesnt want to be with you and you just might have to really look at your relationship and make sure he really meets your requirements and his ready to move on!!i hope i was some kind of help to good luck
2006-12-14 07:37:21 · answer #8 · answered by The wife R kitty 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he is using you. a man in love acts very differently from this.
2006-12-14 07:48:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him. He's not going to get nicer as long as your there. He just doesn't appreciate you. Find someone who will.
2006-12-14 07:34:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋