sex but we are both finding it extremely difficult does anyone know what we should do?
2006-12-14 07:08:39 · 23 answers · asked by Chrissie B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why don't you invest in a good friend that could be with you both to act as a chaperone? On the evenings that a chaperone is out of the question then make sure that wherever you both go is always in public. You could arrange a group of friends go out together as another way of avoiding being alone too long. Don't go watching films that will evoke sexual feelings as that's just dating danger..The human desire for intimate contact is just too great for two people to expect to be able to control what at the end of the day are God given feelings. Feelings that were intended to be shared within God’s arrangement of marriage....So in order to avoid ruining the relationship you are trying to build with your God I'd work hard at keeping this relationship with your male friend as wholesome as possible.
You could try every trick in the book...but if you both continue to be alone whenever you are both together, then you are pushing your sexual desires for each other to the limit. You will end up doing what your conscience tells you...you shouldn't be. Yes! Everyone here is right, sex is great but what you have to remember is...is it going to be as great as the guilt & perhaps the blame that each of you will experience afterwards? You could break the trust you are trying to build with not just your God but with your male friend & maybe worst of all with yourself.
The choice is yours......
2006-12-14 08:13:44 · answer #1 · answered by Funky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're feeling the urge to have sex, then you need to stop what your doing and step back from the situation. Then find something else to do. Mini-golf, bowling, ride bikes, or just read the bible or something. If after trying other things like that, and you still have a nearly uncontrollable urge to have sex. Then really pray about the situation and see if it's God's will for you two to get married. If so, then just get married, and you can go at each other like monkeys. If however you don't feel the peace of God about getting married, then maybe your relationship is purely physical, and you don't need to be in a relationship where there's no true feelings for each other.
You never want to be a slave to your feelings, urges, and emotions. Just ask God to give you the strength to resist temptation. Because satan will do anything to get you to stumble. ANYTHING.
2006-12-14 07:18:48 · answer #2 · answered by Labyrinth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well ive heard two sides. One person said that you are meant to only have sex with one person, it is only a sin when you have sex with more than one person. Ive also heard this same argument by saying that when you have sex with someone its like being married to them. your connected to them. but ive also heard (like 98% of christians say this) that you should only have sex after marriage. God created marriage and it is a sacred thing, and sex is only meant to be enjoyed after your married. It is something that YOU need to work out on your own, pray about it. read the bible, there are online things you can use to look up lots of scriptures about sex and you can determine things for yourself. dont let what other people tell you make up your mind.
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2016-04-14 10:48:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get married. dont delibaretely sin if you truly believe in Gods word. he doesnt have laws and rules to stop people from having fun, but gives us advice and things we need to know to live a good life one he iwll bless. my advice is seek god, he will give you (and ur partner) patience. and no i disagree with what some other ppl commented, christians DONT have sex before marriage. it clearly says it in the bible about it so why should there be any different?
2006-12-14 13:28:26 · answer #4 · answered by WomanSoHeartless 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him about it and be calm and rational, dont make any decisions too quickly. personally i dont think its wrong, but that doesnt matter cos its your decision! so you just need to decide whats best for you! if you really think that its wrong, dont do it because youll feel bad. but if you dont think its wrong and youre just obeying christianity, maybe you should think about it a bit more. christianity is so diverse, some parts of it dont discourage sex before marriage. just do what you and your bf think is right. hope that helps
2006-12-14 07:15:49 · answer #5 · answered by john9999999 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have sex. It's fun and really not that naughty.
I don't believe in ignoring normal, human urges if its something thats going to make you both happy.
Life's too short pal.
2006-12-14 07:12:25 · answer #6 · answered by PanGalactic 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You folks really do believe in making life difficult......and it's difficult enough as it is!
3 choices:
Have sex
Split up
Get married
I know which one I'd go for. (That would be have sex - thought I'd just make that clear!)
2006-12-14 07:15:02 · answer #7 · answered by mcfifi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chrissie make love that is what christians do .It wont harm your beliefs let nature take its course enjoy the experience . With best wishes .
2006-12-14 07:14:21 · answer #8 · answered by not a mused 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how deep your faith is. If you feel in your heart that God is telling you that you are not to do it, then ask him to help you deal with it! The bible tells us that if we ask God anything in the name of Jesus, that he will then give us the answer. So trust him to help you with this! Perhaps you could try praying earnestly together about this whenever you feel its difficult. Or as one person has said.. get married.. and fast!!!
2006-12-14 12:48:19 · answer #9 · answered by Bobbie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't allow yourselves to be in a situation where you may be tempted. But at least you know you are attracted to each other.
2006-12-14 07:14:31 · answer #10 · answered by ♦ Phoenix Rising♦ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋