My boyfriend has been struggling to find a job for the past 2months almost, and his old boss and his wife have just started a women's shoe business. The shoe business is in the middle of a women's hair salon, and a Nail Salon. I am actually very uncomfortable that he will always have female customers and he will always be surrounded by women. I feel like some girl is going to start liking him and throw herself at him....even if he did not provoke it...how do i calm my nerves?
2006-12-14 07:07:05 · 8 answers · asked by unknown2285 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
HEY! i have had similiar feelings although not exactly as yours. Basically what i learned from experience is that you need to TRUST your boyfriend. YOu trust him right? Next , you need to calm your jealousy nerves. Its natural, of course but place yourself in his shoes ....he needs a job , he has been looking forever and finally found one. Instead of making it a uncomfortable situation......congragulate him and tease him about how all these girls are going to be all googly over him because he is so hot. Not only will this make him happy that your happy, but he will love you for understanding. You have to put yourself in this situation to learn to control your feelings, after all things like this will happen sometime again in the future and if you trust him enough and if you have learned ..then it will be easier to deal with it. Plus, this might happen to you in the future and although you might not want to work in certain areas, you would want your boyfriend to be supportive right?
Plus, if anything happens with your boyfriend and these girl customers, you know he isnt the one for you. !
Just be happy he has a job and will be there to buy your movie ticket next time around! :)
2006-12-14 07:19:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The best advice I can think of for this situation -- which happens to be true for most relationship issues -- is to TALK to your boyfiend about how you're feeling.
If you're secure in your relationship you should understand that even a woman throwing herself at your boyfiend will not be enough to woo him away from you. If you cannot be comfortable with that thought then perhaps there is some larger issue in your relationship.
Since he is having trouble finding work you should, by all means, support him with his new employment. Talk to him about his days at the store, ask about his coworkers and customers, but always be upfront about your concerns and don't stalk him while he is trying to make a living.
Men and women constantly find themselves in the company of the other sex through professional relationships. If we all contantly worried about our spouses or significant others being inticed during the course of business then we'd have to revert to segregated professions and lose all the progress that has been made against sexism.
Be confident! He's your boyfriend and he is as dedicated to the relationship as you are. Let yourself trust him and, above all, TALK TALK TALK!
2006-12-14 07:19:38 · answer #2 · answered by JoeH 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he can't settle for you the way you're honey, tell him to suck it. He might want to love you for who you're and in no way decide you by what you position on. in case you've tried explaining to him why you do not favor to (or can't) purchase an complete new cloth wardrobe, he must be able to settle for that. i do not comprehend how you submit with it, yet I provide you props for having the middle to stay with him if he will argue over something so trivial. on the different hand, he ought to have a level. If he's purely undesirable at talking that he thinks you want some "you" concentration (and he will be figuring out on up slutty clothing because he's a nasty stylist), attempt wearing skirts from time to time or replacing up your makeup recurring. universal, purely be certain to are chuffed and do not do something you're not to any extent further mushy with ;)
2016-11-26 19:28:45 · answer #3 · answered by fette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't trust the guy, then you should break it off. If you do trust him, then it shouldn't be a big deal that he works there. Notice how everyone else is saying the exact same thing? You can calm your nerves by catching yourself when you feel jealous and replace that thought with a positive one. There are two wolves inside us, a happy and content wolf, and a jealous and mean wolf. The one that wins out is the one you feed.
2006-12-14 07:10:36 · answer #4 · answered by slap_shot69 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, sweetheart he doesn't have to be at work for him to strike up a conversation with another woman. You have to be confident that he has enough sense to not give up what he has with you. From my experience, men don't usually find this out until its too late....but that's another story! But seriously, you can't feel uncomfortable about him working there...because if that's the case you should feel uncomfortable about him leaving the house period. Women are everywhere....mall, grocery stores, gas stations, bars, etc. If he shows you that he really cares about you, then you should not feel threatened.
2006-12-14 07:13:27 · answer #5 · answered by angie20k 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell him that if he decides to stay at home for you you will go out and work for him till he's 80 years old
2006-12-14 08:00:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
do you trust him? does he love you & treat you right? then don't blow it w/the crazy, jealous girlfriend routine. it takes two to tango. if he's not with it, it won't happen.
2006-12-14 07:43:28 · answer #7 · answered by L. 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
watch an eppisode of maried with children....AL BUNDY...you will feel more comfortable.....
2006-12-14 07:09:09 · answer #8 · answered by jeffmarcelluspbl 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋